You're not his last girlfriend though. And times have change dramatically (economically speaking). My boyfriend pays for just himself sometimes, or I'll pay for the both of us. He'll pay for both of us. If he's paying for NOTHING, then talk to him about it but don't tell him you deserve to be his exgf.
My boyfriend treats me a lot differently than his ex, I treat people differently than exs. It's about the person/the relationship. Not a set standard.
all I gotta say is what happened to women's lib and independence? why do you want him to buy you stuff when you have your own money to buy yourself stuff?
As hard as this might be to accept, he might not love you as much as he did his first love. There is no right for someone to be treated as good or bad as the past gf/ bf. If you don't like the way he treats you then you have every right to leave.
a guy, he obviously works for his money and the fact that he's ur boyfriend is enough to show that he loves you. Aslong as he isn't abusive You shud still love him...relationships thrive on love..not clothes and money
Maybe he thinks that his old girlfriend was better than you and that you just aren't worth as much of his money as she was. I don't blame him; once you lose your first, every one after that feels less significant.
He is still traumatized so hid heart is not ready to fully open himself to another girl. That's really sad that she died, just be careful because you don't want to be a "filler" or rebound. Give him some time to cope.
Hey! You can do way better! Seriously babe! That is bunk! He has either a confidence problem or he is narcissistic! No offense but, do consider leaving the door open to new possibilities and if those possibilities arise, pursue them!
i think buying/spending $ reminds him of his ex, I say tell him how it makes you feel then if he choose not to take action or change anything then break up with him (for ur not happy anymore)
As long as he doesn't expect you to pay for him, you don't have a problem. I wouldn't want to support a man financially, so I understand if one doesn't want to support me financially.
Maybe he thinks if he wil by you everything and treat you the way he treated his ex girl it wil remind you of her more, or he might think ifhel spoil you the way he did with his other youl die.?
You don't have to get upset with him. Just tell him that you would like him to pay for you every once in awhile. If he really cares about you, he should understand.
Your logic is flawed that if she is a better gf, he would pay for her. She could be the best girlfriend in the world, and he could still be a cheapskate.
He could be that, but then he probably wouldn't be going on to many dates. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.
And I said that he should want to, not that he would or would not.
He should want to treat her better because she's a good person. If he was a decent guy he would want to treat her well. I'm not going to give a gift to someone who doesn't want it or is going to throw it back in my face and scream at me like a psycho.
Any man who knows he has a woman of high value, is going to want to treat her with respect and high value. Otherwise she can just go to someone else who is going to treat her well. If a woman doesn't have any self respect, doesn't treat others with respect, and is low value, she deserves low value treatment. Since the only thing you can change is yourself, that's the only thing you should be focusing on.
What is everyone TALKING about? Why should he pay anythng? They are in a relationship - otr is it a business contract?
I really did not realize people till expect to be paid for in relationships.. How does money have such deep obvious significant emotional meaning. IMO- Its perverted*
Money is something humans created for society to run more efficiently - it itself is not HUMAN, it is specifically NOT HUMAN
I honestly find this argument about paying for his girl- Cold .
Yeah and us guys like you to pay for us once in awhile too! You're not the only ones... sheesh! Don't you get it? It should be 50/50. Your equal to us right?
why are you so obsessed with him buying you stuff? is it that important to you? you sound to me like another one of those materialistic girls, dying for presents and stuff.
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You're not his last girlfriend though. And times have change dramatically (economically speaking). My boyfriend pays for just himself sometimes, or I'll pay for the both of us. He'll pay for both of us. If he's paying for NOTHING, then talk to him about it but don't tell him you deserve to be his exgf.
My boyfriend treats me a lot differently than his ex, I treat people differently than exs. It's about the person/the relationship. Not a set standard.
all I gotta say is what happened to women's lib and independence? why do you want him to buy you stuff when you have your own money to buy yourself stuff?
As hard as this might be to accept, he might not love you as much as he did his first love. There is no right for someone to be treated as good or bad as the past gf/ bf. If you don't like the way he treats you then you have every right to leave.
You shouldn't expect too much from
a guy, he obviously works for his money and the fact that he's ur boyfriend is enough to show that he loves you. Aslong as he isn't abusive You shud still love him...relationships thrive on love..not clothes and money
This guy is a selfish jerk. See him for what he is. This is how much he values you, less than his wallet, far less.
Don't read between the lines, it is plain and simple. He put his money where his mouth is.
Maybe he thinks that his old girlfriend was better than you and that you just aren't worth as much of his money as she was. I don't blame him; once you lose your first, every one after that feels less significant.
He is not gonna give you stuff because he is doing that "9 out of 10 won't like me so I will leave her begging" . Dump him already .
He is still traumatized so hid heart is not ready to fully open himself to another girl. That's really sad that she died, just be careful because you don't want to be a "filler" or rebound. Give him some time to cope.
Hey! You can do way better! Seriously babe! That is bunk! He has either a confidence problem or he is narcissistic! No offense but, do consider leaving the door open to new possibilities and if those possibilities arise, pursue them!
if you want a boyfriend who pays go find one
i don't know why he is supposed to pay - why is he supposed to pay- WHAT exactly is he paying for...
isn't that like legalized prostitution?
i think buying/spending $ reminds him of his ex, I say tell him how it makes you feel then if he choose not to take action or change anything then break up with him (for ur not happy anymore)
Maybe you should find a guy who isn't broken...? Or still pining for his ex...? Just saying...
He's either super selfish or still mourning... either which way, you need another fish. Sorry.
As long as he doesn't expect you to pay for him, you don't have a problem. I wouldn't want to support a man financially, so I understand if one doesn't want to support me financially.
Maybe he thinks if he wil by you everything and treat you the way he treated his ex girl it wil remind you of her more, or he might think ifhel spoil you the way he did with his other youl die.?
You don't have to get upset with him. Just tell him that you would like him to pay for you every once in awhile. If he really cares about you, he should understand.
He should want to pay for her. Most men are going to take this as a demand. Regardless of the tone.
The only thing she can do is be a better girlfriend. If she does that he will want to pay.
Your logic is flawed that if she is a better gf, he would pay for her. She could be the best girlfriend in the world, and he could still be a cheapskate.
He could be that, but then he probably wouldn't be going on to many dates. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.
And I said that he should want to, not that he would or would not.
He should want to treat her better because she's a good person. If he was a decent guy he would want to treat her well. I'm not going to give a gift to someone who doesn't want it or is going to throw it back in my face and scream at me like a psycho.
Any man who knows he has a woman of high value, is going to want to treat her with respect and high value. Otherwise she can just go to someone else who is going to treat her well. If a woman doesn't have any self respect, doesn't treat others with respect, and is low value, she deserves low value treatment. Since the only thing you can change is yourself, that's the only thing you should be focusing on.
What is everyone TALKING about? Why should he pay anythng? They are in a relationship - otr is it a business contract?
I really did not realize people till expect to be paid for in relationships.. How does money have such deep obvious significant emotional meaning. IMO- Its perverted*
Money is something humans created for society to run more efficiently - it itself is not HUMAN, it is specifically NOT HUMAN
I honestly find this argument about paying for his girl- Cold .
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I'm sorry but I like my man to be able to pay for me every once in a while. I don't see what the big deal is.
Yeah and us guys like you to pay for us once in awhile too! You're not the only ones... sheesh! Don't you get it? It should be 50/50. Your equal to us right?
Hooah ArmyAnt! Couldn't have said it better myself.
why are you so obsessed with him buying you stuff? is it that important to you? you sound to me like another one of those materialistic girls, dying for presents and stuff.
You can't blame the guy for being careful, his ex did a number on him.. he probably have female issues for a long time..
girl if he doesn't pay dump him because a girl needs to feel like a prinssece
talk to him about this...I feel sometimes guys should pay and get their girl gifts.