Girls do you sometimes purposefully ignore the guy you like?

[thecubeman100]

Like this girl one day will flirt with me a lot and give me a lot of attention and then the next will ignore me. It's annoying. So if she ignores me then of course I kind of ignore her, and then I get kinda sad haha.

So do some girls do this? And why would you?

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Good question! :) There are many different scenarios that may fit to your situation.

1- She is not taking you that seriously - she is flirtatious with other guys as well. A lot of girls are flirty, sweet and all but aren't serious about the guy they are flirting with. If the guy is serious, he gets hurt because he sets high hopes.

2- She is shy - She wants you to initiate everything because she is a shy girl. Such girls have no clue to what to say/do and they want guys to strike the conversation. So, whenever you wait for her to start anything she lets you down. She likes you but is shy.

3- She is insecure - She thinks that if she talks to you everyday, jokes around and the like that you will put her in the friendzone. She is afraid you will assume that she is clingy and thus she thinks keeping a little bit of distance works magic because you will miss her.

4- She is playing games - She thinks by playing hard to get every once in a while that you will want her more. By blowing hot and cold, you will run after her and crave her.

Follow your guts and choose whichever you think suits her best. :)

[thecubeman100]

hey thanks a lot! I think for me it's either number one or 4. She is flirty with other guys as well, but I feel that she could be playing hard to get. Like we tease each other a lot and are kinda tough on each other, like we don't give in to each other, if that makes sense. Anyway thanks again! :)

[Opinion Owner]

It can sure be a combination of one and 4. Glad I could help. :)

[thecubeman100]

Me too :)

[LossofWords]

What happens if you ask a shy girl out? Would she turn you down? How should a guy take it if she turns him down just because she was to shy to say yes?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, a shy/insecure girl can turn a guy down even though she likes him and wants to be with him. Well, the biggest mistake people do is to turn their back on them. If I were a guy, I would give her space but keep an eye contact and keep smiling from afar. If I felt that she likes me, I'll show her via actions that I like her i.e. help her to carry her stuff, etc...eventually she will say yes. :)

[j2016]

Some may call it 'a mistake', but when she chooses to start playing games, I say turn your back on her and never look back, and go date her mom on top of it, make it sting...

[uluvshrainey]

I do that too. There are a bunch of reasons girls do this and I think the anonymous girl covered all 4 reasons pretty well. But I personally do it because after flirting up a storm with him the first day I remember it afterward how I acted and think "O-M-G I made it so freakin obvious that I like him...I look desperate etc" So the next day to make up for it, I ignore him completely because I'm a little embarrassed about the way I acted before. It's a really stupid cycle, but when you're chatting up with a guy you really like sometimes you lose sense of yourself and flirt more than you intended to.

[j2016]

Who exactly are you girls trying to convince that you're 'not desperate', 'not easy to get', or that you can't return a call because you're 'busy'? It's not the guys, most of us know when you like us and know when you're just pretending to have a life and are pretending like you don't like us.

[takesanocean]

Nope. If I like a guy, I want to be around him as much as possible (even if I am too shy to say anything, I just want to be around that person at the very least), NOT ignore him. The only time I would do so would be in the case that he did something to hurt me or I am trying to get over him and so being around him would be a constant reminder that I would want to avoid. It wouldn't be back and forth one day and the next though.

But in the case of your situation, I think she's just playing teasing games with you, seeing how much you like her by playing cat and mouse.

[Yeahhbro]

been there done that. Usully these women play games and are somewhat manipulative, and too insecure (not secure enought to make proper decisions and that will bite your ass later on). I would stay away from her if I was you. Women like that are not worth it, I mean think about it. When both of you are in a relationship are you going to put up with that sh*t? I mean if it happens now, it will happen again in the future, I don't recommend women like that.

[thecubeman100]

thanks I will keep that in mind

[Yeahhbro]

plus also think about it, how can you separate somebody who is playing games from somebody who doesn't like you? Its almost impossible, just chill with somebody who you have funw with and doesn't make your life difficult braaa...there are too many tricks out there.

[MaxwellSmart]

I just asked a similar questions, beats me. Its like this: we have a great time one day, then the next she ignores me and the thing is that she talks normally with everybody else and it is annoying, like she is annoyed just at me.

[thecubeman100]

I know exactly what you mean! It's so frustrating and confusing!

[Tigerbaby994]

If I ignore a guy it's either because I don't like him at all or at that time. But if I am ignoring I DO NOT like him. I might love him, but I don't like him.

[Paullus]

I might love him but I don't like him... wow you are a complicated little thing aren't you

[Tigerbaby994]

oh come on, every gets on your nerves everyone once in awhile. I'm talking about that moment when you're frustrated with someone you love and they won't stop bugging you and you're just like, "I don't like you right now!" then you go cool off and then make up later XD I'd be a liar if I said that never happened once in a blue moon. Usually if I'm angry at someone I don't talk to them.

[Blackhairedbaroness]

I do it! I am usually a very outgoing person everyday but when it comes to a guy I like.. I simply clam up. Tongue-tied you can say.

[Anonymous]

I do it unfortunately. It's just shyness and insecurity ... If I have a great time with him one day I might avoid him the next in fear I will screw up. The other reason is I act disinterested to see if he comes after me.

[LossofWords]

But you secretly want him to come after you?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes! Absolutely.

[PoeticNinja]

Yes, I don't want to like him more than I do now.

[manager0731]

Hmmm, interesting idea...

[PoeticNinja]

Oh sh*t..