My boyfriend of 6 months, who for the most part treats me well, becomes a whole other person when he is mad or stressed. What I feel is not a huge deal, sends him into a spell of completely ignoring me. I can call or text numerous times, and I get nothing in return He says to just leave him alone and not bother him.. I can't stand not talking things out and it hurts me that he can treat me like my feelings don't matter when its obvious I'm upset. Is this an indication he lacks respect for me or the relationship?
Been there, done that. Dumped her for it. If I'm mad or hurt I'll tell my partner about it rather than lash out and try to hurt her feelings by ignoring her. I won't hurt her intentionally and I won't stand for being hurt that way. To me, it feels like a controlling mean thing to do.
When I'm hurt I just want to be alone. I can understand that. I don't want people to see me hurt or vulnerable. I can also understand pushing you away if he is upset, a little bit of affection may be all that's needed for him to break down - which he won't want you to see. Catch 22 - you don't want your girlfriend to see you crack, but she might actually bring that about just by being loving.
Don't worry about it if you think I may be on the right track. Give him space if he needs it, but be there like a shot when he needs you. He'll come around.