Crush may like my roommate, I'm afraid this might keep happening to me.

[Poseidon17]

My new college roommate (I have 2) is fairly popular with girls. Lately some of his female friend's friends have been hanging out with us. There is one girl who I think is cute and seems like a sweet girl. The problem is my new friend/roommate is the type of guy a lot of girls fall for. See I'm 5'5" in height, (short for a 24 year old) and he is a few years younger, but like 6'3" or something like that, and good-looking. He is a cool guy to hang out with but I'm afraid that this girl I am beginning to like is more attracted to him. When we were all hanging out, she kept asking him to sit closer to her, and when he sat down in a big chair, she sat at the end of the chair, close to him. I got her number the other night, but not in a "i am asking you out" I said something like, "give me your number so we can ask you to come hang out with us again" Oh, and my roommate probably wouldn't date this girl since he's already chasing after a girl he really likes, but that doesn't necessarily mean the girl will go for me instead.

My roommate is cool, but now I'm paranoid that being next to him when we hang out with people, I'll be invisible to girls, since he is the tall, dark, and handsome type that girls are instantly attracted to, and I'm shorter than even the average guy. And what do I do about this girl? I messaged her on facebook, referring to something funny that happened when we hung out, but she hasn't messaged me back yet. What kills me is that my roommate never sent any signals to her or flirted with her, and I did try to.

What would a girl do in this situation, if the guy she is attracted to isn't available, but his friend was interested in you (but you weren't as attracted to him).

[Newport100]

Remember, looks can only get you so far with woman. There is something else he has, its called confidence. He wouldn't lose any sleep over one woman not liking him.

Ask him what he would do in your situation, he may not tell you all his secrets but he will give you some good tips.

The only tips I can give you are simple ones: Maintain good hygiene...sounds dumb right? But you have to think about it, we guys let it all hang out sometimes. Try to devolope some kind of sense of humor. Making a lady smile is magical, now that doesn't mean you are going to marry her just because you made her laugh BUT, it is a step in a good direction.

Take notice when he cracks a dumb joke, I bet the ladies that really like him think he is absolutley brilliant.

P.S. Keep your mind open to this, not all woman are honorable just like all guys are not honorable. What I mean is that he is unavailable right now and she might find that out. she might also find out you like her. She knows you hang out with him AND it is possible she might use you just to be around him OR find out more info about him and his dating status. Now don't be paranoid about it, its just a thought. Keep your eyes and ears open.

[Poseidon17]

I didn't mean he is good at picking women up, in fact he was never flirting with any of the girls, because he wasn't interested in them. He is actually sort of shy like me, he didn't act any different with the group of girls than I did. He is just the type of guy that girls will simply SEE and be drawn to without even meeting him (like I said, he is tall, well built, and good-looking). I was being more interactive with the girl than he was, yet he seemed to draw more of her attention.

[voodoochild]

It's actually a good thing to hang around with guys who are good with women.

You can learn allot from him and women will naturally hang out with you aswell.

You REALLY let the height thing bother you...It's not that big a deal, it's all in your head.

Cool guys come in all shapes and sizes :D

I'd suggest you read up link to get some more info about being attractive etc.

But I can guarantee you that your low confidence and inferior behaviour towards your friend (as in you he's better then you) is most likely the cause of girls ignoring you and going for your friend.

Good luck!

[Poseidon17]

I know what you mean by hanging out with guys who are good with girls. I don't know how I'd be showing inferior behavior towards my friend, whenever we hang out in groups I always enjoy myself and have fun; it isn't like I am negative toward him. It is just when we initially are in social situations, I can tell that girls notice him, and pay attention to him more (without him doing anything different than me).

[voodoochild]

No you what I mean is that in your head, you view yourself as inferior to him (as in he's cooler to you and you do not deserve the same amount of attention he gets). This is all a mindset but people will react to this as well.

The way you think about your situation is often the same as how others perceive you. If you think you're the man, they will think so too etc.

I'd suggest you read the Crash Course, start working out etc and learn a thing or 2 from your friend.

[voodoochild]

Or add me at [e-mail] so I can go into more details.

[ILoveCefalu]

If the girl doesn't like you, she won't go out with you. Get over your napolean complex- there are tons of short girls who want a guy with your height. Go find them.

[chjl24]

You obviously can't make her like you, but maybe tell your roommate you're interested in her so he can act as your wing man and help you out