What do you think of men who don't chase women?

[Anonymous]

I've always more or less let women come to me. At times I would make a bit of effort but lately I have not been. I don't approach or really care about hooking up. I don't flirt with women who flirt with me. I won't even converse with most women when I'm out unless they start the conversation. I'm considered a good looking guy, I just don't really think the effort is worth the outcome. I guess I'm curious of how women see me though or if they think I'm just rude ?

Women what do you think of a guy who doesn't chase or make effort towards you or anyother women?

[Anonymous]

I really don't have an answer for that unless your're shy, Because I want to know the answer to this myself. Because my family an I was just having a discussion about this the other day , And my sister said that someone asked her was our neighbor gay . I was like what , Because this guy is very good looking , he's a christian, he's very nice, smart and hardworking . And he has spoken negative about gay men , He follows the bible like no other . He's been married before . So we was like , What would make that guy ask that about our neighbor . Only one person was the opposite and said, But he's kinda feminine and neat . We were like so , He's neat . But I don't think he's feminine at all . But my point is , He acts just like you described. He doesn't do any of those things , And the lady he finally agree to marry after 8 years . She had to chase and flirt with him, She had to go to his friend and than he started dating her lol by the way she cheated on him and they got divorced. I would really like to know the answer to this by others.

[Asker]

I guess I feel as though its not really worth the trouble or effort? I've been with a lot of women but I just don't feel like chasing or putting effort in to date..

[Opinion Owner]

I know my neighbor hasn't But with you . I bet if you found that special person , That's just different and enlightening than any one else . You will find that effort

[InSoManyWords]

It depends on the girl!

Some girls may think you are just not interested in which most cases, the girl will give up.

Some girls may find you as a "challenge" and want to try and be the girl that "wins" you.

Some girls may find you to be mature and independent.

Some might think you're shy.

Some might think you're rude and cold.

In some cases, the girl may even think you're cocky and feel like you think you're "too good" to pursue any one.

To your last point, "what do you think of a guy who doesn't chase or make effort towards you or anyother women?" If a woman thinks you don't make an effort to any girl period, she might just assume you're gay and move on.

[Phoenix1991]

As a fellow guy who does the same thing, some woman will find you sophisticated , sophisticated to a woman means mysterious , mystery is a desire for women to know.

I'm usually against stressing myself by doing something I'm not too interested in, so I never really try too hard , believe it or not, I tend to be more successful with women when it comes to not trying.

Maybe its just luck or there's some sort of truth to it.

[Anonymous]

He's a coward who is afraid of rejection, or lacks social skills and can't flirt with women.

Or else he's gay. It could be that.

[Asker]

I've been with a lot of women... I just don't feel any need to pursue them at this time in life. I'm not scared or shy and I am pretty outgoing.