It's been said by women on GaG that women just like men are very competitive. However, most men tend to limit their competitiveness only to capabilities; meaning that we compete to determine who is better at a skill/sports activity such as a trade, job, weight lifting, swimming, tennis, martial arts, mating competition.
Women's version of competition tends to be on a whole different level. Not only do women compete in hobbies, jobs and mates like men do but they tend to compare every other facet of their life with other women.
Women will compete over things such as material possessions like diamond rings and try to get one that's better than all her friends, they will compare their husband's job and earning salaries to those of their friends, how attractive their husband/BF is compared to the rest of their friends, how well their kids are doing in school and life. They will even go so far to compare their house, cars, clothes, bags with other women and try to outshine those around them.
SOCIAL MEDIA AND WOMEN TODAY
Now this is where women's competition backfires with the introduction of Social media. Before social media women were only competing with girl's in their neighborhood/state.
Social media has made it now so that everyone can get a peek into the lives of the rich and famous. Now this is bad for women because women like to compare themselves to other women and when they see rich girls like Kylie Jenner coming out with 3000 dollars hand bag they want that too.
And this is one of the reason we have such a rise in gold diggers among young girls today because they want that life style so they are chasing down rich guys so they can acquire it. Many of them will fail and get used for sex then come down to Earth and grudgingly marry a man in their economic class.
Your probably asking why doesn't this affect men ? Well men aren't as competitive in those regards. We see the rich and expensive lifestyle and while we do envy the fuck out of it we aren't chasing a pipe dream. We realize that those people are in the top 1% in wealth and to compare ourselves to those guys would be foolish because as far as we are concerned they are on another planet to us.
Most men would be content living a middle class lifestyle, having enough cash so they can support themselves, and money left over to buy cool shit or use for fun activities within reason.And the occasional vacation trips.
THE EFFECTS ON HUSBANDS/BFS
As was said previously many women are comparing their husband/BF to rich and powerful men. Even though he is bringing in enough money to support the family, and is able to carry the family on vacation and even allocate money out for fun activities for the kids and wife, many women are still not satisfied because it's not at the rich and famous level.
You see many of these girls who end up having to settle were running with rich guys when they were younger and exposed to a certain type of lifestyle. It's kind of hard to adjust from being on a 2 million dollar yacht with other girls, sipping on expensive champagne, docking in different cities and going to expensive restaurant with a rich guy as you travel the world with him to your boyfriend only being able to carry you to Italy once a year, stay at a decent hotel/vacation home, and site see and take pictures of famous places with other low cost fun tourist actives.
Other reasons these girls get upset is because they keep going on social media, looking at TV shows , or being bombarded by other media outlets that if you aren't living your life like a celebrity then you not really living life and they get upset by that.
So they have a bit of grudge, resentment to their man. On the one hand they know their anger towards him is not justified because the dude is trying and bringing home enough cash to support her and the kids but on the other hand, she is constantly being told that her life is very boring because she keeps comparing herself to rich girls (not realizing that those girls are in top 1%).
These women may eventual reach a point where they can't take it anymore and divorce their husband or go through a cycle of being bitchy for no reason to being normal.
THE EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
One thing I notice differently in how father and mothers deal with kid's accomplishment is that father's tend to be more lax. Dad's as long as you didn't fuck up and do badly will be fine with your accomplishments and even give you a pat on the back.
For example:
A kid comes home with a report card with some A's, B's, maybe a few C's and if it's not bad a father would either give words of encouragement, maybe reward the kid, say good and just leave it at that.
A mother on the other hand tends to like to compare her kid's accomplishments with other kids. When her kid shows the report card rather than give words of encouragement and leave it at that, many mothers tend to start asking kids question like "how many people in the class did better than you ?"
So now the kid is being criticized for not being tops in class and rather than boosting his self worth, he feels like shit because he feels like he failed for not doing better. And in some cases this can lead to psychological problems where kids associate failure with being complete losers and might commit suicide over failing a single test.
And when it comes to bragging more women tend to brag about their kid's accomplishment than the men.
[The behavior of the mother's comparing their kid's accomplishment to others more often while fathers tend to be more lax tend to hold true in generalized cases when neither parents has an inclination for a particular field like:sports,academics, musical talent etc. Yet, in cases where the father has a strong interest such as he is into academics, you'll fine he can be just as competitive if not more so than the mother of how well his kid in comparison to other kids]
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