Why or Why not ?
Is it rude to not apologize when rejecting someone?
Why or Why not ?
Assuming you're sad that you're causing them pain, saying sorry for causing the pain is the appropriate thing to do. If you offend someone unintentionally, do you say "well I didn't intend to offend you so it's not my problem and not my fault for hurting your feelings". I'm quite sure you'd still have to say sorry. It may not be your fault if someone likes you and you don't like them back, but you're still hurting them one way or another, unintentionally, so say sorry like a normal human being and then get on with your life. It really isn't hard to do. And I'm sure you would want the same done to you, because it makes the situation a little less tense.
What the Fuck are you talking bout. Never apologize for anything. You don't pattonize people just to spare their feelings. Fuck outta here with that shit
There's absolutely nothing wrong with saying sorry to someone. How the hell is the patronizing. If you're sincere about it, there's nothing wrong with that.
Yes I apologize not for saying no, but for the pain they must feel from that rejection.
It's not about if you did anything wrong or not. It's that in my mind I think it takes courage to put your feelings out there, it takes courage to say you want someone. But I respect people's feelings and I am understanding and kind to them.
It softens the blow and makes the response less likely to be rude, but it's not always rude to apologize. It just sounds sweeter to say "I'm sorry but no" rather than just "no"
The level of politeness you use to reject a guy depends on the guy and how much compassion you think he deserves
If you don't apologize, they will try to verbally abuse you further. It's not cool because they came up to you while you were minding your own business and they feel entitled to a lively conversation just because they had the "courage" to say something.
The other night at this wine bar, some desperate cougar-type was whispering things in my ear and I was ignoring her for the most part. She started calling me a f**got/gay as if I need to prove her wrong. Should someone like that deserve an apology?
I personally don't think so, it's not your fault for not liking someone so why should you apologise for that? In saying that you still let them down easily.
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No, it's not rude. You can't help that you don't have feelings for a person, so it's not really something you can be genuinely sorry for. "I'm sorry I don't have feelings for you" sounds more rude imo, it sounds kind of sarcastic if you think about it.
It's rude to refrain because it's common courtesy.
If someone bumps you as you walk past, do you "have" to say "excuse me"?
No, but it's the nice thing to do.
It doesn't mean you have to get on your knee's for forgiveness.
Simply saying "I'm sorry, I'm just not interested" will suffice.
If you bump someone*
You're not apologizing for not liking them, because that's silly.
But I think it's VERY important to say sorry, because you should feel (or at least act) a little sad, because they feel sad, and if you were empathizing with them (the least you can do), you should seem a bit sad to mimic them.
Yeah like women apologize for rejecting a guy/s unless he was good looking? I forgot women to reject good looking guys. But if she rejects an ugly, average or below average looking guy he gets laughed at, mad fun of etc. I know I've been there and experience it.
Made fun of not mad fun of
It's only rude not to apologize if they asked politely. If they asked you in a disrespectful way, then you don't owe them an apology.
No. Rejecting someone isn't rude if you're polite and direct
You can't say yes to everyone, it's just reality that you're not going to have chemistry with someone
Ofcourse it isn't. I don't believe in apologizing, so if you apologize for feeling a certain way then you are a bucket. YOU HEAR ME, A BUCKET. Never apologize for the way you feel or the way you believe.
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I've tried both ways and still ended looking like a JERK. I don't waste my time anymore trying to put a band-aid on brused EGO.
Yes, but sometimes it is necessary to be rude when rejecting someone. Some people just don't understand a polite rejection.
No it isn't rude but usually when we reject someone we tend to say sorry...
It can happened when a person may not know how to react so she or he forgot to use the word sorry
No. It's rude the way in which you might reject a person, an apology is not necessary for simply not being attracted to a person for whatever reason.
It's natural, how can it possibly be rude!? People aren't obligated to feeling sorry for every person they're not attracted to.
I wouldn't mind a "sorry" but its not a big deal if she says it or not. I would like to know why I was rejected.
I never been rejected in any form, so I am just thinking of if I was in that situation
It's not rude as much as it is insincere. It's also good to explain why you don't want to go out with them as well.
Not really, after all it's not like you're doing something wrong by rejecting them. It is a nice gesture though. It's a way of showing compassion.
I think it's like a moral question. The rejected don't need it, but it's just pure politeness.
Naturally I will apologize but I don't think it's rude if you don't. Unless it was a rude rejection.
Yeah, same with Jonny, I don't think it's a reason to apologize.
I would apologize but then again I was brought up, not dragged up.
I don't think it's rude, it's. more polite to apologise. A dignified response is enough.
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