Guys would you still consider dating a girl with a newborn baby?

[browneyedbeauty91]

Ok, so recently I have become a new mother. I am 18 years old. I love my daughter but it is sad that I gave my ex my virginity and a few months later I got pregnant(I'm not a skank and he broke up with me). Anyways my question is guys will you still consider dating a girl even though she has a newborn baby or is it out of the question for you? Also if I do still go out on dates when should I bring it up that I have a newborn? First Date? A week or so later? I still wanna enjoy dating and being in relationships without scaring guys off please help! Also please don't post anything rude a simple yes or no answer will be good enough.

thanks.

[confused120205]

I know how you feel. I gave my virginity up when I was 16 to this guy and a few months later was pregnant as well. I had a baby girl! However my baby's dad did not leave. We stayed together until just recently. We have 2 children together now and I am only 20 years old. In my opinion if I was to get asked out on a date I would bring up that I have a child on the first date. Mostly because my children are my world and if some man can not accept that, then I am not going to waste my time on him. I would also like to say there are plenty of guys out there willing to be with someone who has a child, it might take a little while to find but in the end it will be worth it. Also until your have determined if the relationship you are in is going to be serious I would not bring your child around him. THat way she doesn't get attached, and end up hurting if he leaves.

[lxndrblonde]

Aw, you poor girl... What a jerk of him to break up with you. From what I've noticed, some guys care and some guys don't. You don't want to date someone who doesn't approve of your child anyway. I'd be completely honest with any guy that you're into and immediately tell them that you're a mother. Any guy who doesn't respect that doesn't deserve you or your time. If a guy doesn't like it, it's probably because he hasn't fully matured yet. Matured men will take it lightly. I hope this helped. Good luck, girl.

[Shlei3]

I'm not trying to be rude but I for one, as a mother, cannot consciously date a guy and bring him around my kid anytime soon. Just a word of advice, take your time with guys you date and be honest about your daughter. This is something I would mention to any guy that I am going to go on a date with be it serious or not. Priority is your daughter not you. So please take your time with any guy and don't be one of those mothers who will bring their kid around any blow joe.

[authentic]

" I still wanna enjoy dating and being in relationships without scaring guys off please help! "

In that case, you need to clearly sate (to yourself) what you kind of guy you want. This would include, "I want a guy who accepts that I am a mother of child, who love me and would treat the child as his own". Focus (like the way you focus while driving) on your wants, until he shows up. No compromises. No mediocre relationships. Don't go out wandering without knowing what you want, because this would be like driving with your eyes closed. Very dangerous thing to do. Best wishes!

[Bhaynes79]

I am in this situation now. I met a girl we chatted online a while then she told me she was 7 months pregg and the father wanted nothing to do with it. I had to think long and hard but I already started to really like her. I have a 14 yr old daughter so she would have to accept my child and I will her daughter to be. I think if a guy is feeling you he will not let you having a newborn get in the way of it. And he will love you and your child. Now that may not come easy many men will run away from that. But there are some great men out there. Never settle and always know your worth!

[rocksongwriter]

I wouldn't, but I know that there are guys who wouldn't have a problem with it, so I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Definitely mention it within the first 2 dates. It would be silly / ridiculous to wait any longer.

[IHateIsrael]

No, I won't raise a kid that isn't mine.