First I should mention that there is absolutely no way we can date due to our circumstances. I have a boyfriend and plus workplace romances are strictly forbidden and I would never want to lose my job over this and I don't think he would either. I am trying to figure out why this guy is my friend... Show More
Why is my male coworker hot and cold towards me?
What Guys Said
Im assuming he felt the spark as well, and has feelings for you, he's trying to distance himself from you, because maybe you don't feel the same and plus you have a boyfriend, so he's jealous. Is it the spark thing where you lock eyes, your heart stops, and its just kind of like tunnel vision,& its just you two at that momment, and you just feel so much emotion? I've felt like that before, thought I was crazy or something lol.
What Girls Said
I DONT Know who you are.. but you've just described almost the same scenario thats happened to me ! First off.. thank you for talking about the spark thing.. I've felt it with a co worker.. he looks at me and its like electricity in my body, its a powerful feeling, never really felt that way before, i though i was kinda nuts lol SO THANK YOU ! LOL Not the only one
Second, in your case given you have a BF you need to honor that and walk away, because if you feel something then chances are you will get confused over your coworker and thats just gonna invite drama and problems. Now In my situation, this man was the same way, very hot and cold until i turned the hot and cold on him and now I'm just cold LOL One thing i dislike is inconsistency, and given he is a co worker i didn't want to jeopardize anything- also i don't know his relationship status... but the worst part is that i bump into him out side of work as well and now we don't even talk, perhaps its my fault, but my pint is i miss our little interactions at work however small they were.. his presence made me happy and when got along it was kinda of tender to have that bond... now we just have a cold wall in between :(
If time goes by and this guy is still in your mind, the way my dude is in mines.. then you need to look into that and maybe explore it.. why deny your self of a possible happily ever after? ...