Girls, if a guy took the rejection well do you reconsider him?

[Anonymous]

You reject a guy. He still treats you fair and care and nvr bad mouth you. Still got your back treats respectfully. Will you reconsider him or the guy is chasing shadows in dark...

[Prof_Don]

No matter how nicely the words are framed by the female answers, you got a "no" from almost every answer.

So yes you're chasing shadows.

If a girl rejects me, I dismiss her and act cordial at best. Why?

Because investing any effort into her is a waste of time at that point.

[tenchu11]

Poor guy who excepts the friend zone. Easier to be respect just say hi and not give the person who rejected him the time of day... emotions are investments shouldn't string him along.

[XRabbitHeartX]

If I reject a guy, it means I have no chemistry with him and don't feel attraction. As much as this hurts, that's how it is. No amount of taking the rejection well will suddenly create chemistry. If it wasn't there to begin with, it won't appear out of thin air. I won't reconsider him no.

[Arwens-Fire]

I would respect him,but no. My feelings would not change. Either the attraction is there or it isn't. HOWEVER,every situation and everyone is different. You can't just sit and give a very general question without details and then seek responses and take those responses seriously.

[Asker]

The girl rejected me is 2yrs older to me. She says tht she has policy not to see frnz othrways. I am nt evn a close frnd to get frndzoned. I know her for 5mths. I aksed her two mths ago. I took tht rejection and i spoke to her as if nthng hpnd. Now, She still spks to me and teases me and flirts wth me. But only when i start. She dont start anythng nowadays. This makes me think either she play hard to get or jus does for time pass... i know she is worth the chase i am willing to wait.. pls advise

[Arwens-Fire]

People like ATTENTION. You said she only flirts with you when you start flirting with her. Its mighty nice to know that someone is interested in you even though she isn't interested in you. Its called an ego boost... and you give her one every single time to start flirting etc. If she was into you... she wouldn't have rejected you dude.

[Asker]

So what is best solution you provide in this scenario?

[Arwens-Fire]

Stop flirting with her and move on. Find someone else to like.

[stillagoodgirl]

Even if I did, I wouldn't come crawling back. If I made a mistake I'd have to live with it

[stillagoodgirl]

Thanks for best answer

[AzureGirl]

I remember when I first rejected my boyfriend he said okay but he wanted to still be friends and hang out and everything. And within the month of hanging out nonstop, I ended up coming to terms with my feelings and said yes the next time he asked. So in that sense, I considered him.

The other time I've rejected a guy and he took it fine, we became friends but I wouldn't consider being with him.

[ambertaylor]

If you got rejected the first time, I'd just leave it there. Don't embarass yourself by propositioning yourself again. Sure my opinion of you as a person will be good but that won't be the clincher in getting a date. She rejected you before she knew how well you handled it all, making you come across as a nice guy so your chances haven't improved by any means.

[lumos]

If I reject a guy, it's because I'm 100% certain that we wouldn't work. Just because he has manners and doesn't throw a temper tantrum after I've rejected him doesn't mean that he suddenly becomes perfect boyfriend material. It just means that he's nice enough to not let his feelings get in the way of acting like a well-mannered human being.

[ludorock]

No. I didn't reject him because I thought he was a big baby, I rejected him because I didn't like him. Him handling it well isn't going to make me change my mind it's going to show me that he's worthy of keeping around as a friend.

[Asker]

So the guy is chasing shadows in dark ain't he? To summarize... so you won't like him back

[adidj]

i will not consider him as i rejected him coz i didn't like him... I will respect him but my feelings will not change

[eskay]

I would respect him. That's kind of how a guy gets friend zoned. don't get your hopes up but there is a slight chance she would reconsider you, and it might take time if ever.

[Anonymous]

Rejection means rejection.

Only in the minds of fools, does it mean something else.

[Tequilashot]

A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise.