Is it love or lust? a sudden change noticed.

so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1.2 months.

we kissed for the first time when it was our 8th month together and then the kissing continued.

No make out or sex yet. sex isn't allowed in our religion before marriage so yeah. Anyways things weren't easy on us since 3 months back. he was very dry and distant. he wasn't even talking to me properly, very rude and mean. Well yesterday we were standing and he was looking at me and all of a sudden got hold of my hand and hugged me softly. after the hug he kissed me and said omg I am kissing you after so long and I don't want to leave you. he kissed small with pauses for 5 minutes then kissed my cheeks and we stayed close holding hands and I was in his arms.

I am just confused about this change all of a sudden.

is it love or lust?

because after the kiss he texted me that I smell so good and my cheeks are sweet and blah. the very next day that is today he got all dry :/


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  • Abstinence etc formed by societies, communities and religion have a deep rooted and well thought of meanings and outcomes. The older generations who we call ancient had more foresight than what we do today :)

    Lust was created by nature, love was created to feed lust and ensure oneness amongst people which later communities, societies and religions improvised and also made rigid for various reasons. Lust is the primary thing for nature and love is a support factor.

    You guys have been together for quite a while w/o sex which naturally fuels lust. Hence, in this case lust is YES one of the reasons but will be wrong for anyone to say that it's only lust w/o knowing him and you, knowing the situation etc.

    You'd rather hang on in there keeping your head on your shoulders rather than getting swayed away emotionally and watch how things work out. If he goes around asking you for sex after a few days or anywhere close then it's the lust. However, someone who lusts for his girlfriend is not necessarily wrong but if that is the only reason while in that relationship it sure is :)

    It would be very wrong of anyone including you to judge anything based on one incident