Why are only loser guys hitting on me?

[Anonymous]

So I've been told I'm quite attractive, I do get looks from all kinds of guys, but usually the only ones to make it obvious they're interested/try to be near me/hit on me etc are kinda creepy and losers (not to insult them but that's just who they are). While normal guys I would be interested in aren't hitting on me. Is there a reason certain weird guys will hit on a girl while others don't?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

you're probably not sending the right signals to the guys you are interested in. you can't control what guys are going to hit on you, but you make yourself more approachable to the guys you want, and seem more unapproachable to guys you dont. the creepy losers hit on any girl and don't really care if you give them the green light. the guys you do want need you to show them interest. flirt, smile, eye contact and let them know you like them.

either that or people are lying when they tell you your attractive.

[Asker]

nah you're right... I do try avoid eye contact/smiling etc with my crushes cause I'm afraid they'll read my mind lol

[moviedude714]

how are those guys losers, creepers? what specifically makes them a loser, creeper? girls, women say they want a "Man", and those guys that hit on you are being a Man, growing a pair, because you girls expect guys to initiate, go after what they want, so it pisses me off how you girls label, call guys creepers, losers for approaching, hitting on you but yet you never approach, hit on guys yourself, so it is hypocritical

[Asker]

creepers and losers are the stalker type or those who you give an unwelcome/weird vibe.

[moviedude714]

what is an unwelcome, weird vibe?

[Asker]

i'd have to be in person to show you

trust me, guys need to be more sympathetic to us girls, we get some REEEAAAL creeps.

[moviedude714]

i hate how you girls have to be so damn paranoid, it pisses me off

[Asker]

Just because girls don't like you doesn't mean you have to get so offended and generalize about them. Believe it or not we have plenty of reasons to be paranoid, until you are gawked at and disturbed on a regular basis by perverted creepy men, you can't really comment on this. also look at statistics, how many females vs males are raped? We have all reason to be paranoid.

[moviedude714]

well men will never get turned off, creeped out by a perverted woman, getting gawked at

[moviedude714]

sorry, not trying to argue but a lot of guys who are creepy never meant any harm, they never knew they were creepy

[Asker]

I understand, I'm starting to understand more haha. I just get angry when I get labeled as a bitch or whatever else just because I am not interested... it's like come on, I go out of my way to be polite, don't be rude (in general, not you ha).

[moviedude714]

i just hate how girls expect, want guys to be masculine

[Anonymous]

When I hear a girl say that a guy is weird and creepy, I hear "I'm not attracted to him." That's how it usually is. I doubt they could be actually classified as creepy. If the guys you are physically attracted to aren't coming up to you, you could actually do something about it instead of only wanting them to do something. And you're in luck., guys aren't quick to label girls as creepy when they do that.

[Asker]

Well some of them are creepy while others are unattractive but still come across as creepy cause staring is creepy.

[Anonymous]

two things will make a guy come up too you confidence and desperation, the desperate ones tend to be well losers. it is something you just gotta deal with, god I would love for more girls to approach me been told I'm attractive too yet only girls I would lets say consider friends actually do.

[shyguy89]

it depends do you have it going on like indepedence or are you in the same catigorie as these guys?

[Asker]

I am an independent cold bitch. (I come across as, in reality I'm really nice and shy)

[shyguy89]

there must be a lot of lazy guys in your area.lol

[Asker]

lol probably... what do you mean by lazy haha

[shyguy89]

have you ever heard of misery loves company.. that's what's happening with you I wouldn't worry when your time comes he will too

[DocClassic]

everyone gets told they are attractive...its not really socially acceptable to do otherwise

[Moloch]

Agree.

[Asker]

dont be jealous of my beauty

[DocClassic]

lmao

[Caustic_Fox]

maybe you aren't as good looking as you think, and you're really just attracting guys that are on your level

[Asker]

No, guys I like/am interested in do find me attractive but they don't do anything about it. While creepos and guys I'm not interested in hit on me or purposely make it obvious they're into me.

[what_the_hell]

shut up