Is there a window of opportunity for a guy to ask a girl out?

Question

Is there a point where the girl's attraction for the guy begins to fade, or she gets frustrated by him not asking, and if the guy asks then, he'll probably get a "no", and probably always will be all he gets from then?

When is the best time to ask?

there's a load of websites about this window of opportunity. Just wondered if it was true or not.

ashleybeans · Accepted Answer

Honestly.. you gotta make your own window of opportunity. Anything can give you a window of opportunity...

If you work with the girl... seeing her at work, talking, flirting, smiling then BAM you ask her out... lol -.-

Honestly you just gotta get the freakin balls be a man and ask the girl you're attracted to out... honestly girls don't lose attraction for guys but if a guy plays hard to get.. or if he doesn't do anything she'll get mad and assume you don't like her

If you truly wanna be a man.. ask this girl out on a romantic date and she could possibly love you forever if she's head over heels for you...

But you as a man have to man up and ask the girl out.. don't be whimpering in the corner because another man may steal your place!

Just saying this lol to help you dude

h_i_n_e_s · Accepted Answer

Most definitely yes.

If when I like a guy (and if I do, he'll usually get the feeling or I'll send signals) he isn't responsive or seem to take action, then I will start to lose interest because I think HE'S not interested in me.

But there's no ultimate point to do it at - just when you know that you two both have a general attraction for each other, go for it! Even just small talk and a smile is good enough to ask her out or something. Waiting too long is a big mistake for a lot of guys because girls tend to feel unliked, and when a guy makes them feel that way they are subconsciously unattracted to him.

harveykinkle · Accepted Answer

The "window of opportunity" is just when she has feelings for you. You can't really tell when that is without asking her.

But, say you can't kind of have a "thing" with her for a bit then ask her out 9 months later in hopes she likes you now. Some guy did that to me. I told him no.

The way I see it is if you want to date me, you'll ask. That being said, if I want to date you, I ask too.

So, just do it. The worst you can ever get is a "no." It will suck for a few days then you'll get over it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes.

You can tell when she starts saying/doing the things she used to do to you when she first met you (flirt, tease) with other guys she just met, even if they're nothing special, and stops doing them to you.

Just meeting someone is the best time because you can dream up that person. That creates intrigue. Once a girl knows you for a while, there's no intrigue.

kheserthorpe · Accepted Answer

Sort of.

If she's really attracted, no, it stays open.

And in most other cases, it was never open.

But if you're on the edge, and generally seem nice but meek, it could reinforce her view of you as being asexual/meek and that could tip you from the 'yes' to the 'no' category.

What can you do about it?

Become more attractive.

thanhiii · Answer

yup - definitely. be careful about how long you wait to proceed. My mind is always occupied with someone. it usually takes me awhile to save a guys number as a contact in my phone even though we could be talking for days. consider it an honor to be save as a contact lol. but I'll delete him in a heart beat if he is really slow in his actions. I don't care if he is busy or shy - when I talk to you that means I'd like to get to know you and we can go from there. but if all you do is talk and not making a move then chances are you are wasting my time and I'll be gone like a ghost. and you can tell attraction has faded when the texts get shorter - such as "how are you?" - "good". there is no "good - thanks. how are you doing?", so someone else is probably vowing her. BUT if there is a real infatuation - it'll never go away at least not within the next two weeks lol

Anonymous · Answer

Personally.

When I like a guy, my attraction toward him doesn't fade. If he doesn't ask me out, I end up drooling over him for months, waiting for him to make the first move. The point where my attraction for him finally fades is IF I've found someone new that I like.

They say you never truly get over someone until you've found someone new.

After that...well, then you're f***ed. Once she's moved on, there's no going back. So make your move (I'm assuming she DOES like you already) before she's moved on...because if she does, you're gonna be left wondering what could have been :)

Good Luck!

anonymous0418 · Answer

There can be, yes. Don't wait too long, she'll become sad and feel like you aren't interested or you're too much of a ninny to ask. Ask when she is looking at you with bright, wide eyes and has a smile on her face.

Keep her smiling and laughing. Say sweet things to her or be "playful:"

cupcake916 · Answer

id say wait about week after your first date see when she's free to hang out again and then go from there. you know her interest is fading when she starts texting you slow/one word replys etc. good luck! (btw : text her saying would she like to grab coffee, if conversation flows ask her out, why the hell not?)

gummybear888 · Answer

I'm honestly not sure but I guess if you really want something, go after it.

um my fiance, he asked me out about three times and I finally said yes on the third time.

i think I believe if a guy is serious, he will be a bit more persistent um and not mess it up.

RosesAreRed25 · Answer

It really depends. When I started college, there was a guy I liked and we hung out all semester. We clicked and had fun together, but he never asked me out. He would flirt a lot and touch me (like my hand or give me a hug). After the semester ended I was sad, and cried, but got over it. Good thing because 4 months later me and my current Boyfriend started dating. That was about three years ago.

Moral of the story, don't wait too long because we will move on.

Actually the guy still messages me on fbook wishing he took the chance and asked me out. Lol too late!

anonymous0418 · Answer

It depends on how long she is willing to wait.  Does she still seem interested or is she backing off a little? Since she has known for this long, ask her out on a simple date and take things slow that way she doesn't lose her interest and you have time to wait for the opportunity you are most comfortable with actually asking for a solid relationship.

luna33 · Answer

From the moment she said she likes you or she shows some interetsu,that's your opportunity to ask her out. I might wait to see how interested he is in me,let it go for a few months but if he doesn't make a move,then ill assume he is not interested and move on.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, in some ways yes in others no.

After a while she may lose interest if she thinks you aren't interested. How long that might be is entirely dependent on the girl, but as soon as you feel more friend-zoned you can usually bet that the window has closed. Personally, I think it is best to ask her out when you are at the height of flirting back and fourth as that is when you will be in the girls mind the most.

However, over a much longer period of time if you remain friends (close or not) eventually that window may re-open as you 'rekindle' or 'realise' your feelings for one another. The friend-zone can be broken out of.

mashura · Answer

Yeah I guess that's true. I know it is for me. But what it comes down too is literally forcing myself to get over someone. So if they ever did ask me out I have basically killed off any remaining attraction and I just don't give a damn anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

honestly, in the real world, persistence is key. if you want somebody, go after them and don't give up on them easily. forget games and rules. just do it and think of the end goal. I liked this one guy for years and never gave up on him.

liltabbixxo · Answer

If he jacks around and takes too long it makes the attraction fade...leaves a window for finding someone else.

hakunamattata · Answer

If you ask and the girl doesn't like you you can move on and be happy you didn't  'waste' another month waiting... if she says yes then your in luck so taking a chance at anytime benefits you in many ways

Anonymous · Answer

Just ask Everyday that you don't id a chance she will meet someone who will ask her out

ottermere · Answer

Women love a confident man!  Take the chance ask her out if she says no at least you put it out there!

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