People who never get angry are just bottling it all inside, and some day...it WILL come out, and when it does, you better pray you're not there to see it!
I like when people have (and show) a normal amount of every emotion!
What point is there of having emotions if you won't show/express them to anyone!
It's idiotic to PRETEND like everything's ok if it isn't! Then the other person hasn't got a clue what's doing on and thinks everything is still great when it's really not!
So, by not showing emotions, you're screwing yourself AND the person you're with! (friendships, relationships, family...)
I have a friend who's soooo afraid to show her emotions (when those emotions are negative), that she ALWAYS keeps it all inside, and she told me that when she comes home she just cries!
Her boyfriend, who cheated on her for 4 months (which she knew about) kept doing it, and in a very comfortable way...even in a painfully obvious way, because he KNEW she could never confront him...just like she would never confront anyone!
She is slowly becoming an unstable person due to this inability (which she does consciously), because she's afraid that people won't like her if she says what she thinks about everything, and she's very afraid to get angry when she has every right to be!
That's just unhealthy and actually masochistic!
I, on the other hand, am somewhere in between...but when something actually bugs me a great deal, there's no way I'm letting it slide!
And neither should anyone else!
Hope I helped
*StillWater*
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In some cases, I associate not getting angry with not really having a backbone. Some people are too afraid to get angry, but I know there is no way that there aren't things that secretly p*ss them off. I believe it is good to find a balance, but anger is a part of expressing how you really feel about the world. Lets take serial killers for example, some of these killers are very nice to other people, so nobody ever suspects they would have that amount of anger and frustration. I think it is unhealthy to keep your anger to yourself. I also have problems deciding whether people that are always nice really like me or not, and I hate that they can't really give me an honest opinion. I hate it when people constantly tell me what they think I want to hear.
Well in the way you put it, I do respect more honest peole who are more transparent with their true feelings about me. But lets say if they were angry and were violent and physical because of that anger, I'd rather not see a tantrum coming from an adult. I would respect them more if they can control their temper. So to a degree yes, I do respect those who can manage their anger in a more constructive way, but at the same time no because of what you mentioned on the question.
Anyhow, I picked the last one, because most people have different ways of expressing anger -- some just don't talk, or cry or ... smile? I can't tell usually, unless they do throw those temper tantrums.. lol
I think you are associating people who don't get angry with people who get angry behind your back. For instance, I'm a pretty calm person. It takes a lot to get me angry. If you do things that seriously p*ss me off, I won't talk sh*t about you or avoid you. I'll let you know you did something I didn't like and I'll take my frustration out on something else, like a punching bag. Anger is just a mix of emotions that you can learn to control. I get physical when I'm mad and I don't like that so I've learned to control myself over the years. Of course there is the occasional outburst every so often.
I hate people who think being angry is a better idea than acting like a decent civilized human being in the 21st freakin century, what are we cavemen to you? This is absolutely ridiculous, and what's even worse is many women suffer from the same messed up condition and have trouble respecting guys who don't flip the f*** out over stupid little sh*t.
I think you seriously need to think about this before you go through life loving people for getting mad. Respecting honesty is one thing but respecting anger is pretty pointless.
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I would rather someone get angry and tell me what they really think insted of them not. Personaly I hate the childish rubbish I have to put up with atm with this girl she never ever wants to actually dicuss anything insted if there's an issue she walks away and ignores me for the next week or so.
I would much rather her get angry we talk and dicuss whatever.I agree, people that never get angry p*ss me off. People who always manage to stay calm and think there is no need to get angry really manage to get me f***ing angry! People who are too nice p*ss me off aswell-be angry for once.
Can't say I agree. You can tell someone how you feel without getting angry, getting angry is often not needed and a stupid way to get a point across. Ignoring someone is just as bad though. Just tell them how you feel and that's that.
i have to agree with RandomGuy. He can convey his ideas and opinions about anything genuinely without the need of such a negative emotion IMHO. I'm confused about how you associate anger with honesty.
I do not like it when people get angry, so yes, I guess.
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