I wouldn't say totally abstain from women, mostly because based on experience, I won't approach guys who don't have something that makes me notice them. Its true attractive guys might get more girls approaching them because the 'Go big or go home rational' kicks in, especially at clubs. It doesn't always have to be someone attractive, be interesting, the same things that make guys approach girls work vice versa. You won't approach someone that you don't think will interest you do you? Same thing. I my ex was insecure our whole relationship. Its not sexy. Showing a little 'under belly' might be cute at times but to be possessive and insecure is not. If your already giving up, that says insecurity to me. I would take a break from trying to impress them, take up some of your own interests. Trust me, a guy who has got a plan, can talk, make me laugh, and has his own life is a whole lot sexier than a guy who nervously asks for commitment on the first date. Its not about impressing her, most guys just need help getting her to stick around, don't lay out all your cards on the table right away. Its not two in a relationship, its three, each of you apart and the two of you together. Girls need to chase a little too!
Maybe you're too intense. Girls like to suffer a little. So maybe play the "tight and loose"
Show some interest, make them feel a little special then stop texting for a couple of days. Let her see you talking (not flirting) with other girls or having fun and doing your thing. Then approach her again, then back out again. It sounds silly, but it's what works! Hope it helps, don't give up :)
What the anonymous guy said is true in part, perhaps its the women that your going after that's the problem. Like trying to pick up the next girlfriend to have deep and meaningful relationship at a bar or nightclub is a big no no.
But yes you can just sit there and have the girl come to you if you like but don't feel down when it doesn't happen for a very long time. Because most women aren't like that, they aren't usually the ones to chase down the guy, its more the other way around. But just enjoy yourself, hang out with friends, play sports, or jut whatever and have fun that way you won't feel like your wasting time waiting for some chick to come around the corner.
Your odds of a girl approaching you is extremely low
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I tried getting the food I wanted at a supermarket, but they never had the thing I wanted.
Should I just try waiting at home, and hope that eventually the food I want will come to me?
No, doofus.
Get this through your head, because it's real simple.
Girls don't approach guys.
If you're sick of being rejected, then work on your approach. And take comfort in the fact that when you've been rejected a lot, it stops bothering you.
Don't give up and wait for the impossible to happen.
Girls are retarded in their early 20's you'll get one eventually.
Odds will be hardcore against that of happening
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