Why do I only attract players and "bad boys"?!! HELP!

[Sexydncr]

I'm getting tired of players and bad boys who are so conceited and in love with themselves. I want to date normal nice guys but they never seem to like me. And please don't say that I'm only attracted to players, or the nice guys aren't always as hot because I know that. I've asked my guy friends and they've said I have the looks, body, and personality that players go for. Not trying to sound conceited or stuck up (I'm Italian and South Korean, people have told me I'm gorgeous, I'm thin, have B cups, tiny waist, a huge butt, six pack abs, dancer legs, am loud, outgoing, sassy, and feisty). So please tell me what I'm doing wrong or how to attract nice guys. Also I'm scared of going up to guys and asking them out.

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Just to establish something that whole jersey shore thing was a joke from 6th grade. And it's not in reference to being a "party girl" at all it was meant in the fact that I'm really nice and sweet to my friends but if you are a downright nasty person ill be a bitch to you.

[Anonymous]

Your personality attracts that type of guy. Loud, outgoing, sassy, and feisty. Most "nice" guys aren't interested in that. I don't want you to take it the wrong way and think that I'm judging you because I don't know you at all. This might not be the case for you, but most women I met like that, my first thought was "god she's obnoxious..." and probably wouldn't even bother trying to talk with her. The fact that you're good looking just compounds the problem. Even if that kind of personality might be what some "nice" guy was into, your looks might intimidate him from approaching.

I clicked on your profile to see if I could get a better idea from that. " people tell me I'd make a perfect sammi from jersey shore." <-- that... that's not a good thing. No nice guy would touch anybody on jersey shore with a 10 foot stick. Also "sweetest b!**h"? For the life of me, I've never understood that. It's like when you here these girls calling each other slut and whore when greeting each other or something, it's just as baffling.

Most "nice" guys want a "nice" girl. While you might be loyal, honest, and caring, that's not what I'm referring to when I say a "nice" girland I'm betting you probably know that.

[parkway]

Tiny waist and huge butt is the problem. This is America and women before you have set the slutty standard which may have nothing to do with you. Pretty girls attract a lot of trash.

If you want to find a good guy. Put a dress on and go to church. There are guys in there praying to meet a girl like you. You may be able to do some cherry picking. Since you are shy, don't let your car have a problem in the church parking lot. In general bad boys don't go to church, the church elderly women try and tie them down to save their souls. Not a pretty sight.

I know a Honduran man who is a complete ass with women and uses churches to pick up women. He thinks, he is God's gift to women. I think he needs to be crucified to test his way of thinking.

[Sexydncr]

I do go to church every Sunday though lol! And that's awful, church is a place to praise God not to meet your next hook up.

[Konnour]

You heard what she said. She's looking for a hook-up.

[Konnour]

..and "the next"

[udolipixie]

HELP! Why do I only attract players and "bad boys"?!

Likely because players/bad boys are the vast majority of guys as in my observations most guys are either players/bad boys or want to be a player/bad boy.

In my opinion a minority of guys are normal nice guys as it seems guys are either nice to get what they want, regard basic common courtesy as niceness, or regard themselves as nice guys based on things that have nothing to do with being nice such as 'short = he's a nice guy', 'fat = he's a nice guy', 'unattractive = he's a nice guy', 'socially awkward = he's a nice guy', 'unsuccessful with gals = he's a nice guy'.

"So please tell me what I'm doing wrong or how to attract nice guys."

Probably suited for you to get over your fear of going up to guys and asking them out or ask your guy friends to set you up.

[Sexydncr]

This is sadly true. I guess I'm going to have to do that. Thanks

[lilagirl]

The way you decried yourself is the exact reason. Your personality comes off strong and in order to meet a nice gentleman you are going to have to tone that down. Focus on studies and don't go and flirt with every guy you meet. Not saying you were but if that's the case don't do that.

[XRabbitHeartX]

From how you describe yourself and judging by that it's your personality that's attracting the bad boys.

[Anonymous]

Well inherently from the title and answering the question without even reading the description ... your user name is sexydncr... that in itself is the biggest indicator and already tells me its the impression and possibly the body language you give off to men.

[bDizzie]

Normal nice guys are too afraid to ask girls out but the bad boys aren't, which is why that's all you are getting. You'll have to give some MUCH stronger signals to the nice guys if you want them to make a move.

[Konnour]

Perhaps it got to do something with being a jersey-shore wanna... ehm - I mean: "a fan", yeah - a fan!

From what I can tell merely from your profile, you don't seem to be that kind of girl who would match well with 'normal, nice guys'

[Anonymous]

your think your too fine. I didn't even have to read you question to come to that conclusion your photos make that pretty clear. try dressing more conservatively and wear less make up.

[Sexydncr]

Actually I don't. In all my photos I only have on eyeliner on the bottom and mascara on the top. Maybe concealer of I had needed it that day and maybe lip balm. I dress conservatively... I go to a catholic school.

[Opinion Owner]

Well you describe your s?lf as having "dancer legs", a 'tiny' waist and a big butt. Sounds like you are feeling yourself. . .

[Opinion Owner]

*Described yourself lol

[Sexydncr]

I'm so confused lolz. I know that because I do dance and yes I wear tights and a leotard or shirts and a shirt. But I don't feel myself up if that's what your saying...

[Heretic]

You generally have to approach normal nice guys yourself, put in some effort.

"Also I'm scared of going up to guys and asking them out." You're up sh*t creek without a paddle, then. That's how it is I'm afraid.

[Sexydncr]

Haha il work on it thanks

[Moloch]

It's your personality. You sound like your typical party girl, and nice guys are either intimidated, or not into that.

[Lovatic]

Hummm, I think there's no problem. Turn these bady boys to good boys, try it ;)

[Sexydncr]

Haha I wish. I've tried it for example one of them was a total pothead but he was so good looking and got so many girls. I tried changing him but he loved weed, himself, and other girls too much. I can work with a guy who's a little rough and has a tough exterior but I'm done dealing wih players.

[Lovatic]

A pothead? Eww, I don't know no comment :P

[Sexydncr]

Ikr D; and I didn't know he was one until it was too late and I already liked him too much.

[Anonymous]

Because those are the only guys that approach