How to get this guy out of my system and stop thinking about him?

[Anonymous]

--To the guys. If a girl told you that you were an ass for treating her the way you did, how would you react?

--To the girls. Would you ever tell a guy that he was an ass for treating you the way he did?

A little about me, I'm a straightforward, honest, easy-going girl whose just looking for a decent guy (but these days there is no hope/ some men are just jerks)

So, basically. There is this guy that makes the move first in that he said, "we should hang out sometimes. " because I only see him at clubs and parties! So, he gives me his number! (before he left the club he comes up to me and reminds me that we should most def. Hang out so call me) being busy with some many things, I didn't even contact him (I should have though). Then I see him last weekend at a club and he tells me that I've waited to long to call him then he says I'm just kiddin. Throughout the night I was gettin signs that he was interested in me like his eyes gazin at me now and then when he or I pass by each other! I call him the next day, but he doesn't pick up so I leave him a message! Its been a week and he hasn't called me! But I had my birthday party this thursday and he came and we barely talked but he still would look at me whenever I was near him. He was bein nice but I don't know what he wants! Because he made the first move. I call him. He doesn't call me back. He comes to my party. And still nothing!

**this is just the jist of everything.There's more! **

My friends say that I should just forget about him and move on, because he's a jackass like that for givin me mixed signals and playin with my feelings! I'm trying to move on and forget about him, but I can't get him OUT OF MY SYSTEM! And I want to do something about it!

So, what do you guys and girls thinks I should do?

--go with telling him straightforward that he's an ass for what he's doin!

--or talk to him first if he was ever interested in me or not and tell him how I feel about what he's doin (even though maybe he doesn't realize it) and just move on!

IM SO CONFUSED! I JUST NEED TO STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!

[sweetlover101]

Your bday part is obvious; he didn't want to talk talk with you because you had your people around..your friends and family! Here's a thing about guys (and I know this from experience) when they are around you they want your total attention. So that's why he didn't talk too much with you at your party.

Now here's another thing about guys, and no offense on them (I do love them alot..lol), but they're more confusing than girls. He's playing it open, meaning he's a little scared. See he gave you his number thinking you would call the next day, when you didn't he must of thought you weren't interested or you had someone else (and trust me guys thinking you have someone else is the first thing they jump to...from much experience I can tell you that's soooo true). So he's staying open..wanting to see if you are totally interested you will keep calling and leaving messages. So here's my advice to you hun, try your best and forget him. You can approach him and talk to him, but don't call him an ass or point out he was acting like one (that just makes you look foolish..cuz he will think you really really wanted to he with him that's why your upset like that). So if you want.. talk to him and tell him (this is important)...that you WAS starting to like him but when he didn't return your calls you thought he wasn't interested. And that's that! There are plenty of other guys that will come your way but if your keep this one in your system you're missing out on the others. So come on girl buck up! lol..and good luck!

[tontow]

Get busy with other things. Go ahead and overfill your schedule with fun things to do and get over him. He is giving you mixed signals and you two haven't even hung out yet! It's cute that he kept telling you that he was telling you that ya'll need to hang out but this isn't 6th grade so just don't even talk to him. Don't go to places where you know you'll see him and don't call him again unless he calls you is what I say. There are so many other mature guys that you'll meet and they won't give you these mixed signs so just keep lookin'. If something like this ever comes up just ask yourself is it worth all this trouble? And if you don't know the answer just walk away :)

[Asker]

Thanks so much for the advice! You make a good point! Ill see how this works out! Thanks again!

[eskimo-breckyn]

Hmmmm. Actually, there is totally no thinking in this here. You should totally get over him, and tell him that he is in fact an ass. I told a guy that, and I never did feel better. He deserved it, and it sounds like this guy here deserves it too. You definitely need some justice here, and telling him off by calling him an ass is the right thing to do. :)