Right time to ask a girl out?

When is the right time to ask a girl out? I don't have a lot of experience because I am a 21 year old guy who is still single, never had a girlfriend, been single my whole life. I want to change this, I want to experience dating and my first relationship while I am still young, I don't want to wait until I am 25 or 30. Anyway, I am kinda very analytical about this, because I don't want to ask the girl out too soon, and I don't want to ask her out too late.

C'mon, if a guy asks a girl out too soon, like right off the bat, jumping the gun, that will make the girl feel uncomfortable, that will look desperate and needy, creepy, etc., and if a guy asks a girl out too late, the girl will get worried, impatient, will think that I not like. I also might get stuck in the "friend zone", and also there is going to be competition from other guys, because there is the old saying "you snooze, you lose", because another guy might grab her first, well not literally.

Anyway, how long should a guy have been talking to a girl, how long should the guy get to know the girl before asking her out and initiating a hang out, date and relationship?

I would like to know from both genders, but is it okay to ask a girl out when it is my first time meeting her? Like the very first encounter I meet a girl, is it okay to ask her out? Like if it's a girl I see in school, community college.
Also what does asking out mean? does it mean making the girl officially becoming your girlfriend? or does it mean asking her out on a date?
Also what are good ways to approach and talk to girls, strike up a conversation, make a good first impression, without trying too hard, and without coming on too strong or awkward? What are good ways to do it in the school library or at a bench or table?
Like if I see a girl sitting outside in the Quad, because I go to community college, sitting down at a bench or table, or a girl in the library, sitting at table studying, or she is using a computer, how are good ways to approach and start talking to her?
If I ask a girl out too soon, like right off the bat, that will make me look desperate and needy. Also if I ask out her out too late, another guy might ask her out first, there is the old saying "you snooze, you lose".
Also the girl might lose interest if I am taking too long to ask her out, she will think I was just flirting with her for the heck of it, or I only see her as a friend, or I am not interested. How can I tell when a girl is waiting for me to ask her out?
How will I be able to tell when a girl is comfortable around me when I approach her and talk to her?
How long should I have been talking to a girl and getting to know her before I finally ask her out?
Seriously, how can you prevent one-sided conversations from happening?
Also how do you become friends with a girl without making her think you are hitting on her? Because people tell me that they were friends with their boyfriend/girlfriend for sometime before actually dating.


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  • Hey dude, you can't be expected to be spoon fed everything.

    Get out there, make mistakes and learn trough trial and error what works best.

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      I like ur answer

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      Horse sh*t. A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.