And how wrong was I. Shyness is hardwired into my brain, it seems. It's not like I tremble or get extremely anxious when I want to approach a girl, I worked this out. I can also work the confidence to look at her eyes and smile. I just don't know what to say, how to start a conversation, since a simple 'hi' doesn't justify why I'm there, or doesn't make things that interesting. And buying a girl a drink before meeting her first is not my style; to me, it's like trying to buy the girl's interest. I prefer to meet her, then buy her something out of kindness and as a 'thank you' for the time we had together.
I don't know if it's a confidence problem. I try my best at that, too. I interact with many girl friends, with girls at work, girls at university etc. Most of the time, I am well perceived by girls I meet, at least, they invite me out and stuff, but it's usually not girls I'm interested in romantically. I'm also better at accepting rejection, so I don't know if that get's in the way. Last but not least, I regained my interests after the relationship: I started kickboxing, and not only do I love it, but it also works wonders on my fitness.
All in all, I think I'm well equipped to approach a girl. For some reason though, I can't set out to do it! I get nailed to the ground and I don't know what to say to her! What else can I do to manage that?
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