We were friends for a few months before. She had said she wished she could have the opportunity to date me. We hung out some more, semi-dating, and actually slept together a couple times. Eventually I realized I liked her as far more than just a friend. In the few months we were hanging out a lot, I had pretty much fallen in love with her. I told her one night when we were out that what I was going to say I meant, and that I loved her. She had said she loved me before, but I took it as one of the friendly I love yous. She didn't react much to me saying that, so I looked at her and told her to look me in the eyes. Then I told her I loved her, does she know what I'm saying. She was silent, but gave me the sign language sign for I Love You. That's about as far as it went then.
Some time later, when I was dropping her off one time, I told her to wait and I told her that it's easy to say I love someone because I love a lot of people - what's hard is to say that I'm in love with someone. I told her that I was in love with her. That's when it really sank in for her, and she didn't know what to think about it.
About a month and a half later, I told her that she was going to keep hearing it because I was going to keep saying it - I want her more than anyone ever before, and all she has to do is say she's ready for a new chapter. A week later she told me she was ready for the next chapter in her life.
It was rough the whole time because we were kind of back and forth on developing feelings for each other - one was ready when the other wasn't, then things would flip and the other would be ready when the other wasn't. Eventually we got the timing right, and while it was hard going through falling for someone who wanted you before but you weren't ready, then all of a sudden they weren't ready...but it was worth it. Worth every minute of it, and I would gladly go through that torture again to have the paradise I have now.
You might think that the more you ask girls out, the easier it is to do it? Agree with me?
WRONG!
Dude, it's always hard, and it's always a rush, but the rush is something you should thrive on! Let in to the excitement!
Go to the mall with a pal and hit on every girl you see! Have a competition who can get more numbers! :)
Just to it man! Jump in head first, trust me!
I know you asked about boys asking the girl out. But since I'm usually the one asking out, I'll tell you about both.
I usually over think about it a lot. Plan scenarios, dying from the stress and stuff like that. And in the end I just switch to my second personallity ( yes I tend to pretend I'm a different person in times when I need courage) whose life motto is 'F*** it all! Let's just do whatever, and regret nothing' and ask them out.
Usually when I'm asked out ,I know about it beforehand. ( I either know by intuition or someone tells me ^^) So I'm usually prepared. But still I feel my stomach weird and my heart beats faster. I usually get flustered and don't know how to behave while he's asking me out too..
Every girl likes being asked out (im sure every guy does too!). The only probably comes when you have to reject someone, and say sorry, but that you don't have feelings for them romantically. Ofcourse they will be flattered either way. You have to try!
The easiest way is to ask someone to come to a movie or to some activity. It's much easier that way for everyone involved, there's no pressure (well there is a little bit a pressure, its normal to feel butterflies or a bit nervous :)), and you can get to know if you like each other.
If it's someone I like back or at least I think is someone interesting to get to know, then I'd be excited about it. For girls, we'd be frantically looking for the right dress to wear for the occasion. I would be extra pretty and while waiting for him to fetch me, my heart would be racing with every car that passes in front of my house. I'm not a teenager anymore but it still happens to me.
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well simple, I started by waiting until we were alone and just the two of us, walking, away from people we knew, I started by asking her "name" would you like to date me me, and completely screwed that up, then after she asked what I was saying, I said, "name" will you be my girlfriend, she told me she wanted me to meet her parents,
which I have a couple times over, and we are currently dating,
and also I knew her before I decided I wanted to date her, so I wasn't asking somebody I hardly knew to be my girlfriend,
so just do it, and do it before you have a chance to question yourself and what you are doing in the first place
My boyfriend asked me out at homecoming. We were dancing during a soft slow song and he said, "So I have a question; will you be my girlfriend?" I was kind of expecting it but still, my mind went blank and it took me a minute to respond - time which I'm sure made him nervous lol.
I typically never know what's a date. I legitimately had to ask several times because they never said the word 'date'. Hell I didn't know if I was on a date with my current boyfriend the first time we saw each other in two months.
I just thought he wanted food.
I was working on asking him out but he beat me to it and I was really happy when he did because it felt like the timing was perfect and he played off the conversation we were having. I was really excited about it and nervous about screwing things up with him.
Haha well I have only been asked out once and it was during one of those reeeally cheesy science movies. I said yes but I had no feelings for him. But I believe everyone deserves a chance :)
Oh it was simple, we had a relation where it seemed she won't reject me. So I asked her out when the opportunity was given, and did not feel wrong to do so.
Honestly, she kinda saw it coming. It was funny. :D
After waiting and talking to her for a while...I thought "f*ck it. It's now or never." So I pulled her aside after a class we share, and asked. Rejected, but hey. Whatever.
The more you ask girls out, it does get easier, you learn something new every time and you learn from it.
Just did it. Think I was on the can at the time. Texted this chick, and just asked if she wanted to have coffee sometime.
I grow a pair and force myself to not give a damn for a few minutes.
You stop thinking.
Seriously. You decide what you're going to say, put one foot in front of the other--and move.
No guy has ever mustered the courage-hitting on a total stranger doesn't count to me but I declined 99% of the time.
realized I had no choice but to accept and deal with it
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