I've known my best friend for 9 going on 10 years, since we were in 9th grade, about two years into the friendship I developed feelings for him and told him, he said he only saw me as a friend, he moved schools junior year but we stayed in contact and remained close till we were about 18. He got into a relationship at his new school his senior year and remained with her for about 4 years during that time he and I would only talk maybe once or twice a year through social media. Well last year when they broke up he contacted me and we caught up started hanging out, going to bars and clubs together I introduced him to my social circle and over this past year he and I have gotten really close again, we call each other best friends again. I've helped him deal with the break up and get out again to have fun. He always came to me when he didn't know how to deal with his ex who up until recently still lived with him. Well over the past maybe 4 months when we've gone out and had a few drinks he's started holding my hand . At first it was just a way to keep the weirdo's away from me at the club, we wouldn't do it out during the day like if we went to eat or something, we have been going out every weekend for a while (were in our 20s) we party a lot lol I even helped him pick up on girls at the club we talk about people we've dated or slept with. What's changed is that about 3 weeks ago we both got really drunk together (another friend was designated driver) when we were in the backseat together he was holding me and asking me if I was OK, we were holding hands interlocking fingers. My friend dropped us off at her house since its where he left his car so we could sleep it off and she could drop off other people. In the car he kept holding my hand and leaned in and his cheek was on mine, he was running his hands through my hair caressing my ear and face. Then he said he was gonna move to the backseat so he could sleep a little but he kept reaching around to the front, I was sitting in the passenger seat, he was holding my hand through the side and still caressing my ear or like massaging me asking me if it felt good. I started sobering up a little and felt confused so I stepped out of the car and waited for my other friend to get back and she later took me home, we didn't talk about what happened that night just sort of let it go. So far all the affection and hand holding has been after drinks but the other night we all went out, both sober. He reached over and held my hand while he drove everyone back home. So yeah sorry for the long story but at this point am I safe to assume he's developed feelings? Would you hold hands with someone who's been just a friend for 9 years?
Guys, your prespective on holding hands with female friends?
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