Do black and white men have different taste in women, in general? Are white men just not attracted to me?

[zoe1986]

I'm of the caucasian race (people do not consider me "white", though)...And I've noticed only black men will pay men any attention, and/or approach me. Once in a great while a caucasian man will show interest.

I'm sorry if this sounds, racist, and I don't mean to come across that way. I have no problem with black men, but I'm looking for a relationship with someone of my same race because that's just what I'm physically attracted to for some reason.

Like yesterday...I was going to look for coffee around my university, and a nice man from Zambia came up to me, and we walked together to get some...we had good conversation, and he was nice...and he asked for my #...I gave it to him...he already texted and called me...after less than one day! I just don't want to lead him on...so I will make it clear that I only want friendship. Black men will say hi to me...and are nice..

On the other hand...I have never ever been approached by a white man...and I'm almost 28. So, I'm approaching men, like this guy in my class. This is just ONE example. I go out of my way to talk to him...I'm nice..smile a lot...say hi...etc, etc. I've been going on like this for about a month...and nothing...although he does start conversation with me, where he didn't before. It's like...when I say anything to him...he gets this weird look on his face...not sure if it's like an "annoyed face", or an "I'm going to die" face. I just feel so undesirable when I talk to these guys because it's almost as though I'm forcing myself on them. But I'm really not overbearing...or anything over the top...just my normal self.

I know I have a "larger" butt...which a lot of black men like (but I'm still in shape...I work out a lot). I have small breasts...which I guess white men pay more attention to...so maybe that's why they are not interested in me? Should I just forget white guys at

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And sorry, I don't mean to generalize, but this is my personal experience.


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[Alpha82]

In general, white guys and black guys tend to have different taste in women as I'm sure you realize already. Black guys tend to be more into the curvy, "ghetto booty" girls. White guys are more into the slenderish, model type look. These are just generalizations of course. I looked at your pictures and you're alright. There will be white guys out there that think you're attractive and like your body shape. Remember to actually educate yourself about men and what they like personality wise if you haven't done so already (how to carry yourself, what they want to feel around you, how to talk to them, etc.). Don't apply what attracts you as a woman to what you think guys will like too. People tend to make that mistake in the dating world. Looks definitely do the initial attracting and make guys want to sleep with you. But your personality and who you are is what will keep a guy around. That tends to be the difficulty a lot of women have once they find a guy they want to settle down with.

[zoe1986]

Thanks...good advice...maybe I'll get lipo

[Alpha82]

LOL What?

[zoe1986]

You said "white guys are more into the slenderish, model type look" and that I'm alright (which in girl talk is not a good thing)...so if something is broke...fix it, right? I'm not getting younger...

[sephora]

alpha82 wasn't implying you are fat at all! lol

his "you;re alright" maybe means you are not his type?

[zoe1986]

Yeah...I guess it was just a nicer way of saying I'm not his type...

[Alpha82]

LOL. What is this a dating website

[zoe1986]

Sorry...

[Anonymous]

What you have to understand is that a lot of white guys like my self are very stubborn and we expect women to approach us. White men seem to think that they have to do all the hard work to make a relationship work while women do almost nothing. White men are sick and tired of doing everything you women want us to do. Look at the movie The Ugly Truth. That explains why a lot of relationships between white couples fail. I've noticed that one of my white friends didn't want to approach a girl that was checking him out because he didn't feel confident,he said if he was in his car then he would have talked to the girl. A lot of white guys have a stereotype in their heads about white women which is that they are spoiled and don't appreciate the simple things in life and want to emasculate white men.

[zoe1986]

Thanks, dude...I'm going to check that movie out! Sounds helpful...maybe yeah..it is the times...my dad approached my mom...my grandfather approached my grandmother...my great-grandmother had tons of men flocking to her (she was sort of a whore, from what I hear...rest her soul)...I thought men liked to do the hunting...

[Opinion Owner]

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[Anonymous]

maybe its the way you dress?

you're too fashionable.

idk where you live but I live off the coast of california and the white guys here dress really casual. and I mean really casual. they're like dressed down pretty much. I go to school and I see them in shorts and sandals. I guess they only dress up when they go out. not that there's anything wrong with that.

but I'm assuming they would approach a girl who dresses casual on an everyday basis and only dresses up for special occasions as well?

you're very pretty so maybe you intimidate them as well? I hear white guys aren't very confident so maybe they want the girls to approach them? talk to more white guys. just because one acts a certain way, doesn't mean they will all act that way. maybe some have liked you but were too shy to talk to you.

i don't know. but don't worry. I'm sure you'll meet someone. :D

[Anonymous]

You look "white" to me ... Are you American or foreign born? I've noticed that a lot of white guys don't tend to date foreign born girls, but a lot of the guys would date American girls...but no idea why. Guys don't tend to like complication and take the easiest path available, in many cases.

Also, what kind of "white guys" do you like? I could easily see you on the arm of a so-called hipster type, but if you like jocks or something, it may just be your personality type doesn't click.

[zoe1986]

Yes...American born and raised..so was my mom, and both her parents...my dad is foreign born. I like the hipsters...it just turns out that most of the ones I've met are gay...but it they are bi...I wouldn't care.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm... this just sounds like a case of luck, to me. Maybe you're throwing too many of your best flirting away on gay boys! ;) It's also possible that you picked up some mannerisms that are out of place to Americans (I dated a guy from South America, and some of his were different), but I wouldn't "necessarily" bank on that. Have you tried online dating? It's pretty sweet for people who are 25-35. I met my current boyfriend on Match. Tons of intelligent people on there.

[zoe1986]

Lol...yes...I tried online dating...met with 3 guys...they were all psychos...did not seem that way online, though. One I had to get a restraining order against...one treated me like dirt (called me really bad names), and the other was very very creepy...and let me know how "horny" he was...needless to say...they were all only one day encounters (I don't consider these dates...more like interviews)...I'll never try it again...but I haven't tried Match...I'll do that. Thanks! Good luck to you!

[sephora]

soo if you are caucasian, why don't people consider you white?

[G-Daz]

no one has any idea what white is now in the US. I am surprised they don't say "im not white, I'm irish"

[sephora]

i kno right! it just doesn't make sense for a caucasion person not to be considered white. -_-

[zoe1986]

Well...because I'm Lebanese mostly, I'm considered to be caucasian (at least in the United States, as of now)...but ethnicity wise...I guess that I'm considered "arab"? That's what other people call me...I'm not really big on labels...but I'm not sure a Scandinavian person, for example...would consider a Lebanese person "white"...they look so different generally. (But I do have a bit of French genes...which I think showed up a bit in my phenotype)?

[zoe1986]

And, I think in the US...at least where I'm from...an Irish person is def considered "white"...In fact, I'm not sure where you wouldn't be considered "white"...

[sephora]

as a lebanese person you wouldn't be considered caucasian, that's like saying an egyptian person is caucasian. -_-

[zoe1986]

For race, yes, middle eastern people are considered caucasian in the united states

[sephora]

I guess you learn something new everyday lol.

[zoe1986]

Well...I only know this because of the last census...but the whole classification system is a bit weird to me...there are overlaps I think...it's not black and white...(no pun intended...sry...I'm a dork..lol...)

[MrOracle]

While I can definitely see traces of the Lebonese, you're plenty "white" for the US. And you're plenty attractive; nothing I can see body-wise or face-wise would be a problem for guys.

Now, I haven't spent a lot of time in Chicago, so this next observation may reflect some California bias, but one thing that strikes me is that you tend to wear fancier clothes; designer/fashion-looking clothes, rather that "jeans and T-shirt" or something a little more casual. If you were in California, I'd tell you that your clothes may be causing some guys to be intimidated; they'd worry that they aren't sophisticated or successful or financially well-off enough to interest you, so they don't bother to try. For a lot of guys, that look makes you look less approachable. Again, that may be somewhat out-of-context for Chicago, but it's something to consider anyway.

[G-Daz]

Its based more on culture and environmental influence for the most part. It depends on where the guy grew up and what influenced him. These factors are what generally creates a guys preference... it could be argued that its genetic... but that's largely far from ti actually, most guys will follow the trends of what's expected but based on this I would say most white guys are stereotyped to like thinner while black guys like thicker. I actually prefer it thick

[zoe1986]

Yeah...that makes sense...I do have a "thicker" build...I suppose. A lot of the really thin "white" girls I know are in relationships with Asian men...I think I may be destined to marry a black guy, then...lol...

[G-Daz]

well if that's what you want you should pursue it

[Camilus]

You don't have to mention that you are a white female, we already knew you were a white female because you apologized 4 times just for asking a simple question about race.

I have noticed that, personally, my tastes in white women differ hugely compared to what black dudes like but they are about the same when it comes to Hispanic women. Why? ...zero clue. (Asian women = not enough empirical data to compute)

[zoe1986]

No...I'm not white...but I'm caucasian...I guess...that's what people say...I don't know...it doesn't matter...thanks for your reply...so you like Hispanic women about the same as white women? They both seem to have similar physical features...face wise and body...plus...there are so many different types of Hispanic women...a lot of them look white...(or have a high amount of white dna)

[Camilus]

I must have missed where you are from, but it obviously isn't in a heavily Hispanic area. I grew up in S. Florida and I definitely notice a difference between the looks and body type of white and Hispanic women ...big difference, usually.

Also, you are whiter than my natural tone ...actually way whiter at the moment because I've been living on a beach for the past week... and I am considered white. If you don't consider yourself white then what are you?

[zoe1986]

People call me arab, cause I'm Lebanese...mostly

[HeroOfVillains]

I don't know you look pretty to me. But I am not white. I am mix of Mediterranean with Caribbean. I would bet it has more to do with the white guys confidence and lack of assertiveness, over anything else.

[zoe1986]

Thanks...isn't Mediterranean "white", though?

[HeroOfVillains]

Ye but with a more olive/tanned tint to it

[Anonymous]

Why do white guys always lose out to black and Hispanic guys these days? I am not being racist but its like any "average" girls I know always want to go for the blacks or spanish. White guys must have lost their appeal, and if they actually want a white guy, he has to be top 5%. It's a joke now. Everything is all looks and no personality.

[zoe1986]

For me, it's not about looks...I'm physically attracted to white men, hands down. But imo personality is more important...many black and Hispanic men know how to make a woman feel desirable, instead of non-existent. It's not hard...all a guy has to do is be respectable and talk to me...then I talk back

[Opinion Owner]

Not being racist or anything here.. but I have several black male friends and one Puerto Rican friend. They all know they are desirable to women and they use it to their advantage. They say the right things to make it happen and make it happen. White people do the same of course, but to my friends it's all a game.

[darkknight1x]

The media plays a big role in the kinds of guys women go for. The media has increased their bashing and humiliation of white men in movies,tv shows and commercials. Like for example look at the movie Terminator 3. Arnold said that he was an obsolete machine whereas the white woman wasn't.

[Opinion Owner]

Agreed completely.

[zoe1986]

Yeah...the media has a big influence on some people...def not me, though. I don't even like muscles...It's just that when I talk to a white guy...them seem afraid of me...it makes me feel like a monster or something like that...like one had to put his head down before he could say a word to me...it was so weird...other situations like that when I talk to white guys...but not with guys of another race.

[emptypackofsmokes]

I'm white & I think that you're pretty. I just watched one of your YouTube links. You just haven't met the right guy yet. Chin up babe :)

[zoe1986]

Ok..thanks...well...I'm 28...hopefully it happens soon...younger women are more desirable...and I'm running out of time.

[Justababy]

I would date you