What It Really Means To Be Feminine

[Anonymous]

You love...

Makeup

Any thing that men can't put on their face such as lipstick, eyeshadow, bronzer, eyeliner, foundation, mascara, lip gloss, lip liner, concealer, eyebrow pencil, blush, and highlighter.

Fashion

You like to keep up with current fashion trends and watch fashion shows. You enjoy wearing feminine clothing such as skirts, dresses, leggings, blouses, jeans, tank tops, girlish shirts and sweaters, shorts, designer jackets and coats, high heels, girlish shoes, bikinis, and sexy lingerie. Designer clothes are your favorites!

Pink and Purple

Getting Your Nails Done

You'd like to get them done at a salon and ask for acrylic, gel, shellac, or regular nails with all sorts of colors and designs.

Shopping spheres

There's just so many girly things you want to buy.

Getting Your Hair Done

You like to get your hair dyed or trimmed. You'd also like to try new hairstyles.

Accessories

Designer purses, color contacts, bows, bobby pins, hairbands, weaves and all other things girls specifically use as decorations for appearance.

Smells

You like fruity and flowery scents. Those are what your perfumes smell like.

Jewelry

You wear earrings, rings, necklaces, bracelets, and/or bangles. This could be fake designer jewelry or jewelry that contains real gold, silver, platinum, precious gems, pearls, and/or stones.

And you are..

Gentle

Sensitive

Caring

Empathetic

Sweet

Nurturing

Compassionate

#Femininity

[RJGraveyTrain]

Here I thought femininity was being able to carry and present yourself, others (such as your family), with keen capability of being deeply empathetic and emotional whilst still having the strength to be a bad ass.

But hey I guess we all have our own perceptions of it. Mine's just different I guess.

[Peskyn3gr0]

No, it's about pink and purple you simpleton.

[RJGraveyTrain]

@Peskyn3gr0 Well eff me runnin'.

[KenM9215]

I thought it was about spending spheres...

[RJGraveyTrain]

@KenM9215 I mean moneyz is cool but you can like save that shit and invest and stuff too, not just buy things bruh.

[KenM9215]

I was just poking fun at the fact that she misspelled spree and spelled it sphere lol.

[RJGraveyTrain]

@KenM9215 I just got that. Sh. I'm sleepy.

[KenM9215]

lol its okay, I forgive you :p

[Johnagain]

@Peskyn3gr0 Yeah! And what's wrong with a masculine man liking purple?

[SaraMcK]

Good comment but in my opinion there's a phisical aspect too. I like looking pretty & feminine (& being checked out LOL) & for me thats all part of being a girl, as well as what you say about being empathetic & strong.

[RJGraveyTrain]

@SaraMcK Physical* And that's a matter of perception.

[KenM9215]

to be fair, while various societies will always hold varying views as to what it means to be feminine (or masculine), the answer will always be subjective because it will vary from person to person (with some similarities of course.. err usually).

[RJGraveyTrain]

@KenM9215 "But hey I guess we all have our own perceptions of it. Mine's just different I guess."

[KenM9215]

yep. I know you said that. for some reason I just felt like restating it.

[Mesonfielde]

Goodness, this take perfectly describes why I'm exclusively attracted only to tomboys; and repulsed by "girly girls". Well done!

[DandelionGirl]

what about a woman thats both a tomboy and girly girl?

[Mesonfielde]

@DandelionGirl The tomboy parts are positives and the "girly girl" parts are neutral to negative depending on severity.

[DandelionGirl]

How severe?

[Mesonfielde]

@DandelionGirl severity is fake nail length, severity of makeup usage, overemphasis of interest in "designer accessories", etc.

Technically unappealing behavior.

[AdamThomas]

Another explanation could be that you're a girly-girl yourself Mesonfielde. Opposites attract after all :P

[DandelionGirl]

Hmmm interesting 🤔 It's a good thing I'm both!

[Mesonfielde]

@AdamThomas I'm definitely not a girly girl. And it's not my opposite. It's just annoying.

[Ethrealness]

You should try dating a guy. Maybe girls aren't for you.

[Mesonfielde]

@Ethrealness Oh I like females as long as they aren't obnoxious and repulsive both in terms of behavior (read: overemotional and drama tears everywhere) and appearance (read: bad style and use too much makeup)

[KittieCat]

Jewelry is gender neutral
Shopping - guys can jizz about any hobby. Imagine a guy nerd looking for a new GPU
Nails - keeping your nails looking good just looks good (don't need any fancy shit).. sooo gender neutral
Jewelry - have you seen the chains, watches, and diamond studs on guys?
Smells - One word. Axe.
Getting your hair done - see nails and replace nails with hair
Makeup - look at any news anchor
Accessories - see jewelry..
Is that everything? Anyways isn't the entire thing about being a woman or feminine is that you have tits and good birthing hips and can pop babies better than Amy Whinehouse can pop pills?
I was expecting cooking to be on here.. yeah tell Gordan Ramsey that l

[lyannamormont]

I like none of these except smells/perfumes, earrings (not all jewellery) and small purses to fit my phone and my wallet.

I dont like makeup especially in summer when you sweat. I just use mascara and that's it. My makeup is complete. I like purple but definitely not pink. I dont like idiot fashion where every girl in the street wears the same thing all summer. I rather prefer having my own style and combination which I think I do. I am rather sporty and i think comfort is more important than ridiculous things like flats which hurt people's feet and fill them with blisters...

And then you give adjectives like compassionate, gentle blah blah.. These do not define feminine or masculine type. These define whether you are a good or bad person.

In short, none of these is something that define feminine or masculine stuff.

I sometimes wish people think more before taking a myTake time.

[LaVilaine]

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[lyannamormont]

@LaVilaine i love this photo of mine, dear. isn't it a good shot?

[LaVilaine]

It's amazing. The best. You sure grew up fast, though, hey?

[lyannamormont]

@LaVilaine i dont grow up lady, i level up as a mormont. Ahahahah

[Miezko]

People really shouldn't get so upset over this. While I don't completely agree with you on the top part, the bottom part is fairly accurate. The thing about masculine and feminine energies is it's something we all have in varying amounts. And being “less feminine" isn't an assault on anyone's womanhood, just like being “less masculine" doesn't make a man less of a man, it just makes them an individual. We all vary. We all have both. And that's okay.

[genuinlysensitive]

"you are..
Gentle
Sensitive
Caring
Empathetic
Sweet
Nurturing
Compassionate"

^This! The other stuff is kind of material based, but this right here, is the core of everything I look for in a woman! I think a lot of the haters on here are focusing too much on the material aspects you mentioned. Yes most women are into hair, makeup, and fashion, and everything else you mentioned, what really makes them feminine is the personality traits you mentioned. Thank you, for that!

[93stepsawayfromhome]

"Feminine" ≠ "what I look for in a woman". If you like girls who wear purple T-shirts, that doesn't make wearing a purple T-shirt "feminine".

[genuinlysensitive]

Were you on something when you wrote this?

[93stepsawayfromhome]

What?

[Vesuvius87]

Guess I wouldn't be feminine if I have to fit all that. To be honest, I'm not into too much jewelry, don't like pink too much and not into but too much girly things.

Feminine to me means having a nurturing personality, having class, treating others with respect, no looking for fights and staying out of drama and gossips.

[Dave20154]

aren't those supposed to be of all people?

[Nothanks700]

Overly affeminite girls are as bad as overly masculine guys, and there's a real an they are attracted to each other- they are douche bags that have failed to find their own personality, and instead have adopted whatever society told them to be.

[Johnagain]

!!!--- He'll yeah ---!!!

[Heera]

couldn't say it better (y)

[LittleSally]

The traits of the personality you described can just as well be within a man, who isn't transgender nor feminine in any way...

But sure, you ain't a woman until you've worn this:
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[Anonymous]

I didn't even read the take at first, I saw the blonde hair and blue eyes, huge tits, pink everywhere, and barbie hair and immediately shook my head and knew this take wasn't going to be accurate at all.

Then I gave it a chance, thinking maybe this is a take empowering women, a nice read. I was wrong. The first sentence: "makeup - anything that men can't put on their face", you couldn't be more wrong in all the categories.

To sum up your take, you're basically saying: "What it really means to be feminine - Shopping and pink bubble gum and unicorns!"

Being feminine does not equal being a white valley girl.

[Anonymous]

What this is telling me is that I'm a guy because I am none of these things. I don't even know how to apply makeup and it makes my skin feel super uncomfortable, I don't keep up on the latest fashion at all (I mostly wear skinny jeans and hoodies anyway except the summer), pink is my least favorite color and purple is not even in my top 3, I have never been on a shopping spree cause I'm broke, my hair is always braided or I do it myself (I'm not very good at it), all my jewlery is cheap and I only really wear my favorite studs which are mismatched cause I lost the ones they came with and the closest thing I own to a designer bag is a blue book bag with silver accents, I have never bought a bottle of perfume ever, I'm not gentle, I'm not sensitive, I only care about people I'm close with, I'm not sweet, or nurturing. I don't see how any of this makes me less feminine but oh well.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Every time a take like this is made, I'm more and more convinced that I was born the wrong sex lol

[HonestWhiteGuy]

You're very cute and feminine Buchy maybe just play it up a bit more with your clothes/hair and stuff :)

[BuchitaBuchys]

@HonestWhiteGuy I'm the opposite of feminine :/

[HonestWhiteGuy]

@BuchitaBuchys Maybe because you got too into feminism and SJW stuff... most of those girls aren't very feminine from what I've seen. But physically you are feminine looking and attractive

[BuchitaBuchys]

@HonestWhiteGuy no. Even before I was a feminist, which I'm not anymore, I was extremely tomboyish.

I can tell you countless stories of when I was young, as young as like 3yrs old, where I was into "boy" stuff.
I do have 5 brothers you know.

[Dimmu]

I knew it

[HonestWhiteGuy]

@BuchitaBuchys Well you are not locked into being "tomboyish" a lot of girls were like that earlier on then became more feminine as they got older. Just like a lot of guys might be nerdy/not masculine younger, then older they are more confident, in better shape, etc.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@HonestWhiteGuy I like it this way though. I don't want to change my ways

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Dimmu I'm glad you were able to tell :)

[Dimmu]

Nah don't mention it

[HonestWhiteGuy]

@BuchitaBuchys Now I wanna see you in heels, a skirt and with pigtails just to punish you for being difficult.. you will be feminine you hear me! Lol :P

[BuchitaBuchys]

@HonestWhiteGuy lol heels are uncomfortable AF though

[Dave20154]

does having 5 brothers prove that who you're around affects who you are?

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Dave20154 maybe maybe not as I also have 3 sisters and because I grew up in foster homes, I had more females in my life.

[HonestWhiteGuy]

@BuchitaBuchys Well you gotta take some discomfort to be feminine! Its not exactly fun doing a bunch of pushups, situps and weight lifting to build muscle as a guy or shaving all the time for a clean shave lol

[BuchitaBuchys]

@HonestWhiteGuy I'm masculine and I don't do any of that crap lol

[teatea111]

Lmao one of my favorite comments here
I mean, I think she's being satirical. I sorta got that vibe but I could be wrong

[HonestWhiteGuy]

@teatea111
I don't think she was, she's really a tomboy!

[teatea111]

@HonestWhiteGuy Oh no I mean whoever wrote this MyTake I think she wrote it as satire

[myTake Owner]

@teatea111 yes it's satire

[BuchitaBuchys]

@teatea111 this isn't the only take on femininity though

[teatea111]

Yeah that's true but I'm glad it's satirical

[ginny_weasley]

I guess I am not feminine. When I was a kid, my parents called me Morticia. Because I was like the human version of Morticia Addams. That's alright I always considered that a compliment. And I would rather be like Morticia then be feminine.
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[Righttobeararms83]

I dont think any of what you mentioned are feminine qualities (except for the last part) and are more like a skill set needed to be a kardashin. But men do love a feminine woman.

[FakeName123]

Disappointing mytake that just focuses on superficial traits. I thought here would come something that really makes a woman faminine in attitude, behaviour and how she carriers herself.

Freaking aweful what you made out of it with calling "what it really means to be feminine".

[TruExo]

You forgot having a vagina. Must have a vagina to be feminine.

[lovelywiz]

https://youtu.be/OAPjZL2_B4A

[Dipsy]

Men can be feminine too, although it comes across really weird. Feminine is how you behave and not being a gender

[Mesonfielde]

@Dipsy are you saying femininity has nothing to do with being female?

[Panay]

@Mesonfielde being feminine is just acting according to how females stereotypically act
So theiretically, most girls are feminine-at least on some level-and guys can be feminine too. But a girls are more likely to be feminine

[Dipsy]

This 👆

[TruExo]

@lovelywiz those men are scary

[lovelywiz]

That is not a man.

[lovelywiz]

@Dipsy omg thats a lesbia

[lovelywiz]

*lesbian

[Miezko]

@Mesonfielde femininity has nothing to do with females. A woman can be be a woman without having very many feminine attributes and a man can be very feminine without having gender identity dysphoria. Feminine can be summed up in one word; yin.

[lovelywiz]

@Miezko masculinity is yang

[Miezko]

@lovelywiz correct! 😊

[Anonymous]

Very nice take.

I think being feminine also means:
1. Recognizing a guy who is nice to you likes you.
2. Being closer/intimate or less innocent around those guys who are nice to you, not the ones who don't care.
3. Showing affection back to those who show you affection, not to those who don't.
4. No mind games to guys who actually text you - don't blue tick them and take them for granted versus texting guys who aren't sweet/caring.

[KRIEL55]

that is not the definition of feminine lmfao its just you complaining about your love life on a random question and trying to make it somehow sound relevant.

[Opinion Owner]

@KRIEL55 No I'm saying that really great feminine girls are those who are confident in who they are and don't mess with people. In the same way a good guy is someone who doesn't play games with a girl either.

TO be feminine is to be great.

[KRIEL55]

it has nothing to do with femininity though, you're just talking about personality. a girl can be a total player and still have all these feminine traits. im not saying thats a good thing or promoting it in any way, but femininity just has nothing to do with whether a girl messes around with a guy or not

[Opinion Owner]

@KRIEL55 I dunno, personally I don't view a girl as being feminine/nice if she messes around with people.

What do you think when a girl initiates text with a friend of hers, then when he responds, reads the message (blue ticks) and then delays a response?

Is that feminine?

[KRIEL55]

i never just think "hmm is this action feminine?" aha most girls dont strive to be labeled "feminine" we're over that whole concept. but i dont think that makes her any less of a woman, if that's what you're implying. she just didn't feel like talking. oh well.

[Opinion Owner]

@KRIEL55 I don't buy that. It seems like she is rude doesn't it?

Why would you initiate a text conversation with someone and then not reply to their response? Especially if you mark it as read, that's rude isn't it? if a guy did that to you, would you think it polite considering you see him online often?

I don't think it's a very lady like thing to do?

[KRIEL55]

well yeah its rude but the last thing she, and any other girl, thinks is "i have to be lady like!" we're not so worried about looking feminine and lady like. the same way when a guy does something inconsiderate we dont think "thats not very manly" only people who are obsessed with gender think like that.

[Opinion Owner]

@KRIEL55 Yeah good point. Oh god yeah guys who say that's not manly. That's stupid. So if a guy happens to be nice to a girl, some other guys who claim to be manly start going "oh you are putting her on a pedestal and treating her nice, that's not alpha" etc.

But about that texting thing, isn't it rude? I never get women who do that. If they do it, tbh for me that's a red flag sign for me. But what hurt me is when a really really nice girl with all those feminine qualities and cuteness about her who also happens to be a friend did that to me. She blue ticked me and didn't respond for a while. You see their last seen was later, so it's not like they were busy or asleep or anything. But to call them out on it, seems rude?

What to do

[EndofExistence]

you sound like you need to get a backbone.

[Opinion Owner]

@EndofExistence How? By expecting common courtesy wtf?

So do you read a girls' message having initiated in the first place, and then proceed to wait/ignore or just text other people when they can see you read it and you're online?

[EndofExistence]

Sentence structure please, I don't even know what the hell you just said. If you are going to make a point keep it to one idea and stop waffling all over the place.

[Opinion Owner]

@EndofExistence If you don't know what I just said, then how did you come to the conclusion earlier that I need to "grow a backbone"?

Read my points before making arrogant assumptions as if you know everything. When a girl is rude to you, then maybe one day you will seek advice here on what you did wrong (despite you not having done anything wrong). Possibly on that very day, some other gag user will reply just as you did; in a most unhelpful, demeaning and disgusting manner; and you will know how you made me feel just now.

Unless you have anything helpful to say, I suggest you do not waste your meaningless and insulting words on my opinion. May you live in interesting times.

[EndofExistence]

First off I do know everything, I'm an arrogant asshole who is full of anger. Girls being rude to me don't even register on my care meter. I don't date and I avoid women to keep stress out of my life. One thing you will never see me do on here and you can quote this and follow me for updates is ask for relationship advice on this website. Lastly I could careless about your feelings, I answer how I want and if that bothers you too bad. But hey I am living in interesting times.

[Opinion Owner]

@EndofExistence Thank you for proving my point

[myTake Owner]

@EndofExistence you don't know everything and you're in the wrong place.

[EndofExistence]

It's an opinion forum there is no right place if you have something to say.

[EndofExistence]

You never had one to begin with, just an emotionally charged statement.

[Opinion Owner]

mytakeowner I agree with you. And I did enjoy your take by the way, did I mention that? Well written. I don't know how we got to texting between people, but yeah I also agree with you about it being rude when a guy (or girl) initiates, then for some reason reads a response and decides to text others without replying.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you blue anon and yes you mentioned this is a nice take.

You are also correct that it's rude to do that in texting.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. Hahah I think I might change my name to blue anon. It's cool!

Yeah I think it's a little rude. But I don't get why people do it. Even a female friend who I personally think is really nice. I can't call her up on it, because I fancy her a bit. But I don't do it to her or anyone. If I read it (and show a read receipt) I reply there and then. Else I wait and then read it later and reply then.

[HandsomeRaj]

Beautifully described My Take :)

However, confidence, assertiveness etc and why even rambunctious is pretty attractive and this can well be a part of being fem as well :)

[HandsomeRaj]

Thank you for liking my opinion young lady :)

[FanGirl67]

Lol. i barely wear make up or jewellery. I only shop for books or clothes if needed. My hair is usually in a simpke ponytail. I'm only gentle and caring when people r upset. Im kind to strangers and my friends, but I'm usually the sarcastic type. I guess I'm not feminine.

[BlondeBlueEyes84]

This word (feminine) has completely lost its meaning, just like "racist", due to its misuse and misinterpretation.

[Luci92]

I thought I was feminine... this take makes femininity look shallow. I always thought being feminine was about your manner, not what things you like.
Some of the traits you mentioned I didn't think were exclusively feminine either.

[Anonymous]

I believe those traits should be basic human qualities, not feminine traits.

On the other hand, I suppose it is possible to interpret those traits as feminine traits and that there is a feminine side to every person, male or female.