How to reverse my ex's anger and hurt
So my ex and I dated for two years. I broke up with him a few months ago, but we agreed to try again after a month apart. Things seemed to really... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
I hate to say this, but he is going through so much that he is redirecting his anger on you. He might be having some serious problems. I think you need to step back yourself and evaluate what you want in life. A few years back, I was the emotional bombshell your ex is. When you have no control over your emotions and do not understand them, it is difficult to mix them up and take them out on the people that you do not mean to.
First. He needs to see a health counselor. He is clearly not doing well mentally and could use some help, and unfortunately, you can't do it because he blames you for problems that are not your fault. Next, you might need to find a confidant to start sharing you're feelings with. Break-ups are tough, I have been on both sides. No one wants to get hurt.
Just relax through the days, keep yourself busy with friends and family, and give him space. Don't call or text, and then a few weeks from now say this.
"I am sorry and understand things went wrong the last few months, and I blame myself for a lot of it (No explanation needed). I know you are going through a lot and I hope I can be there to help one day. Until then, you know how to reach me."
Leave it at that, if you go any further he will feel pressured, he is clearly not emotionally stable right now. Being a guy that has been emotionally unstable, it is hard to see the light. It takes months for us to comprehend what is going on, we were not raised to understand emotions, just pack them in till they blow up.
I know his side all too well, and I have seen yours as well, feel free to ask anything else to me.
What Guys Said 3
Sounds like he was going through an extremely rough series of events and you not being there for him (fighting instead) really hurt him and made him believe that your not right for him.
Give him some space and when the time feels right ask to talk with him in person again. Maybe it's just a phase, and if not, get some closure and try move on.
if you don't move on and somehow convince him to try again, this is going to happen over and over again.
Move on! I know it sucks, but you will be a stronger person for it.
What Girls Said 1
I'm in a similar situation and I'm equally as clueless about how to fix it. However, I've just been trying to be a friend to him and let him come around, but I don't know if he actually will.