Is it attractive to guys when a girl is "motherly"?

[dreamergirl94]

Or "maternal" or whatever.

I volunteer with a lot of kids, am usually around kids, babysit alot, etc and I'm going to school to become a teacher. I just love kids! lol.

People don't usually think I would be the type by first glance for some reason (I've been told), and I know some guys who have learned this about me either love it or get turned off by it. It's not like I'm going to treat a guy like he's my son though LOL!

Is this attractive to guys? Or does it make the girl seem "childish" ?

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Oh gosh! Guys I do NOT mean treating guys like child..i'd never do that! I just know a lot of guys do not like kids because they are "annoying" but I love them so I feel like it would be a turn off that I like kids, I don't know? Lol. Not treating a guy like a child and praising him..LOL that's just messed up

[journeyman1126]

Little boys would of course be looking for a p*rn doll with no nursery related accessories, such as children. Older men might want a plugin instant mom for when they have their kids on visitation. Even older men would want a girl your age, but one that isn't interested in having kids, because the man is done breeding.

Yay, I'm so positive tonight. Herniated disks do that to me.

Anyway, the nice part of my answer is the RIGHT guy will love that you are good with children.

If you're looking for someone to share your life with and are open to having a family, run screaming from the guys who don't like kids. They end up acting like moody step-parents, I'd assume. Their children would grow up to be angry neglected people who neglect those around them.

And I'm back to not being nice. Mea culpa.

You're a very pleasant person and you deserve (although I hate the word deserve, and can rant for hours on the mass advertising campaign to make us all entitled children...) to be happy.

Not like some grousing middle aged person who doesn't get to see his kid much, but would love to have someone like you to help provide the social grace I... er, I mean he, apparently needs to see the boy more often.

Because he'd assume a woman with the inter-relationship skills to connect with a group of children and be a positive influence would be good at making his world more social, more inter-connected.

Of course, it'd be more entertaining to assume you meant you'd baby me in a relationship. That'd be more fun. Soothe my ire. Would you forgive my grumpiness, encourage my happiness, make me warm milk and get me an ice pack for this hellish ache in my spine, then maybe tuck me into a big fluffy frilly bed you've decorated, nuzzling me against your breast, while I sleep?

God, I'm just going to keep that vision in my head, and toddle off to sleep.

[VoiceOfReason]

I think strong maternal love an instinct would be an asset that any guy would appreciate in a woman, As a guy, I would admire those qualities because I would know that while I'm away at work, the children would be getting all the love they can get, while being cared for lovingly and competently.

I personally would not find my children as annoying, but I view them as a symbol of love between and an extension of both parents. I think that the child is the greatest gift that a couple can share with one another. It's a quality I realize a lot of guys lack, but I still feel most would also share similar views as mine.

[toulouse]

I think being caring ad compassionate especially when you are not legally obligated to be, is attractive. Woman or Man. Not only is it attractive, but Id specifically find guys unattractive who did not have those qualities.

[dreamergirl94]

Agreed!

[QueenBeatris]

not childish but motherly,they already have a mom so if you don't want to be looked at as a mom but girlfriend material,stop acting motherly..attentive is more attractive,but not overly

[dreamergirl94]

haha no but I don't act motherly towards the guy! that's the weird thing. I know some guys have said its attractive and even "cute" when they see me playing with kids, helping kids, etc but then there's some who I guess are afraid I'd be their mother lmao

[QueenBeatris]

its one thing to be cute playing mommy to little kids but grown men don't like it,they have their own mommas

[dreamergirl94]

Lol I didn't say I act that way towards men...I really just mean if it's attractive that a girl is good with KIDS. not treating a man like a KID... lol

[QueenBeatris]

oh that is different

[dreamergirl94]

Yeahh..I worded it really badly hahaha *facepalm*

[Anonymous]

I think its a good quality but just be able to balance and still be sexy.

[loda1994]

neither. some guys feel like you will ask them to propose to you and have children. others feel like you are extra cute and with the right looks you'd be cute and sexy at the same time which is the best thing ever.

don't change yourself for anyone though

[dreamergirl94]

Oh goodnesss.. I mean't like just being good with kids. Not being an obsessive girl wanting to settle down right away and sh*t lmao

[born2bwild]

as long as she is not obsessed with the children and forget about love life and sex it's OK. actually I have always liked my teachers while I was in school. some of them were really beautiful. I still fantasize about them. I like girls who love children. I am sure some of them are goint to have a crush on u.

[yj1968]

The man as a child. You are female, it's not your fault, you are willing to take care of others; This is not your fault.

Only people who don't want to assume responsibility not love children. Peers may find opportunity is less, you find a single man with children may be more able to talk to.

[AnonGuy]

It depends on how soon the guy wants kids, because he's going to interpret your behavior as wanting to make babies ASAP. If the guy wants that, he'll find your behavior attractive, otherwise it'll probably be a turnoff.

[dreamergirl94]

I mean just a female who is good with kids. Not a female going after a guy treating him like a baby and wanting kids lol, I hope people get that

[AnonGuy]

I never said you're treating him like a kid. You don't need to treat a man like a kid for him to get the impression that you want children. I don't know where you're getting that idea from.

[dreamergirl94]

my bad, sorry :p

[RasmusAiken]

Yes it is. And any guy who is mature enough to think beyond satisfying his own sexual needs will be quick to admit it. After all, a man is choosing a lifetime mother for his children and grandmother for his grandchildren.

[Gnome0]

I don't mind a woman that likes children and is around children. I'm around children at my job, and I find them to be a mild annoyance. I think a woman that is nurturing and caring even for her boyfriend or husband is sexy. Maybe I just like that type of woman. I'm kind of on the sensitive side, maybe that's why I find motherly or nurturing women sexy.

[Anonymous]

I think it's great. While I'm only 23 and not quite ready for a child yet, I do find it very attractive if I see that a girl would be a great mom. Cause then I'll know she can take care of our child when I go to work to pay the bills. BTW you have some gorgeous eyes:)

[dreamergirl94]

Aww sounds cute :) & thanks for the compliment :)

[sexyasianboi26]

As long as you don't act like our mothers and treat us like your son, we are okay with it.

[dreamergirl94]

of course not LOL

[blackkid2]

I find generosity attractive but not necessarily being motherly. That's a good question.

[dreamergirl94]

Yeah, like being generous towards kids and being good with kids is what I mean! I guess motherly is a bad word lol woops

[toulouse]

@I find generosity attractive but not necessarily being motherly.

Exactly what I was going to say ;-)

[SoloYo]

Depends on the guy I reckon, just make sure you don't treat men as boys and use your femininity (not girliness..) to attract them, men love that.. at least I do.

[cynbalistic]

Idk, so far I haven't met someone like that before. I have to get to know you in person. But as long you don't treat me like a kid. Like telling me what to do or praising me like you would to a kid is definitely a turn off.

[dreamergirl94]

Haha you haven't met a girl that is good with kids? That's what I meant, I guess I worded it really bad lol

[cynbalistic]

Ohhh, lol...yeah I met girls who are good with kids, haha. I think its wonder that you love kids.

[MyNameIsJonas]

I think the fact that you care for others is attractive. It lets me know you see things outside yourself and want to help others.

[johnvanjohn]

moderation in every thing is my moto. but sure a discreet show of motherness is totally attractive and feminine. its healthy and its a definite expression of woman nature. in the end of the day a man is just a grown child.

[Anonymous]

As long as you don't treat your boyfriend like a child, then yes it's attractive. A kind, caring personality will make you girlfriend material for a lot of guys.

[orbittingman]

That's great, I think it's a very feminine trait. A lot of guys would see "caring\motherly" as a positive girlfriend-material attribute. Of course, if you treat adults like children, that would turn us off.

[beastman88]

well if a guy wants to have a family iam sure those are qualities they would look for ;)

[Prof_Don]

For me yes it is...because that is a feminine behavior pattern/trait. :)

[Anonymous]

Motherly as in she'll spank me and breast feed me? yeah that's a turn on.

[MikeK]

LOL Good answer!

[dreamergirl94]

...-.-

[beastman88]

lmfao

[john52461]

I think it is, I like a sweet girl who is caring...

[Ash3457]

Since when to be considered sexy you need to dislike children? To show a guy you like children turns them off how? If you haven't given birth to a kid you are not a mom period.