Why is maturity, acting and being a grown-up, more attractive in men than it is in women? why are guys, men?

[Anonymous]

expected to be the more mature gender, the gender that acts like and is a grown-up, is self-sufficient, responsible, etc. Don't give me bullshit or crappy answers that say it's just the way it is, I believe just about everything in life has a reason, or reasons behind it, can be explained. If a man(as in human male) is acting like a child, people won't respect him, if a woman(human female) is acting like a child, people won't care usually, she can get away with it.

[aMuse]

I suppose because you allow it... They can want everything in the world, that doesn't mean you have to give it to them... So, if they ask about your job, if you've got real balls say you are unemployed. If you want want to tone it down a bit and joke about it, say something like you panhandle in front of Walmart every Sunday. If you just want to keep it a secret, say I don't really know, they keep paying me, so I keep showing up... If they laugh it off, and stay interested good they've past the first test. If they say no seriously, then tell them exactly what you do and never call them again. The same sort of gimmick can be applied to inquiries about your car, home/apartment, best gift you have given your ex girlfriends, etc. If they're digging for gold, just shut down the mine and walk away. It pretty simple really...

As far as maturity and acting serious and all that. I don't know, girls tend to like humor and playfulness for the most part unless they're serious ice queens. So if they don't respond well to your idea of having fun, end the date early and go do something more fun with more interesting people. You have no obligation to see things through and put up with women that hold you to bias standards. You have half the say in who you end up with, so make sure they're the kind of person hat is going to be fair to you.

[aMuse]

*that

[Anonymous]

Whether or not they are consciously aware of it, women are attracted to men who they believe will protect and take care of them. More mature, responsible, capable men are thus more attractive to women. Those same qualities are not really what men find attractive in women though.

It's obvious from the female responses about this and similar topics that women are not interested in honest discussion about it. Defensiveness and denial are the norm and I doubt that will change anytime soon.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for BA.

[Asker]

well the truth hurts

[Jazmine453]

Honestly I believe it derives from the way of life long ago. The women surely didn't go and make money for the family. Even today women can't be drafted in the army. Although, times have changed habits are hard to break. Girls (mostly) dream of a guy that can take care of her or at least will do his best. I know that's what my parents taught me to expect. On the other hand I was also taught to clean, cook, and council at a young age in order to help my future family. Sure these rolls could be switched. Hell it would be best if they were shared, but I won't rely on it. In the end it all goes back to the past/ how we were made. People just don't accept it. Why do girls like fit guys? Because our brain says "Hey he can take care of our family. Protect us and whatnot.." Why do guys like curvy (fit but curvacious) girls. Their brain says " Hey she is healthy, and fertile. We can make a bunch of healthy offspring with her. " (Research proves curvy girls correspond with high fertility.)

People will fight everything I have said in this answer for generations to come. The great thing about it is that it is true weather you agree or not.

Disclaimer: I'm aware some people don't like "fit guys/girls". Don't feel the need to comment on my post expressing your feelings on this.

[xHoneyxBeex]

Life is full of double standards. There are plenty of double standards that women face also, certain men on this site simply choose to only acknowledge the ones that men face. Some men struggle in dating, yes I completely understand that and the double standards dealing with that, but women do not have it as "easy" as some men like to think either.

There are double standards for both genders. Sure, double standards suck, but there's nothing you can really do about it. Personally, I just choose to hold myself to the same standards I hold my potential dates or boyfriends. That's all you can really do. I don't have wild expectations of my boyfriend that I don't follow as well myself.

If you think it's okay for a woman to act "immature" or "childish" then all you can do is try to find a woman who thinks that's okay for you to behave that way as well. Not everyone of a particular gender believes or gives in to all double standards. I'm sure you'll be able to find someone who does not hold onto this particular double standard.

Although, as a side note, from my personal experience, immaturity is a turn-off for both genders. No one I've known likes an immature person and I know plenty of men who do not put up with immature girls.

[laceyz565]

I don't agree with your post at all I think that's your view but I honestly expect the same from women then in men or even more responsibility in women. I think women should be independent and not rely on a man for their needs when they do it disgusts me. But I also think men should have there life together too. And I also thimk society puts more pressure on women to he responsible enough to control their sexual impulses and not be sluts and whores and I know that It looks bad on men too but I think womem have it harder with getting away with that. I agree that men took up the responsibility role and usually takw care of the womem but I don't agree its more attractive in the man I think its atractive in the women too and dependent women in unattractive just like a dependent man is

[Anonymous]

I don't agree. It's not more attractive in men, it's attractive in everyone

[kheserthorpe]

Because one baby per womb.

[Anonymous]

How many times are you going to keep posting this? That's just how life is.

[MoneyBeets]

Hot women are sex objects

[Anonymous]

Because women care about moolah

[moviedude714]

Probably Darwinism