Girls-What are signs that you want a guy to ask you out on a date?

[Anonymous]

So I work with a girl who is an absolute 10/10. She is tall beautiful and actually has a great personality. She and I have similar music tastes, she has a good sense of humor and in general its refreshing to find a girl that is that attractive both physically and mentally.

Well what I described is awesome, but I am a complete spazz when it comes to women. I over think most things due to my lack of dating experience, and the fact that I work with this girl makes me more cautious of making a fool of myself.

Her and I talk, exchange emails, and I'm during work, not everyday but one or the other most. My problem is trying to figure out whether she is into me more than just on a friendly basis.

There are some things that make me think yes, but I don't want to blow them out of proportion because I don't want to get ahead of myself. On the other hand, I have had women tell me that they wanted me to ask them out well after I missed the opportunity because I'm dense when it comes to seeing the signals women put off.

Some of the things that make me think I have a shot are:

When we interact one on one she usually laughs at most of what I say, the conversations are almost completely random, have almost no rhyme or reason but carry on for 5-10 min. Yesterday she was also very relaxed, leaning up against the wall while we talked.

A lot of the time when we interact on a one on one level she also will act goofy or quirky.

She has invited me to a concert once, but it was with another coworker and her husband. I couldn't attend due to a scheduling conflict, but I never was sure it was more than a friendly invite.

I feel that I've caught her staring at me as I passed by, but I know my eyes wander around as I walk too.

Most recently her and I were exchanging emails in a very humorous way and the topic got onto how she likes aquariums. I then sent her a link to a new aquarium that recently opened in our city and asked if she had checked it out. Her response was "I forget that was open. I really want to go sometime."

As soon as I saw that I wasn't sure if this was just a casual response or a hint to me saying "I want to go here, so ask me to go here."

Like I said I don't want to get ahead of myself but I don't want to miss an opportunity. She invited me to lunch with her and another female coworker for tomorrow, so she seems to like my company somewhat. I just would like some more assurance that she's interested before making a move and embarrassing myself.

[Anonymous]

From what you say, I think she is almost definitely into you...

I don't know about other girls, but for me, if I tell a guy that I really like some place, and I would love to go, it is a hint for them to ask me out and take me there.

If you don't want to come on too strong, you could always just bring it up in a casual conversation. For example you could say: "Hey, I remember one time you mentioned you wanted to go to ________ aquarium, if you're free, maybe I could take you there someday. Would you like that?"

As for the concert invite, she was going with a coworker and the coworker's husband... if she just wanted to have someone else there, she could have always asked one of her girlfriends (the way you describe her, she sounds really nice, so I'm sure she would have a lot of friends). So I don't think it was just a friendly invite.

You also said that she laughs during your conversations, and that she is relaxed. That is a very good sign. Its proven that if someone is interested in you, they will laugh at what you say. So her laughing is definitely a good sign.

And she is relaxed and sometimes acts goofy and quirky; this means that she is comfortable around you. also a good sign.

All in all, I think she is definitely interested in you, and she seems to have tried a lot to make you know that. Don't be embarrassed, even if you do something you think is embarrassing, she likes your company, is comfortable with you, and you are very good friends anyway. So even if it doesn't work out perfectly, you two should be able to laugh it off.

So don't worry, stop over thinking, and go get her! :D

[cutoutofthesun]

"another coworker and her husband" You mean the other coworker's husband right?

If you mean that the girl you like has a husband, not to state the obvious but she's made a life long commitment and you should probably back off..But I think you mean the coworker's husband.

In which case, you should ask this girl out to the aquarium. She's already your friend so it's likely that if she likes you more, even if it's only ever so slightly she'll say yes. If she says no, you'll know that she likes you as a friend, and she's a great person because she doesn't want to lead you on.

And she said to you: I really want to go check it out - which you're spot on about - it usually means she wants to go with you but wants to see you take the initiative and ask.

Go be golden ;) ha ha goodluck :)

[Asker]

Yes she is single. I guess I'm looking for the least awkwardly possible of asking her out so it doesn't make it weird if she says no. I'd like it to be very low pressure. I'm just struggling on how to approach that situation. I know most women have been asked out in a variety of ways and some were more effective than others. I am just trying to find one that suits this situation.

[Marrryyyyy]

see how she is with other work colleagues, use it as a baseline to figure out how different/intimate she is with you and you'll have your answer

[Asker]

She is a friendly person, but the dilemma is that I am one of only a couple of men her age and that would be physically appropriate matches. One of which is a friend and is married and the other I'd say I have the nod in appearance. The thing is though is that she doesn't interact with these people that frequently for me to get a consistent idea of how she treats guys. Obviously she is pretty friendly with her female friends in the office, but they are women.