My old boyfriend was like you in a way. He was a great boyfriend, don't get me wrong, he was just much more into the relationship than I was. He was the 'lovey dovey' type, and I'm not. And sorry, I never will be. I'm a tomboy at heart, I don't like one person taking up all my time and I don't think I need to prove that I like a guy everyday by saying something cute/spending a ton of time with him. That may sound cold, but I mean I do like saying cute things sometimes, and I do like spending time with a guy, just not ALL the time.
Anywho, my boyfriend got angry at me, he felt that I didn't care about him because I wasn't the lovey dovey type. I got angry at him, because I felt like I was showing him I cared but obviously not enough. We broke up. Moral of the story: things may work out at first since you care about her so much, but eventually what I think will happen is that you realize how frustrated you are. You will realize that you want more of that 'lovey dovey' stuff and that she can't offer it. Which will frustrate both of you.
I'm not saying you should give up on the relationship, if you care about her that much then try to work it out. Just know that you can't fix it when people want different things in the relationship. Best of luck!
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I would say the same thing it sounds like you are fishing for compliments. However I don't like the sound of this girl. "She hits" Seriously no on has a right to put hands on anyone else and if she doesn't know how to control her emotions she shouldn't be dating anyone. Also Everyone is the lovey dovey type when they want to be it may be hard for some more than others but no one is stone cold. And another thing you have been dating her for 10 days and you have deep feelings for her..what the hell? dude that's way too fast. Slow down man. Unless you are dying of something terminal, you need to put the brakes on it. This girl sounds like bad news already just from your limited description. She hasn't told anyone about you even though she says she misses you, SHE HITS!, she doesn't know how to appreciate a guy, SMH (shaking my head) Pleas I implore you, walk away from this one. I don't care how banging her body is, or how much she hits the spot in been. Do it before she gets preggo and you are stuck with her for 18 awful years.
if you like more affectionate girls you should probably be with one of them. there's a couple of things I see here, one is that it does seem like you're fishing for affection. I probably would've responded with "like what" like she did. that said, she doesn't seem like the kind of girl you'd wanna stick around for. I understand how hard it is to express affection because I'm like that, but if she does that for her guy friends and not you there's a problem.
I'm a lot like you. I usually date these types and am now. It's tough. Mostly because you're not completely sure were you stand with the person. You will be asking yourself does she really like me? Is she just being nice? Is she just guarded in her feelings? All of the above? You will ask these a lot. It's beginning to stress me out in my personal situation. I like to know, otherwise I just feel like a dope. If I had the choice I'd choose the more affectionate type that wants to see me more. I've had that it fewer problems arise.
I think it stems from some insecurity on our part (males), but who can really blame us. It is still early in your relationship so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I on the other hand; it has been 3 months and I feel lousy lately. It can almost feel one-sided, which is disastrous for a relationship. Just be careful.
Well, she said it herself. She's a 'lousy girlfriend'.
You shouldn't try to force her to be a good girlfriend with compliments now and again. Instead, just have fun with her and treat her like she's a cool friend. Because, to tell you the truth, you're the one who's 'in love with her' while she doesn't feel the same way.
So you may want to change that up a bit. Don't care about her too much. You're probably putting value into her in being a 'good girlfriend' because she's attractive. But she's emotionally distant, which would label her as a 'FWB' if it were me.
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I would've said the same thing lol, you told me you want something what is it? If you know she likes you then you shouldn't feel any type of way about it just some women don't feel it necessary to be over invested with the "owe babe", "sweetie pie". But I mean you could ask her to give you a pet name, you can just be straight forward with her.
I don't think you're fishing for compliments or that your ego is hurt. I know how you feel. It's aggravating and frustrating when you're dating someone who acts like that. It can feel like you care more than they do and that's not a good feeling at all. Some girls just are not affectionate and they try to say stuff like "The guy just has an ego" or "I'm just an independent girl who doesn't need to be affectionate" to make up for it
Does she know you think of yourself as interplanetary nostril dishcarge?
This girl needs to buy a clue. Why waste your time on her? She obviously doesn't know how to "provide" for a man emotionally or physically, and it will probably take her years of failed relationships to figure it out.
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