Why do men want women to act like MEN?
I tried to ask this another way but I don't think folks got what I was trying to say so I am going to try a different approach. I am often telling... Show More
Vote A Because men think the male way is better and think girls act stupid
Vote B Because they do not comprehend female qualities and feel they should change to accommodate them
Vote C Actually, although they drive me nuts, I love women the way they are
Vote D Men do not understand that we are inherently different and that this is okay
Most Helpful Opinion
one of the biggest mistakes I think many of us make is that we believe all men act a certain way and all women act a certain way but although we have things in common with people of the same sex that's really not true. Men and women have a lot of the exact same feelings...society and culture has just taught us to express them differently... so some women are quite similar to some men and some aren't...i think is a more appropriate way to put it
So I like your comments. Its really about accepting differences that make relationships work.
But when someone fishs for compliments all the time it gets annoying. SO I wouldn't blame the other partner for getting mad. After all, if you love someone so much and they still can't be reasonably secure about themself...then you kind of feel like you wasted your time loving them and supporting them and telling them they look fine...when the person still asks everyday its like..."DO YOU LISTEN TO ME WHEN I TELL You LOOK FINE"... its just natural for most people to want to be with someone confident and secure...
Women are also visual by nature and women check out cute guys all the time even when their in relationships... yes I think women are more willing to accept a guy when he gains a bit of weight but that doesn't mean they don't notice its there..
Finally I think in a relationship both parties need to change themself a little bit...or the end up changing. SOme women stereotypically become more masculine or more feminine. Same for men..its something that happens naturally as their around each other alot. I think if the slight change doesn't occur then the relationship gets extremely rocky and arguementative.
BUt I liked your comment it was useful to point out.
What Guys Said 10
The problem here is that men by nature are more logical. They see things as being black and white, and they try to see things as being simple.
Take this scenario: I used to date a girl named Susan when I was in high school. Susan was an Asian girl who had no chest development to speak of but was still very attractive. However, she was very very self conscious about her lack of breasts, to the point where she would always talk about it. Then one day she asked me if I felt she should consider getting a boob job when she turned 18. My response was:
"Its your body. If you see it as a problem, then its a problem. If that solves the problem, go for it."
She had been droning on and on about her breasts for as long as I had known her, and I knew nothing I said about how pretty she looked would "solve the problem". And from the way she reacted to what I told her, you'd think I had committed murder. I walked away from that experience believing one thing:
When a man presents you with a problem, it's because he wants a solution to it. But when a woman presents you with a problem, she wants you to lie to her and tell her that there really is no problem, only to go through the same nonsense the next day, and the day after that, and the day after that, and so on.
The way I see it, it's not about asking a woman to act like a man. It's about asking the person you're with to maybe think about what they say before they open their mouth, and not bite the other person's head off for giving them an answer that assumes they wanted an honest, true answer that comes from a logical perspective.
Actually, I don't care for either of the gender stereotypes. Macho men and Femme women are both equally crippling roles. The problem is that each of these roles have benefits (men don't have to do childcare, women don't have to respond to reason etc.).
I prefer that people simply be people. The people who want to hold me accountable to a stereotype of my gender need not apply.
The choices are obviously narrow and skewed, so I didn't vote, but my answer would be that men don't actually want women to act like men. They may want them to *enjoy* the same things that men enjoy, but not specifically act like them.
I think people in general have a difficult time, in many ways, comprehending that people are different. A lot of people my age (24) think that because I don't like clubs, loud bars, etc., and would prefer to travel to some remote place in Asia or sip a glass of wine at a hotel lounge, I'm nuts. Maybe I'm not the norm, but it's an example of how people think we're all similar.
As to dating/sex, I think guys find it hard to believe women don't feel the same sensations they do in bed, and women find it hard to believe anyone could want sex so much. These assumptions are based on what the person thinking them feels, so to them, it's the truth and the best way.
I wouldn't change anything about women. as much as they drive me nuts or pull my last thread. IM good.
Meh, didn't really read what you wrote but I'd say it makes them easier to connect to on a emotional level and holyshit I'm missing my buss
clearly woman are not men... some woman are tom boys some are girly girls some man like girly girls some dont... I'm sure if a guy likes a girly girl he would most likely want to get with one. I'm not saying just because he likes then he WILL get with one.
this whole subject is confusing...
would you rather not shave your legs and arm pits and eat bad food and smell like us a camels arm pit? if you don't like the fact that man like there woman to look good and not like an ape then you better go back to the jungle sista
Just be glad that our culture only puts pressure on women to be good looking.
It's much harder on men.
Men, to get the "genetic prize", have to be both good looking and "successful".
There are certain things almost all girls do which I can't stand. But since I am pretty sure you aren't all secretly agreeing to act this way, I voted D, girls are just different and guys don't get it.
What Girls Said 1
i didn't read everything that is above, sorry, but I'll still add that some guys are stubborn (right word choice?) and some want everyone around them to be like them and like what they like and feel like they feel.