Mixed signals... does she likes me or wants me to back off?
so there is these girl at work that I know for a year and we are friends and we start to flirt a few weeks back, all the good stuff giggles, smiles, eyes, and a lot of teasing back and forth. we are close so we talk a lot and I know there is these other guy she likes so after some time she started talking to me about these guy a lot like she tells me she likes him and stuff. so my question is:
i was pretty sure she liked me and was gonna ask her out but I took my time so is she pulling me away or making me jealous so I move forward?
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I actually think she likes you.
But she may think you don't like her. She may think she's in YOUR friend zone.
From personal experience, just because I've told myself that a guy I like doesn't like me back and I go onto the next guy, it doesn't mean that I don't like my guy friend anymore. It just means that I'm trying to not like him anymore by getting a distraction (another guy). So, what I would say to you is to go on and ask her out without asking her out. Take her out somewhere like a movie or something and compliment her. Tell her she looks beautiful or something and be a completely gentleman. Try and brush against her and flirt. Let her see that she's not a friend to you.
At the end of the night, you can kiss her on the cheek goodbye and be a little close to her lips when you do. You can ask her to do other stuff too, but make sure it's just you and her so she doesn't get confused with group activities.
She's not in love or married to these other guys she likes. She probably likes them and likes you too. That's always a possibility. I think that everybody's kinda right on this one: she's moving on, but she's still trying to make you jealous too. Maybe this is her way of getting your attention by proving that she's datable to other men so she can look more appealing to you.
If that rambled mess didn't make any sense, I'll try and simplify it: she still likes you, ask her out to the movies or something, flirt, flirt, flirt, and see how it ends up.
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I am sorry man, but you are late... You took so long that she lost hopes or she defines you as a friend. You had your chances...
Maybe if you react well, you will have your chance. But I think you should not wait for her or for a "possibility" of love. Do not beg for love or don't be desperate in front of her.
Just move on and live your life. Take your distance. If she's into you, she will show up for you...