If you don't ask, you don't get. You did the right thing. Now you have closure, and you can move on. Imagine if you'd never asked: you'd never know, and you'd always be wondering.
In my view, if you're a girl, it's less about technique. Either the guy is interested or he isn't. There is nothing more you could've done.
Guys get rejected so much. It hurts the first time. But you get hardened to it. You're a girl, so guys will ask you out even if you do nothing. BUT the chance that a specific guy you want will ask you out is slim. So you did the right thing. Also gaining the confidence to ask people out will help give you more confidence and better people skills in other areas of your life, like work.
NO of course you were not random and weird..you were brave and admirable to tell someone how you truly felt and not repress it like the rest of us. I applaud your bravery. I know you dident offend him in any way shape or form it probably was very flattering for him.
Dont let this stop you from making the first move again there's nothing wrong with a woman doing that and takes a lot of courage and is a great quality shows your good at communication and not afraid to let someone/ your partner how your really feeling.
Don't feel stupid, it's most likely his loss :) I just went through sth similar, but mine was a lot worse :D so don't worry about it, I"m sure he's more like flattered about it. And you need to move on now, it's important that you don't let it get to ya. ;) Who knows, if he sees you in a more independant not caring for him light, he might realize he likes you and wants you ;)
But whatever you do, do NOT feel bad about it. You took a chance. You gained experience. You were brave :) That's good! Be proud of yourself :)
this is what I'm talking about. I see this all time on this site. The girl makes the first move and gets rejected. But a lot of the guys on here insist that we should throw the dice and do the asking. But look what happens.
Im sorry that happened to you Hun. I wish I had your guts, I've liked this guy for a few years now and just can't summon up the courage to tell him because In afraid he'll reject me. At least you two can be friends.
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My friend,
You have won much and lost nothing. Look, guys re different, just like girls. I had girls say very sweet stuff to me and they really meant friendship. Yeah some guys are scared of commitment , but some guys are also flirty by nature.
Personally I don't advise girls with the direct approach for guys.. but what I do is to advise them to be flirty and give indirect hints.. if he doesn't bite .. then he is not into you , or too shy or have no clue about how to talk to women.
What you should do is to be flirty around guys ( not all the time so it doesn't look like you are pushing them) when you make yourself approachable they would have it easier .
I really think you did the right thing by taking the risk and going for what you want. Now you knwo you did all you can .. we can't control people.. may be he is into you may be he isn't .. this is out of year hands now.
You will get there my friend :)
Let me think this over. So you've lost what . . . a DELUSION. How is that a bad thing? You now are empowered with the knowledge of where not to channel your energies. True, your ego is a bit bruised but you move on smarter and better grounded in reality.
You didn't make a fool of yourself - you asked, you got an answer, and life moves on, and you'll never have to wonder if he likes you in that way ever again.
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