Why won't my boyfriend cry in front of me?

[Olibabe]

We have been dating for almost a month. *2.21.13* He's the most serious relationship I've ever had, and I love him to death. Anyways, he told me he would never cry in front of me. I asked him why, and he said it's "unmanly". I think it's adorable when men cry. Especially him. Everything he does is perfect. I want to hold his head to my chest and kiss his head while he cries for hours on end. I want to hold his hand and whisper to him that everything will be okay. I feel like he doesn't trust me enough to cry in front of me though. Please tell me why he won't cry and give me tips on how to!

[animalwithin]

The stigma of men crying=weakness is something that has been compounded over years of human existence. Our modern society doesn't do a good job of making the phenomenon better either. Think back on elementary school, middle school, and high school; often times, kids see a boy crying an immediately he is called a sissy, wuss, or a girl. So very early on we are ingrained with the idea that men who cry are less masculine, have no control over their emotions, and are in turn weak. The paradox is that true real men know that they can't control their emotions 100% of the time and that is why he is expressive of them sometimes, such as crying in a certain situation that makes him deeply sad.

On average, men aren't as expressive of their feelings as women and our automatic response is to rationalize/resolve them inside, which is another reason why we don't have a tendency to cry much, but we do feel the same emotions.

However, You've been with the guy for a little over three weeks, you're madly in love with him, you want him to be open and emptional, and you want to marry him? I see a hard lesson that's going to come from this haha. Look, take your time and take things SLOW. You're both very young and have much to learn. Saying he will never cry and asking him why are both signs of naïveté. If you're crazy about this guy and want to be with him for a long time then you guys need to slow things down and don't take things so seriously and in absolutes.

[Anonymous]

He has already told you why he won't cry - you just don't listen.

He says it is unmanly. This is his belief, and it's just as valid as your belief that crying is cute.

However, he is the one that has to deal with it, so his beliefs trounce yours in importance.

Sounds to me like you want to mother someone - get a doll, a dog or a baby.

[Anonymous]

Ooooookay...

1. Almost a month is not actually all that impressive, sorry. You hardly know a person in that time.

2. Men do think it is unmanly to cry.

3. Of course he doesn't trust you enough to cry in front of you...you've only been dating three weeks!

4. You want to be the man in the relationship. Stop that.

5. Wanting to make your boyfriend cry strictly for your own purposes is kind of really sick and twisted.

6. Give it a year or two (if you last) and then see if he'll open up emotionally to you.

[Anonymous]

You haven't even been dating a month.get to know the guy before insisting he act emotionally vulnerable with you.no offense but you come off clingy, demanding and needy, which in guy world reads as crazy.

[justthewayyouare]

You haven't been dating that long. Stop pressuring him to cry for no reason. Eventually he will when he trusts you.

[foxsquirrel]

This is a good one! Why does he don't want to cry in front of me? ...Well perhaps because this thing called male pride or perhaps because if he does he feels gay. Big time. What the hell, only little girls cry like, you know how, in front of others. Especially if it is your girl. I'd rather die in front of you than cry my dear. Good day!

[MikeGaultier]

You say it's adorable, but there's a good chance you'll be turned off if he does. Does he actually have a reason to cry?

[Anonymous]

Despite what most women say they do NOT want a man that cries in front of them. I don't blame your boyfriend at all. Also no guy wants to be seen as adorable. We want to be seen as strong and masculine.

[Anonymous]

Smash his balls with a hammer and see if he's not going to cry.

Hope I helped ;)

[Anonymous]

He is afraid to look like a sissy

[XNicholex3]

Eventually he will.