WHITE GUYS: Do you find Muslim (hijab wearing) girls attractive?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 18 year old Muslim girl and wear the hijab (head covering). Ever since I started University, I feel like I've been getting a lot more unwanted/unasked attention from Christian guys.

For instance, I was walking to one of my classes, and this blond guy I pass by says "Hey sexy." I didn't know he was talking to me so I kept going. Then he went and tapped my shoulder from behind to get my attention and starts talking to me, basically saying stuff like he thinks I'm beautiful and he wants my number. Another time, I was at the cafe in my university and ordered a smoothie and the guy behind the counter gave me a once over and said something weird like "Baby, I'm the only smooth thing here..." Another guy from one of my lecture classes asked to go for coffee with me, even though we hardly ever talked to each other. A few days ago I was waiting at the valet parking for my car when another guy came up to me and kept asking for my number and was trying to buy me a drink.

These weren't the only situations there were more but obviously I'm not gonna post my life story on here. lol

The thing is that every time I tell them I'm Muslim and I don't date (or drink), they won't take no for an answer or keep asking to be friends with me.

I thought it was pretty obvious that a woman in hijab is considered "off limits" so to speak and not interested in any relationship with guys...

SO my question is:

Do white guys really find Muslim girls attractive? If not, what exactly is the point of what they're doing? And how am I supposed to get them to stop?

[rohitp20]

I am single never married boy of 28 from India... I follow buddhism and all ethics and do not cross my religious boundary.
I find girls in hijab or burka so attractive. Don't know why?
I get almost loss mind.. I don't feel lust about those girls but get something feeling of love and want to marry them... But of course i get attracted to their slender body in hijab in addition when i look in their eyes.. they are so pure... I am fan of those beautiful girl and their Chasity in hijab.. so attractive to me...

Although being buddhist.. i have to minimize and should not be carried away by attraction on desires... but this is only weak point i have left with...
Many times i think to chase such girl and ask for marriage with her...
But some questions comes in my mind that..
-thier parents might become angry.
-Some muslims do not allow girls out of thier caste for marriage.
-Above two conditions only can considered if i convert to islam but again i think that even i respect islam but i have grown myself in buddhism by own wish completely and it would be hard for me to convert and loose my first love Buddhism.

Although i like Muslims girls in hijab with purity in their eyes so much...

-Ronit

[SteelyMcBeam]

If you are attractive it does not matter where you are from -people will like looking at you. If you don't like it, just make yourself plainer or maybe even uglier (it's much easier for pretty people to become ugly than it is for ugly people to become pretty).

Also, the guys are probably testing their luck with you because they sincerely believe they have a chance. A lot of people who go to college find/lose/change their religions, and I hate to admit my ignorance on the matter but I thought that only women who had their faces covered were off-limits (as in they were engaged/married).

Your best bet is to ask another attractive girl for advice on how to get guys to stop hitting on you. Personally, though I try to avoid hitting on women (especially attractive ones) because I figure they feel the same way that you do.

[Asker]

"it's much easier for pretty people to become ugly than it is for ugly people to become pretty" - aw your comment made me laugh :D That was cute.

And nope, it has nothing to do with being engaged. The ladies who are usually tired of all the attention go from wearing hijab (headscarf) to nijab (face veil). That's all.

Thanks :)

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately sister wearing just a scarf is not enough because they can see your body and if pretty face as well, men get hungry.

Personally I wear full hijab and abaya (body covering, very loose to hide my body shape). Mostly wear dark colours. Men do not bother me but they do nowagain stare if non muslim when serving.

My tip is do not have a soft tone with them, men find it appealing specially if bored and shy types as your less intimidating. Speak firmly, avoid smiling or giggling. Most guys automatically think your interested by looking even once. So they await affirmation from speech.

I blame western media in sexualising men from birth, bombarding them pornography and sexualised images of girls, that they get deseparate for any form of pleasure even sheep and goats not safe.

There are good men out there who regardless lower their gazes and are respectful. I got married to a guy who was a virgin mary too, a Joseph (AS) you could say, I know because we were both clueless after marriage.

[Anonymus124341]

As a white Muslim male (I am a Convert), I completely agree with you.

I am very sad for her situation, she must not let this guys take advantage of her, because from what she wrote, they are not respecting her, they think she is a girl they can date easily whiteout any respect. But any muslim girl should know that she is worth more than that, and one day she will find a man that will respect her for who she is.

As a white male (roughly her age): I can tell you that marrying a Muslim girl means sharing the same family values and having someone that understands his role and responsibility in a family. Of course, this also means that he will take care of her very well because he has a responsibility towards her. What matters are the character and the moral values, but most importantly, being respectful.

[Emilyv]

I feel like guys like the challenge to try to get something that is off limits to them. You could also be very attractive so that might be a bonus in their minds. I would just tell them you are not interested and walk away.

[Betwyn]

For the most part, they just want what is off limits...

[DexHawk2]

yup

[Konnour]

They look like nuns - who would want to do a nun? O_O

[Betwyn]

Well, based on the amount of "nun p*rn" on the internet...

American's. lol

[Asker]

Sometimes the obvious is so obvious that it's overlooked :P

Thanks for your response! :)

[Betwyn]

ty for BA :)

[KingSky2023]

Not all guys want what is "off limits". Well, not me anyways, I'll admit a lot of guys are jerks and just want pleasure but if you look hard enough till find a kind one. Anyways to answer your question yes, most guys find females wearing hijabd very attractive, but being white it's hard for use to figure out the right way to approach you. Like me, I like someone in my school who wears a hijab but I don't know how to approach her. Anyways what I'm trying to say is us guys mostly have no clue what we are saying and most of it is complete nonsense so don't think to hard on this. It's all just a bunch of " horny guys" pretty much. Sorry to tell you.

-Leo

[KingSky2023]

And hey I take offence to that. I happen to BE American. I'm from Cali and I'm living in Canada...

[Valerina]

You should wear long skirt. I once wore long pants, not jeans, but my non-muslim friend still asked for my number. Then when I decided to wear long skirt, he doesn't really talk to me, but he still get nervous around me. It's totally weird.

[Anonymous]

Understand, most guys who are not Muslim have no understanding of what the Hijab is or means. To them, it's just a style of cultural dress, nothing more.

So turn them down when they ask you out, and If they tell you that they want to be friends, then you tell them that you don't believe that men and women have the capability to be "just friends" and that there's always an ulterior motive on the part of at least one person (which is honestly true, a lot of the time).

Clearly, you're very attractive, in spite of the head covering (which we do not find attractive) to be garnering this sort of attention. It's just a cross you're going to have to bear, I'm afraid, annoying as it is.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice :)

Sometimes it is better to just be blunt I guess :P

[shumailkazimi]

i believe in Freedom of Choice...

If I am wearing a T shirt and a track pant nobody can stop me

If a girl wears somethig that she likes to wear and wants to wear she can't be stopped from wearing it as per the constitution ...

so even you can wear what you feel like wearing and what you want to wear...If you get alienated and isolated tahts fine...it happens..try to interact with people you like to be friend with(if not the boys at least the girls) make them understand your feelings ...develop Harmony with them and soon you all will get mixed up ...since there are lots of girls wearing hijab and they are not isolated at all ...Try to ignore those boys you feel uncomfortable with and always be with a group

[frankleberry]

My guess is they are not christian guys. most Americans are christians only because their parents are but they have never gone to church nad neither did ntheir parents. their parents say we are chistian because they feel they have to be something and their parents made them go to church.

Nay way I thik guys especially in college are carppy and stupid. I have found some Muslim girls atractive many have very nice eyes.

Tough to say I think if the same guy sis stuff over an over you cna say hey your becomeing bother some or something .

Or say you can take me to dinner and get a free dinner. I know someguys who think it is cool to try and get woman christian or otherwise to give up their verginity just to see if they can. Be carefull.

[Meedo]

I know some swedish guys who are attracted to middle eastern / arab women .. even if they are Muslim and wear headscarf.. if you are attractive the scarf could even make you more attractive. Also the fact that you are off limits make you more attractive to them. Just reject them nicely ..

[Anonymous]

No, the head scarf is an invite, most guys find something different very appealing, so if you don't want attention, then why draw attention to yourself by wearing a hijab, you want people to notice you by wearing something that only the minority wear, which will draw attention to you, so try and blend in with the culture that surrounds you, because no guy is going to take notice of what your beliefs are, or even believe you don't date, and they will just take this as playing hard to get, which will make them try harder next time. So you either try and become simular to the way others around you are, which will get you less attention, or put up with the attention you are causing yourself by wearing the head scarf.

[Asker]

You bring up a good point.

Wearing a hijab signifies that I'm Muslim and probably gives off the vibe that I'm religious, so that may be the factor that stops some guys from approaching me. But if I were to take off the hijab to try to "blend in" as you say, wouldn't that make me stand out more because then it'll seem like I'm letting go of my religion?

[Opinion Owner]

No religion should be practiced but not forced on everyone else. If your belifs are as such, then by all means practice them, but by wearing something so obvious to a religion, you are drawing the attention towards yourself for no reason, but without, you are blending in which would result in people not even noticing what religion you are, and more often than not, ignoring you.

[DutchAtheist]

I guess non-Muslim guys are less aware of what is considered normal for Muslim women. You do know that non-Muslims approach each other freely, right?

On the other hand, Muslim guys, where I live, tend to be very direct to non-Muslim women, approaching them, touching them, getting angry when turned down.

I guess they figure all non-Muslim women are 'interested'.

[kheserthorpe]

I think they figure they're all sluts from how they dress, since in THEIR culture only sluts dress that provocatively.

[Asker]

Yup, I know. I grew up in Canada and the U.S. so I'm familiar with Western culture.

Wow, where do you live that those guys are harassing people like that?

[DutchAtheist]

Take an educated guess.

[TheInsideMan]

You're in University...All 18-21 year old guys -white, red, black, yellow, brown...find any girl attractive.

The point is because they're young, and it's supposed to be fun and funny.

As far as getting them to stop...HA...you only control your actions in this world.

Go to class.

[Asker]

Never thought of that :P

Thanks :)

[ketfoen]

Wearing a hijab in many western societies doesn't mean the same thing from where your originally from. If you have nice facial features and appeal to the guys, they will approach you.

I have known plenty of Muslim girls where I'm from and some of them also wore a hijab, but I never considered them off limits and they flirted with me just as well when I approached them and I'm Chinese.

My religion never stopped me from meeting new people or pretty girls from any race.

[Asker]

I do live in a Western society - grew up in Canada and the U.S. - so I do know their culture :P

My religion doesn't stop me from interacting with people outside of my race, and I happen to have a very diverse group of friends. I'm just not interested in dating anyone.

But you do bring up a good point: If one hijabi dates a non-Muslim guy, how's he to know everyone is not like that?

I never thought of that. Thanks for your response :)

[ketfoen]

Well, most Muslims that live here are quite liberal and many marry out of their religion and sometimes convert, I've seen it plenty. When I was in junior High, I used to like a girl Sabina, later I learned she was Muslim, but didn't act anything like the ones that wore the headscarf or long sleeve shirts and pants. I later realized they were all over, but didn't act anything how they were portrayed on TV in other countries. After visiting her house for a study session (me actually studying her)

[ketfoen]

I met her parents and was greeted very friendly, I had many more study sessions after that, hehehe. We flirted somewhat, but it never grew into something more, but she was clearly interested. There have been a couple of new influx of immigrants in the Muslim community and are starting to start some havoc in the community, disagreeing with so many things. The biggest one is the Synagogue and the Mosque that are right next to each other in the middle of the city. Also the marriages between

[ketfoen]

the different religion couples and interracial marriages. I find it all annoying, because it took so long for people here to build a quiet integrated society and now morons from the outside want to mess it all up. Well, that's progress for ya, hehehe.

[Stingraey]

I find arab women to be the MOST attractive women period. Perhaps because they're the most exotic. It's extremely hard to land one, though, because of all their religious hangups. From what I understand they're the most sexual as well. Probably because they're so repressed they just let it all out when they can.

[JeramiahaWalker]

I think Muslim women are some of the most beautiful women out there. I have ran into a few Muslim girls lately. But they haven't worn Hijabs. A few were from Syria due to the wars and some from Iran.

I frankly can't figure it out... something about them I find alluring. Maybe it is the hereditary, distinctive noses or facial structures.. They are just beautiful to me. But every so often when I try to kindly approach one I get turned down. Perhaps it is their religion or them just wanting no contact. I am sure it is because I am a Christian.

[oldisgold]

As a Muslim hijab wearing female myself, i find your thoughts about Muslim women very sweet and pleasing, it is very rare that we hear kind words about us particularly in today's society where Stereotypical views and negativity regarding our faith are an impending theme throughout the media etc. Unfortunately it is true that the reason you get turned down is due to religious drawbacks particularly because often when we get married, we prefer to raise our kids with our religious beliefs, it's safe to say that this can be the case for many people of different religions as well. So ideally, we prefer to marry Muslim men for the sole purpose of having Islam be the main faith in our household, and also, it is usually easier to understand and get along with people of your own faith. Having said that, I am sure you will be a worthy spouse for a Muslim woman if ever you choose to convert perhaps, but if you ever do, please do it for God not for any human. Peace and love :)

[Anonymus124341]

@oldisgold As a white Muslim male (I am a Convert), I completely agree with you.

I am very sad for her situation, she must not let this guys take advantage of her, because from what she wrote, they are not respecting her, they think she is a girl they can date easily whiteout any respect. But any muslim girl should know that she is worth more than that, and one day she will find a man that will respect her for who she is.

As a white male: I can tell you that marrying a Muslim girl means sharing the same family values and having someone that understands his role and responsibility in a family. Of course, this also means that he will take care of her very well because he has a responsibility towards her. What matters are the character and the moral values, but most importantly, being respectful.

[jackhammer900]

i lived in arabia for like most of my life hijab makes a guy wonder what is under it it's kinda sexy the problem here in this case that hijab contadicts it's puros you are getting the extra attention from men instead no attention at all because the hijab suppose to make men stop looking at you and don't give you attention not the opposite it's more than a tradition than a religious requerment hard to say.

[Anonymus124341]

As a white Muslim male, I find Hijab-wearing Muslim girls attractive. (I am a Convert)

I am very sad for your situation, and please don't let this guys take advantage of you, because from what you wrote, they are not respecting you, they think you are a girl they can date easily whiteout any respect. But you should know you are worth more than that, and one day you will find a man that will respect you for who you are.

As a white male (roughly your age): I can tell you that marrying (and dating) a Muslim girl means sharing the same family values and having someone that understands his role and responsibility in a family. Of course, this also means that he will take care of her very well because he has a responsibility towards her. What matters are the character and the moral values, but most importantly being respectful.

[Dharlome]

I dont think girls in Hijab are attractive at all. It gives them a bald look that creeps me out. And the immigrant ones dont wear deodorant and stink really bad. I've never smelled a non muslim woman who smelled like that. I feel like they are the bottom of the bucket when it comes to desirable women. And they typically have arrogant personalities walking around feeling to good for everybody else when they seem to be the only ones who think so. Where I live in America most people hate Muslims in general and wouldn't dream of wanting a Muslim woman. Also they need their parents permission for everything non muslims easier to get along with. Far more attractive and can think for themselves.

[Settingemstraight]

i don't think it really does anything either way.

I once really offended a Muslim friend of mine my not knowing that she was Muslim.

She wore a hijab regularly. Not everyday but often. And it just never really registered.

Meh. I would see a pretty girl and approach her, Nothing to do with her hat.

[DeepBlue]

You're an 18 year old (likely attractive) girl, and that's what is getting you attention. I don't think the hijab matters one way or the other.

[Anonymous]

I have the same situation as you and I'm a muslim that covers too. I attract none-muslim guys without even doing anything at all. Even when I'm with my family, some guys have the guts to approach me and it can even go to marriage proposal sometimes. But since they're non-muslims who have no interest in converting, my answer is always no. You can't really control what comes at you and just have to learn to deal with it! lol The importance is to know what you have to do as a muslim woman and stick firmly to your convictions. Also, know and always remember what you want from this life!

[Valerina]

I also have the same situation. I wear full cover hijab. I don't even put make up whenever I go out except powder. No eyeliner, no eyebrow color pencil, no lipstick. But some of my non-muslim friends are attracted to me (I live in a non-muslim country). There were also 3 non muslim guys that were attracted to me when I was in the bus. I could tell by their body language. Good thing they didn't approach me cause they didn't have guts, but what I think about is why I still get attention from men?

[Anonymus124341]

As a white Muslim male (I am a Convert), I completely agree with you, be careful.

I am very sad for your situation, you must not let this guys be interested in you, because from what I've seen first hand, they are not respecting you, they think you are a girl they can date easily (or also intriguing) whiteout any respect. But any muslim girl should know that she is worth more than that, and one day she will find a man that will respect her for who she is.

As a white male : I can tell you that marrying a Muslim girl means sharing the same family values and having someone that understands his role and responsibility in a family. Of course, this also means that he will take care of her very well because he has a responsibility towards her. What matters are the character and the moral values, but most importantly, being respectful.

I am very sad for your situation, that has to be hard.

[harry1231990]

there is always been excitement that "what's hidden inside if it is covered"...so it is really a turn on for most of guys when they see woman in Hijab...Hey Dear,this is the proof of the one of sentence that "women are more beautiful when they are covered"...i have some more question ,pls leave me massege if you wanna to know them(I will not ask them publicly)

[Asker]

That makes sense, but what's so "exciting" about what's underneath? lol It's just hair

[harry1231990]

sorry I didn't read your question carefully.I thought of Hijab covering body,including head.

[Anonymous]

I'm actually surprised of that. It's kind of hard to tell if I'm attracted to someone or not if I can't see their entire face and hair. Hair can make or break an otherwise attractive girl.

Also, if you don't date, how will you ever determine if you are compatible with a potential husband? It's like various that frown on living together before getting married. That's not a very bright idea since you have no idea whether you'll be compatible or not, living under the same roof as someone is totally different than just dating them.

There's nothing you can really do about it though other than perhaps make yourself as unattractive as possible.

[blackeagle007]

I find any woman attractive regardless of race etc. But to be honest, I like to look at a woman as a whole. Now I'm not saying she must be naked 24-7. But face, hair must be visible. I'm not disrepescting the hijab at all. I respect everyone and their right to their own religious faith. But I would like to see a womans face and hair. If I met a gal whome is Muslim and I could see her hair, I'd go out with her.

[Anonymous]

I pity them.

A hijab is IMHO a clear sign they don't want contact, thus I'll avoid contact. A bit like I'd avoid speaking to a nun: link