I used to be unsuccessful with girls of all attractiveness levels. Now after improving my game, I’m successful with girls of all attractiveness levels. I’ve noticed many guys go through similar experiences.
Don’t average and below-average girls realize that they’re basically pricing themselves out of the dating market by having standards that are pretty much the same as the standards that above-average girls have?
It’s not as if below-average and average girls don’t care if they never get boyfriends. They do complain and whine if ‘the right guys’ don’t approach.
Girls or guys can have whatever standards they want. BUT if they are not getting the type of partner they want they shouldn't complain . We tell people to be realistic and they get upset.
That probably has to do with logical thinking. We all can't come in first place so there must be a second , third etc. I think guys are more willing to be second or third compared to girls. I think that girls are more willing/happy to remain single than guys hence the higher standards. They are willing to wait a very long time to find the ideal guy compared to us. We would take almost anyone who is available. Guys generally don't have high overall standards for girls.
When some of these girls get older and realize that they really need to be realistic they start to settle in their droves. This is one of my biggest fears. I'd feel so ashamed and inadequate if my future wife really wanted an above average guy, couldn't get one so was forced to lower her standards ( to a more realistic type) or end up alone. I was there in my teens and twenties and overlooked and now that she wants stability she'll come to me. It really makes me sick.
I get the whole controversial pricing out of the market thing. I also understand why you'd rather just try you luck with those above average girls than to go to the average or below average girls and have similar odds.
This video always makes me laugh about this whole standards thing link
No any person can still have standards. I think any woman complains when they feel the wrong type of guys are approaching. What does the first part of this question have anything to do with the rest of your question? Are you saying because you think the girl is not attractive in your eyes she should be selling herself short to please somebody else?
Well that's hilarious actually, because unattractive guys are usually the ones complaining that they can't get any girls when they in fact are trying to flirt with girls of the highest standard. Their is nothing wrong with having high standards, male or female, don't act as if this is a completely female phenomenon because if anything it's more of a male phenomenon.
Attitude is the key. I consider myself average and I get hit on by different types of men. And how many times have you seen ugly chics dating HOOOT men. And super hot chics dating guys way below average.
If the chic is ugly and has a horrible attitude of course no hot, average or ugly man will like that (well most won't)
If the guy is ugly and has a horrible attitude then of course no chic likes that.
I've seen so many times people dating out of their league that I really don't think that everyone thinks like you.
Some people see beyond looks and money. Guys that can't get any is their own fault. Women that can't get any is their own fault.
I've never gone out of my league, but even men I consider in my league reject me. I'm someone who has been on my own for years, I take care of myself, I have a nice condo and car, a nice savings account and very independent. I am thin, I am active, and work out at the gym daily. I dress well. I just have a really ugly face. I was hanging out with a few friends of mine this weekend, and one of my girl friends thought that I should be set up with a guy she knows. I agreed, so I met him today. He has never moved out of his moms, he's 33 (I'm 27) he works part time but he's in debt (even though he has no bills) he has bad hygiene and is overweight. But I agreed anyway because I figured he could be a good guy, and maybe there is a reason why he still lives at home. I don't know his story. He saw me, and didn't even give me a chance because he only goes for tall blond girls (have to be at least 5'8 and I'm 5'4) with blue eyes. He walked out on the date. Later my friend called me to tell me what he told her. He told my friend that I am the ugliest woman he ever saw and he'd rather be dead than sleep with someone like me. He told her that I am the type of woman who men settle for. I'm a loser in his eyes.
So even though I've been successful in life, and I have an open mind about who I date I get rejected. I am the ugliest woman in the world, and I am only for men to settle for. I'm hideous. I don't even know why I bother working out if no one cares anyway. People only care about a persons face and nothing else. I am nothing but a loser.
just because someone isn't "gorgeous" doesn't mean they don't deserve to choose who they like. seriously wtf is up with your mindset?
no one should have to settle for anything, if you're desperate then go ahead and take whatever you can get, but it's not like if your looks are below a 6 then you should just scrape the bottom of the barrel.
your reasoning doesn't work anyway because there isn't a scale for beauty so one guys vision of hot is another's vision of trash.
and this may sound crazy, BUT there's still the personality aspect
Why can't all girls have standards? I may not be the most glamorous looking woman, but I'll be damned if I settle and decide to be unhappy just because someone else says that I'm average or below-average.
What defines whether a girl is average, below-average, or above-average?
I guarantee you that some guys have looked at me and said I'm ugly or fat.
I was bullied a lot in school by both boys and girls.
I have also had people tell me that I look like a model, that I have the most gorgeous skin ever, that I have a heart of gold, that I'm the most unique person they've ever met. I've been told that I'm amazing.
So who gets to decide whether a woman is below-average, average, or above-average?
Oh, and if I could give you "BQ" (Best question) I would.
The problem with this logic that average and below-average girls need to realize their market of availability is that everyone has their own preference of what is attractive. I know girls that for some reason everyone thinks is hot, but I really don't see it. I just see a girl that is average, or at the very best slightly above average. Then there are girls that some guys will find either ugly or average and I will think they are above-average or really hot.
So, first you have that problem. Then you have the problem of how people perceive themselves. There are folks that are, generally speaking (meaning most people) would find to be really attractive but yet these individuals think they are highly unattractive. Then you have people that most people will think are really ugly, but these specific individuals think they are really hot.
So, how can a person that is average or below-average realize that they are pricing themselves out of the dating market when they have the perception that they belong to the top 1% of hot/sexy people.
So, this sums up why people have standards. Everyone on this planet has standards and should have standards. The reason why we date is to find out if all our standards match. What creates the dating environment in the first place is the first set of standards. Looks. A persons physical attraction is the first set of standards that people go by when dating someone. If both partners feel that the other meet within their standards then they date. While dating, if the other standards match (such as behavior, habits, and overall traits) then it turns into a serious relationship. These standards that people have help us find the person that is best suited for us. I don't believe anyone should "settle" with something less than what their standards are. If they happen to have unrealistic standards then they will suffer from this choice, but this choice is theirs to make. I don't have a problem with women or men that complain with not being able to find "the right person". My reasoning for not having a problem with this is because it's part of my standard to cross off anyone on this list. If someone is all "woe is me" , then clearly they aren't the person that I'd want to be with or even associate myself with. I'm sure many girls out there feel the same way. They don't have a problem with the guys that complain (other than it being annoying) because they find it unattractive and automatically are taken off the list of possible candidates With one less person on the list of possible candidates, it makes finding the one person that they feel is best suited for them all the more easier.
I know. Some women complain and whine that the" right guy" doesn't approach them instead of doing some approaching themselves sometime. They claim that personality and confidence is all that matters , but when a guy does approach them, It's all about PHYSICAL ATTRACTION which is the first test when approaching a potential mate because personality and confidence are worth nothing if you can't pass the physical attraction part. Maybe they should lower their standards I hear guys get told that all the time when they can't get a woman.
Everyone has "standards" beyond their reach and expectations. That is unfortunately due to the society in which we live today. The age of social media and reality television have given people false expectations of what is important in life and relationships. Sure everyone wants a bombshell to bring home, but the amount of really hot people in the world is very nominal compared to the majority who aren't. Same concept with everyone being wealth hungry and seeking people with a particular social status level. 99% of people want what the 1% have and are and it's just a big downward spiral. If people paid more attention to important things like someones personality and morals, that would be a step to fixing things. I mean the divorce rate is 50% and everyone today is replaceable in relationships. It's a shame.