When do you ask do you want to be my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Ok ladies I have been with this chick for probably a month we have been on 2 dates which have all been good and my question is when do I ask her do you want to be my gf? I am a very big player I hook up with girls when I want and now I have found a girl that I actually like and for a player that is a big step so how many dates does it take before I ask her to be my gf?

[nicolerae08]

I went on two or three with my guy before he asked me out. We talked for about a month two and he asked me out. Is she kind of a player too? Or just a really great girl you happened to start talking to? Either way talk to her and bring it up. If you guys talk like you should then you should know enough about her recent dating history or whatev to know if she would be interested in dating someone. Just ask her how she feels about being in a relationship. If she says she doesn't really care if she's in one don't take it as rejection. Just be like oh yeah I feel the same way, I've been single for a while though so it would be nice to date someone though. Or something like that. That's how me and my guy were at first we didn't really want commitment. Then a couple weeks later it came up in conversation again and we became official. Its not a big deal so don't sweat it. Just be casual and it will be fine. :]

[skegz]

Thank you too.. I've been waiting for an answer like this for a long time hehe

[skycrashes]

I'd suggest feeling her out a little on your next date (feeling her out, not up, this is a very important distinction). Haha, kidding. Mostly. Anyway, examine the reasons you want her to be your girl. Is it that you're not that interested in seeing other girls? Is it that you're not that interested in her seeing other guys? Do you just want to have a secure way to get to know her better? After that, talk to her a little about it the next time you see her. Does she want to see other people? Does she want to continue to see you? Is she in a position to enter into a relationship? If the answers to all those questions lead you to feel like you still want her to be your girl, then I'd ask her on the date following the one where you find some of this stuff out. Don't rush into it though. You could wait a couple more after that if you want. Go with what feels right.

[Asker]

Well my problem is I have so many options like if I want just sex I can call a girl up and there you go. I'm not just trying to sleep with her, I do like spending time with her. She's the opposite of me she's an angel and I am pretty much the devil. I get the whole when your ready to ask her but what if I wait to long and she finds another dude happened to me before not even a month before I met this girl.

[kirstyp]

Number one: ask yourself would you give up every girl for this one?

If not your not ready

[Asker]

I would, but I don't want to scare her off or anything, so what do you think after the 3rd,4th,5th what number?

[kirstyp]

Then take her out for a date and BE NICE!

Just remember and TRY not to hurt her feelings.

[Asker]

I've been on 2 dates already why would I want to hurt her feelings I want this chick to be my girlfriend not break up with her.

[kirstyp]

Guys hurt girls feeling without knowing it belive me

[Asker]

I would think if anyone was going to get their feelings hurt it would be me, if I ask her to be my girlfriend and she says no, but don't worry I am a guy and I can get over it really quick, and then I'll just find another girl and well the process repeats itself.

[kirstyp]

But you wouldn't find another girl because you love her soooo much rite...or am I wrong?

[Asker]

I never said I loved just that I like her, and if she says no then yeah I'll move on find myself another girl why would I stick around? I don't want her to say no.

[skegz]

This question askin is unbelievable... like who do you think you are? what is rong with u???

[metaldave20]

just do it, lifes too short to not "just do it" ya know?, the only thing you have to lose is your ego, and she's obviously into u, so I doubt thatd happen

just do it, man, and good luck

[throwingabfnow]

Id wait for about 6 dates and then id ask her duing a really romantic time :D

[PricelessPearl]

I would like to see how things went. :)

[ap1100]

Ask her when you want.