Phone call or text message?
Why do girls take text messaging so seriously? Honestly, I have noticed on here that girls will judge a guy because he won't text back right away,...
Phone Call > Text Messages! Yes!
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I so agree with you 100% girl's go over board so much when there guy friend or boyfriend doesn't wright them back, every stop to think he could be busy with work, family, school stuff friends, the world doesn't go around you and you only. They have a life too.
What Girls Said 42
yeah, I agree with you, I prefer a guy to call me so I can actually hear his damn voice and I know he isn't doing something while he's texting me.
Texting is a load of sh*t for me.
If a guy doesn't text me back, I would get pissed for a bit-so calling is way more important. it shows that you have interest I think. texts are so impersonal
When a guy doesn't respond right away, we think that the guy doesn't like us enough to be excited when we text him. In our minds we cannot understand how a guy wouldn't be excited if a girl he liked texted him. We think that if the guy was really interested in us he would text back right away because he would be anxious to talk to us and get together as soon as possible and we figure he's just not interested if he doesn't immediately text back because it shows that he's in no hurry to see us again or talk to us. Its stupid but that's the way we think.
It's not that girls take it seriously, it's that when you send someone a message or call them, you expect them to call/message you back in a timely fashion.
For example, if you left a girl a voicemail, wouldn't you be a little annoyed if she just never called you back? And wouldn't you begin to question why she never got back to you? Is she just rude, does she not like talking to you, does she think you're irritating, did she not get the voicemail? That's how girls think.
We'll send a guy a text in order to communicate efficiently and let them know that we don't expect a long convo from them, and we'll be pleased by our wittiness for about 5 minutes. After that, if we haven't heard back, we start to wonder why not. Most girls immediately think the guy is avoiding her (because boys do this regularly), rather than assuming he's busy/in the shower/whatever.
My recommendation is to always return calls and texts from girls you like in a reasonable amount of time, otherwise they will begin to think that you're uninterested or a d-bag, regardless of what you say to them when you do talk.
You have a really good point! But at least personally I have had a lot of rejection in the past that I usually get afraid that when a guy whom I'm the least bit interested in doesn't text back right away - if at all - then it's because he's ignoring me on purpose, even if the last time we saw each other he seemed pretty friendly.
But now I've learned that it could be a number of reasons such as the guy was busy, the guy has lost his phone for some time [that was a real reason for one guy, and I had had ended up texting him a little too much and even writing to him on myspace and calling him to get a response right away], or the guy just didn't get the text at all.
I also sometimes wonder if the guy not texting me first means that he's really not interested at all, but that isn't necessarily true either. Although I have more faith that the guy who goes out of his way to communicate to me in some way [usually texting] means that he's interested versus the guy who doesn't do that...
I think too many people rely on a text to hold a conversation now a days.
I feel this way, and I know other girls do to. I don't know why we think it. It's just feels like we are being ignored...plus girls love attention and if they feel like they aren't getting attention, they get worried or upset that the person is ignoring them or that they said something wrong. I know that no one likes the feeling of pushing someone away. It bothers me most when I know that a guy is a constant text checker or has his phone on him always, and that he could be easily ignoring it. I think that's why we get so confused.
Plus I call sometimes, but I don't want to call to much too seem like a creeper. haha.
I'm sure that it's just because they're worried about if he's just ignoring them, but if there were trust and communication in the relationship then they wouldn't have to worry about why their boyfriend didn't text them back. They would know why he didn't. I can't quite understand it because my man is military so I'm expecting not to get a reply and ecstatic when I do. I think girls need to stop complaining about petty things.
it usually depends on the situation. if you're talking about a girlfriend getting pissed and guilt-tripping you for not answering right away or at all, I can see why you think it's annoying: you're already her boyfriend, she already has you--calm the hell down! however, if you don't know each other very well, and you don't answer something of hers ever, it shows her where she ranks on your list of priorities. in that case I understand a girl backing away, but not making a big deal to your face. really though, it's all relative. every situation is unique.
:::Hangs head in shame:::
lol...i'm so guilty of feeling like the guy isn't interested or w/e because I get no reply. You're right about the phone call but this particular guy I'm referring to lives in chicago...i live in the bahamas lol...so phonecalls are mighty expensive trust me..the text is even expensive :) But yeah, you're so right.
i agree bout it being and emergency and calling not texting, and that's bout it!
if I text I'm expecting you to text me back in a couple of mintues...it shows that you are interested in US/what ya are talking about.
i hate it when guys take forever. its like what is keeping you this long to not text me back, are you texting someone else..what?
i mean I wouldn't mind if he was like..ill text you in a bit, I'm playing a video game/taking a shower/ talking to my parents..etc...
but then again we have to be realistic
guys will be guys...ugh
I totally agree...if you want to talk, call.
I always thought the whole point of a text message was like email - they'll see it when they've got time to check their phone. Which means that it could be right then, or hours from now...not to mention that on occasion texting isn't instant. I've had a few never go through and some that delay for hours.
well what do you do if they don't respond for weeks? :/
Well I must say that I am guilty of feeling this way as well..us girls just can't help it, we are overly sensitve and over analyze everything..that is what we do...we were born with it...but honestly I do understand when someone does not message back right away,.,as they could be doing anything...but for the message to be totally ignored...yes that is when my panic would set in...although I have waited for responses back,.,I have never ever had a message not returned.,
oh I prefer calling up over text but my friend hates it. Everytime we get in a tiff I try to call because I feel I can explain myself better where text always gets misconstrued.
yea I agree with you.. even though I have written about not getting a reply to my text before lololol the whole worried about a reply is actually because of the girls insecurities.. she texted in the first place as she was insecure.. and probably just wanted a hi or kiss or whatever no need for long convo. lolol and then when they don't answer.. its like cheesh? can't even do that? its not like ur asking for phone convo. but a simple text...lolol but yes.. a phone call does mean more.. and you are right.. but girls will be girls lol
Well, me and my ex used to text each other a lot because it was entertaining and fun to read random texts from him, especially when I least expect it... Its like passing notes to your crush back in the day in elementary school, with the excitement about what he's going to write next... It's a nice way to communicate every now and then, but I believe a couple should also talk on the phone, not only text...A combination of both is my ideal thing...
But with the case of my ex, he carried his phone with him literally EVERYWHERE... He would text as walked down the halls in college too, so if he didn't respond to me within the first 20-30 minutes, I would assume something is wrong since he always wrote back instantly...
So for me, I'd have to know what the guy's lifestyle is like before I can get mad at the time it takes him to respond... If he works alot, I can understand...But It all depends on the guy...
You are so right. I get mad if I text the guy and he hasn't replied within at least 5 hours. Seriously, that's more than enough time to get back at the person and if you can't text , you should call the person
girls do this because we have some sort of built in anxiety, especially when it comes to a guy we like.
i learned not to assume someone doesn't like be just because they don't text back.
though sometimes, that is the case...if I don't like someone, or I'm not interested in any way, shape, or form. I don't text back.
but there's no way of stopping a girl from having that anxiety.
you can assure her that that's not the case, and she will most likely act like she believes you.
but she doesn't really. I don't know what else.
i prefer calls, big time.
text messages can be forwarded and all kinds of sh*t, I've experienced it.
haha well being "one of those girls" it makes you wonder when he doesn't text you back! it doesn't have to be right away but if it's not within 5 minutes your like umm where are you? and you end up sending a text that may have not had anything to do with what you were talking about before you two stopped just to get the conversation going again! By doing this your letting him know that you weren't done with the conversation and that you were kind of interested in what he was doing! was he talking to another girl? is he with another girl? then you ask yourself the question of should I back off? and right as you do he sends you another text and things start right back up again! I hope this helps
and I would really appreciate it if no one judged me! :)
stuff happens and you can't really help if you want to text someone all day
haha oh and texting may not be as intimate but if he says something really
sweet you have proof to show to all of your friends! =D
girls are really sensitive and if a guys doesn't respond right away they automatically assume the worst and figure "hes not into me"
Girls worry about everything. We think up the worst possible thing that could happen. Say I'm texting my boyfriend and he's doesn't asnwer for a while. I start thinking "Omg. Maybe He's hurt! Maybe's He's with another girl! Maybe he's chaetingon me! Maybe someone died!" and then I come to find out he was taking a shower. We freak out because we care. A little too much sometimes.
I agree! I never pay much attention to text messages. A phone call means so much more. I think most people text because they don't feel like talking to that person and its easy to just not text back .
I agree with you 100% but I know a lot of girls who feel discouraged when it takes a guy like an hour to text them back. They tend to feel like the guy isn't really interested in what they're saying, and doesn't care to make responding a priority. Girls can be sensitive like that.
I see text messaging is a convenient way to communicate with someone if you are multi-tasking. Sometimes if I am just not in the mood to text anymore (whether it be because I'm busy or tired) I just stop and hold it for the next day. I only have a problem if someone doesn't ever respond back, which is quite seldom.
Argh, my boyfriend practically disowns anyone that doesn't text him back straight away.
It's like texts have a shelf life, if you don't text back within a certain time frame you're likely not to text back at all. Same goes with messages on Facebook and suchlike.
I think texting is convenient though, I don't want a 20 minute conversation with someone if I just want to know one thing from them.
mann I thinks its b.c there's open feelings behind it.. we don't know how your really saying stuff... like sarcastically or what get it? lol
texting = attention = gives her an indication that you like her
I am actually a bad phone conversationalist. I prefer talking in person or texting. If someone isn't great at talking on the phone they will prefer messangers/texting.
But I do agree girls worry too much when a guy doesn't respond to a text right away. If you find yourself getting wound up over not getting a reply to a text, you need to relax and think about why he may not respond, which is he's probably busy.. not because he doesn't like you.
I'm guilty as charged hahah.
because to me it's like, why the HELL would a guy just NOT RESPOND?
I don't get it.
especially if he is interested in her.
do guys not realize that girls will think that you're ignoring her and aren't interested?
it really sucks.
and I don't feel comfortable calling people who I don't know that well [like if I'm just in the early flirting stages hahah]
plus I haaate talking on the phone.
well, I've been seeing this guy for 4 months, and usually when we say goodnight he says : night sweetie xoxo. lately he has just been saying: Goodnight :) . am I looking to far into this or is there a deeper meaning to it.
if you send a text that says you will call her in 10 minutes, then I think you should call in 10 minutes, but if you are at work or she is, that comes first. tell her to relax! technology doesn't always make life easier. text messages/cell phones can cause stupid fights, so don't let them!
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What Guys Said 12
girls tend to over-analyze everything.
i read some where that girls really like receiving letters an note
it turns them on like those fabio novels
they are just more connected with words
F texting...seriously... I hate how I can't tell how my Girlfriend is when I text her you know. I can't see her face and hear her voice, and I can't catch sarcasm. Also if your text doesn't fallow through then she/he might be broken hearted.
But on the other hand texting allows us to take time to compose a message instead of being on the spot. Its like writing a letter( which are cool to do)
Jesus tapdancin Christ textin can p*ss me off. sure a few texts in a day are no big deal, but nothing aggrivates me more than having to pick up the damn phone every 2 minutes to read some sh*t and respond imediately. I'm tryin to get sh*t done, and I can't be textin some stupid sh*t every 3 minutes. and if I don't respond right away I get that " you there?" crap. its so damn annoying. so indirect too. women, make a phone call now and then god damn! sure 1 text to see if they are busy or not before calling is convienient. phone calls can come at bad times, sure. but texting is a lot of work when you do it that much. I don't like putting forth that kind of effort. you can get so much more said and heard with a traditional phone call. like you said, then you can understand the tone of voice and over all attitude. I hate texting personally. before you know it, you have 100 messages on your phone and there still coming. half of the time I don't even respond to them, or make up some sh*t about how its runnin up my phone bill. if a girl wants to hear from me, I'll be glad to take her calls.
and thank you for finally bringing this to attention, its time some one spoke up, so I appreciate it
I agree completely, I hate texting versus calling...but then again texting was not around when I was 15-20!. lol I had a pager but it was a bitch to decode long messages! lol good ol days!.
how old are you?
OH, your 18 to 24, it says... okay...
you are JUST waking up to the fact that women live in "crazyland"
lmFao... its normal...
EDITORS NOTE: do NOT confuse me saying "normal" with "good" or "optimum"
its just NORMAL, is all... get used to it.
I have women all figured out... in as much as there IS no figuring them out, don't waste your time... HEY, stuff my CATS do doesn't really make a lot of sense half the time, just like my old lady and half the sh*te she puts through her some days...
I love my cats and the old lady just the same though... beats whacking off, I suppose...
yo, dude to dude and all... if ME and YOU had crazy mood swings once a month... someone would MEDICATE US... hint, hint
There's an expert video on this. Watch it.
The problem I have with texts is my girlfriend is really really affectionate in texts saying how much she misses me likes me etc but on the phone or in person is rarely like that so I think texts give people an easy way to say something to please someone even if they don't mean it. Also things can easily be misread in texts and cause arguements which is never good.
Girls aren't going to like this, but it's because of their egos.
Girls have huge egos. They would rather text than talk because they don't have to worry about being responsible for what they say. As long as they're not responsible, they don't have to deal with the consequences. And if they don't have to deal with the consequences, then they don't have to claim it as a fault of their own.
Girls truly believe that they have no personality flaws or emotional faults, except when claiming that they're not perfect, because thinking their perfect is a bad thing as well. Girls want to do whatever they want, whenever they want, and they'll do whenever they have the opportunity to do it when they don't have to be responsible for the consequences.
It may sound like I'm bashing, I'm not... I'm jealous.
because girls confuse conversation with communication
Because they're dumb? Come on, chicks loved Hanson.
hi's and what's ups don't need to be responded to right awayit gets old and repetitive
emergencys should be responded to right away, I'm talking house on fire emergencys
other than that its just quicker, that's why they like it
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