Do guys get annoyed at always having to initiate conversations with a girl?

[Anonymous]

A guy friend of mine has told my cousin that he really likes talking to me and I really like him so of course I like talking to him too. I'm not sure if he actually likes me or just as a friend, but he always has to initiate texting me (sometimes really random stuff haha). We can text for hours when we get talking, but he always has to be the one to get us talking because I'm too shy to and don't know what to say. That's also how it is in person- he always asks me questions and makes the effort and I feel awful about it. I do invite him out to events with friends and he does the same for me so he knows that I do like hanging out with him and he knows I like talking to him because he can make me laugh easily (my cousin says I can make him laugh hysterically too lol.)

Anyway, do you guys get tired at having to always start the conversations?

[Scoopie]

If he acknowledged he likes to talk to you, he maybe hoped that cousin would tell you. Maybe he was too shy to tell you directly and this way indeed hoped you would initiate a conversation for a change.

The thing is, I have a good girl friend I can nicely talk about it, but I'm not interested in her romantically - she even has a boyfriend. Now I don't know if this is true for her. Anyway, I did tell some people that don't know her I liked talking to her. But I would never tell this to someone she knew, as I don't want her to give her the wrong impression in case she ever finds out.

If you really feel awful about the fact you never initiate something, then pick up some courage and make a plan about how you would do it. Make it just innocent and something you know he likes to talk about. If I like a girl, I'll try multiple times to initiate something and if she doesn't respond to it I do get tired at it. If you're that comfortable hanging out together, then I would expect the girl to also initiate a conversation from now and then.

I'm not sure that he likes you back that way. I would advise you just ask him something or tell him something next time you meet. When a girl I like talks to me first, I am sure I smile and show I appreciate the fact she finally initiated a conversation. It gives me extra confidence she might be in to me and I'll try to make it clear to her how I feel.

[StrumSetShred]

I feel that if she wants to talk to me, she would initiate the conversation too. Does that ever happen? Sure, maybe once or twice a year.

But because she doesn't, I get confused as to whether or not she actually likes me. I mean you would think that it's human nature that if someone likes you they would start the conversation too. Those are just my thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Shy guys may mind doing it, but once they get to know the girl they don't seem to mind so much. It's just a matter of always having to put yourself "out there" to people you don't know. Then again, it's not something you only do with people of the opposite gender. Almost all conversations are like this. It's just a matter of training -- like putting the cap on the toothpaste, putting the seat back down on the throne, and any number of other things a lot of guys tend to wince at.

[itslo]

Guys do get tired of initiating the conversation. But if your shy and he has seen how shy you get he has to understand. Just try getting more comfortable with him. And do try an initiate conversations.

[Malcom_Reynolds]

Good god yes. I don't mind initiating conversations, but I feel like I'm always the one who does. It makes me feel like they don't want to actually to talk to me and are just being polite.

[elfmasta00]

Yes. all the pressure is always on us. I am a quiet person, so it helps when a girl starts it. I never seen a quiet girl.

[Jpalms56]

Yeah it's annoying, but that's just how it is. I know guys that actually hate women because of it. Isn't much men can do about so they have to do it.