Girl avoids me, but stares at me from distance

[BeCoolFool]

There is a girl at work does stupid things to get my attention .. always stares from distance .. every time she crosses me where there is a chance of conversation .. she fast walks\puts her head down ...

Is this normal for girls and should I still make a move?

[ohwowitsnotkim]

I'm doing this with I guy I work with that I fancy a bit. The reason she might be doing this is because she's a. shy and b. worried she's going to say something to mess up her chance.

if she's anything like me, the reason I speed up is because I don't want to look at him because then I think "should I smile?" should I even say hi?" I get nervous and then just decide its best to ignore it.

i then decide that "i am being really weird/creepy" by not talking to him, so I pump myself up and go over to say something to him--even if its nervous small talk.

with that in mind, it'll be great for you to make the first step for her. the reason she's doing this is because she has no idea how you feel (and if she saw this on a website, she'd probably assume you really didn't like her because you call her nervous habits stupid cries for attention from you) about her.

i hope that helps.

[Anonymous]

She likes you, but can't act on it cause either you/she may have a girlfriend/boyfriend and she may feel if you/she knew that in fact there was another (in yours/her life) that she/you would feel its not appropriate to "flirt" or express what "good" feelings you make her feel. Or she feels you are a 10 and she's only a 5 in her mind anyway.

[Mahmenn]

I'm in the same situation with a girl in my college , everytime I get in class room /amphitheather or anywhere she happens to be I spot her talking and jiggling while looking at me , lot of eye contact etc but she seems shy

[sandy343244]

Sounds like she is interested, but regardless just go over and talk to her, if she is all smiles and the conversation flows flirt a little, we all get nervous around those we like, and then ask her out sometime.

[Relationshipexplain]

I've been considering the situation where a girl stares from a distance but ignores you, particularly in social settings, and here's a breakdown of potential reasons and how to react:

• She's Interested: She might like you but is shy. Approach her with a friendly smile to break the ice.
• Scouting for a Friend: She could be assessing you for a friend who's interested. Look around for someone who might be acting similarly discreet.
• Social Media Connection: If you've recently connected on social media, she might be recognizing you from there.
• Past Acquaintance: She may know you from school or work but is hesitant to approach due to intimidation or uncertainty.
• Your Reputation: If you're well-known or popular, she might be curious or cautious based on what she's heard about you.
• Seeking Help or Opinion: She might need assistance or value your opinion but is hesitant to approach.
• Physical Attraction: She finds you attractive and is content observing from a distance.
• Good Connections: Your social or professional network might intrigue her, making her curious about you.
• Singleness: She's single and interested but doesn't want to appear desperate.
  Mutual Staring: Perhaps she's just returning your gaze, equally curious why you're looking at her.
• She’s a Guest: If you're hosting, she might be observing you out of curiosity, especially if she's new or uninvited.
• Prank or Setup: It could be a setup for attention, especially if others are also watching.
• Interest in a Friend: She might be interested in someone you're with, using you as a reference point.
• Secret Knowledge: She could know something about you that’s not widely known and is assessing you based on that.
• Competitor: In a professional setting, she might be your competitor, there to observe.
• Familiarity: You might remind her of someone from her past, causing her to stare but maintain distance.

In response, if you're interested, a polite approach with a friendly conversation can clarify her intentions. If not, maintaining your distance and respecting her space is key. Understanding these reasons can help navigate the situation sensitively. Feel free to check out my post on Relationship Explained for more details on any of these points!

[SotiCoto]

She is probably afraid of you. Probably figures you for some sort of sexual predator or rapist waiting to pounce. Absolutely do not make a move. Don't even look at her. Keep your distance and leave her alone.

[Cuddle_Muffin]

go ask wtf her problem is, if and only if you like her.

[Anonymous]

maybe she think you have a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

do you like her?

[Opinion Owner]

because if say she does stupid things to get your attention, then maybe you don't like her so much. but if you do like her, then you definitely SHOULD do something! sounds like she is shy, so what do you expect her to do?

[BeCoolFool]

what I expect her to do ? Create an opportunity where I can come and ask her.. I cannot keep chasing someone all the time ...

[Opinion Owner]

does she even know that you like her?

[Opinion Owner]

are you from vancouver by any chance? you are describing a girl that sounds exactly like me :) me at work that is ... whenever I run into someone ...