What Does She Mean?

Hannah591

Taking inspiration from Justin Bieber's new song "What Do You Mean"; which brings up the topic of men not understanding what a girl really means because there's often an ulterior intention behind it. So here I am, you lucky male GaGers, to explain what she really means.



When she nods her head yes, but she really means no


If for example, you want to go out with some friends. Your girl will likely say yes because she does want you to go out and have fun but if she's quite insecure, there'll be a part of her that wishes you wouldn't go. However, she won't tell you not to go because she'll look clingy/controlling. She loves you and wants to keep you so she'll try her best to please you. A part of her will be wishing you would see her insecurity or her hesitation and say "you know what, we'll have a night in this time" and sweep her off her feet. This way, you make your own decision and she gets to have you for the night, without looking controlling.


This may seem quite manipulative but a lot of girls will genuinely want you to go out and have fun. The majority of men don't even pick up on this and a lot of the time, we don't expect them to, but some girls may show this unhappiness through other ways. So if your girl is acting a little bit off, you probably didn't pick up on something she's hinted towards.


Solution: If you've been out with your friends a lot recently and you sense her hesitation in saying yes, consider how she's feeling and stay in or say you'll organise a day out together to make up for it. If you feel it's insecurity holding her back, text her every now and then on your night out saying you're thinking of her.


She wants you to move, yet wants you to stay


This is a way of testing the waters. If she tells a guy to leave and he leaves without any hesitation or any fight, it can indicate that he either doesn't respect her or he respects her too much and does whatever she asks - neither is good. She wants the guy to fight to stay in her company, to show how much he loves her and to fight for her. A woman also wants a man who can make his own decisions and can take control when necessary. Believe it not, we don't like a man to be a lost puppy that follows every order. We want a human being, not a robot!


Solution: If she tells you to leave in anger, hold her hands, look her in the eyes and tell her you want to stay and work things out with her properly, through communication and you don't like arguing. That shows you love and care about her and your relationship. If she demands time alone, then give it to her because that may be all she needs - time to cool down. But be sure to come back later and try to solve whatever caused the argument.


"Wanna argue all day, making love all night."


If she is adamant on arguing all day, that can be her way of bringing some life to the relationship. She may feel like the relationship is lacking in something or any kind of passion and nothing gets you sparked up like a good fight. This is usually a sign of a loveless relationship that has hit the rocks but she's holding onto it, showing emotion only through arguing.


Solution: Identify where the passion in your relationship has gone and maybe work to try to restore that fire you once had or break up.


"You wanna make a point but you keep preaching"


If she's trying to make a point about something which she could've simply said in one sentence, but she continues "preaching" about it, it's likely because she feels you're not understanding her or you're not showing through your body language or words that you're fully understanding. Sometimes she may go on and on but as a way to vent to someone. Preaching at someone is a good distraction from preaching to yourself about something. There may be something underlying that's niggling away at her.


Solution: Be honest if her preaching annoys you and try to identify if it's simply her venting to you. Tell her she can vent to you any time but without preaching to you about everything. Ask her if she's stressed or worrying over something and offer your support. Ask and talk!




If none of the solutions work; she continues to argue with you and refuses to co-operate, then there isn't much you can do but at least you can say you tried.


If you're a girl reading this and you can relate, identify when you're being difficult and try to co-operate. Be completely honest about how you're feeling and you're less likely to argue or cause confusion. Your man will probably be more able to understand what you're trying to convey. A man who loves you and is trying to work for you and your relationship deserves your co-oepration.

What Does She Mean?
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