Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)

Ozanne

Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)


To the guys, let’s just quash the “all girls want to get treated like crap” crap. You see us attracted to or getting together with guys that seem as if they are no good for us (or anyone) and believe that we have some weird desire to be treated poorly because of it.


In this myTake – meant to be fun – and with pictures that I’ve chosen that either show a Hollywood bad boy (or in Salman’s case, Bollywood), or someone that the actor portrayed as a rebel, let’s go through the reasons that we choose them over the white knight.


Feel free to listen to Van Halen’s “Big Bad Bill (Is Sweet William Now)" as a soundtrack to this piece.



What Makes Us Attracted to Them


A wild beast is sexy. The fact that they seem to live on the wild side tells us they need some gentle female-influence to calm them down. They are like lions to tame, and we think we are just the woman to make them settle down. It feels as if we are that important and appealing to them if they take us on.


We’re going against what our fathers wanted for us. We show our rebellious side as women when we date the one guy who everyone warned us about. We might even have a fantasy that it will be us that ends up softening him up, but only to us. We enjoy that he can be a badass to everyone else, as long as we hope he treats us well.


Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)


He’s different. Women will be the first to admit that being boring gets a guy nowhere. If a guy has a strong voice and knows how to lead, or he's got a calm, cool demeanor and seems like a lone wolf – if he is different from the pack we know it and want to be the lady he notices.


We need the equilibrium. Many girls are raised to play with dolls, sit nicely, be polite, and basically live a daddy’s girl sort of life. (I know, some don’t but bear with me.) When we hit our teens, we’re just sick of it. The bad boy is the total opposite of what we are and we crave our opposite to fulfill some sort of balance. We fall victim to that devilish smile. We love the thought that they might bring out a little bad in us, as we bring out the good in them.


Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)


Why We Should Stay Away


Girls, the beast often times cannot be tamed. If a guy is already a womanizing creep, he will likely remain one even if you take him on. If he's got a reputation and a bad past, this is a sign of bad learned behaviour that not just you can help him with. It might have taken several women for him to try and it just doesn't work. Also, if some of these guys were a lone wolf before, so they will be immediately after you and not even care.


Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)


Look for bad habits. The way he lights a cigarette and dangles it between his lips, and the fact he can drink straight whiskey without batting an eyelash might be something you don’t notice because he handles himself well, but later on, the effects of drug and drink will show. Substance abuse cannot be controlled by your charm. It will be an illness he’ll have to deal with because he feels ready, and who knows when that will be? Possibly never. Get ready to learn a lot about alcoholism and co-dependency.


Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)


Is he an ass to everyone? If he treats people poorly, this is a big red flag we sometimes don’t notice because we’re caught up in his looks. We are sometimes too consumed with what could be rather than what is. Observe how he treats someone like his mother, female relatives, or mother of his kids. If he’s got a bad side he owes nothing to you to, and doesn't need to treat you better than them.


Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)


Is he self-destructing? If you are put last on his list and he must find a way to feel important by being a daredevil ask yourself if you are willing to deal with the possibility of cleaning up his messes all the time. If he fights, thrill-seeks, and has no real respect for himself or others, you as his other half will always be busy apologizing for him.


Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)


Ask yourself: "If he doesn’t change, will I be able to live like this for the rest of my life?" If the answer is an honest no, then maybe you can accept that the bad boy is just a passing fancy and to look for a partner who can still excite you but not be such a risk to your happiness and future.

Why We Love Our Bad Boys (And Why We Shouldn’t)
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