The Media or Guys Are Not Responsible for Your Insecurity

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The Media or Guys Are Not Responsible for Your Insecurity

Honestly I think insecurity is something that every girl has to deal wth it's just a natural thing. It exists for guys too of course but I feel with guys it's more about other things. I'm not insecure about my body at all but I know I'm just one person XD.

But a lot of girls say oh it's magazines and advertising and tv and whatever it just makes women insecure. NO!!! You are insecure and that's why it affects you that much. Everything in our life is our choice, what we do, the way we see things the way we think etc. I have been doing a lot of introspection and working on my mindset beeing positive productive etc. It's very important. Our mentality affects everything in our life and how we percieve things. It's pretty much the most important thing that makes the difference between a successful person and someone who wastes their life. Or a happy person and a unhappy person (you can be successful and unhappy of course).

The same thing goes for insecurity, the insecurity is already there but you feel it the most when you see magazines. Women have wanted to be pretty and desired for ever this is not a societal thing or a gender norm or whatever that's just bullshit. In ancient egypt and Rome women were making their lips red and using powder to make their skin whiter etc. It's not a media or societal thing it's a natural thing.

I think the insecurity is there from the start it just kinda kicks in when girls get close to puberty and start to be interested in guys. But now you have a choice, you can decide to overcome it and deal with it or you can just complain about it and blame it on society and the media and whatever. If you just act like you're the victim of some conspiracy and never see a reason to change then it will never go away.

The Media or Guys Are Not Responsible for Your Insecurity
It's people who buy into all these beauty trends like huge fake asses (that I think are not attractive and other stuff) Magazines have to find something to write about and sell copies so they always come up with the newest trend it will never go away. But you don't have to buy into it. If you're a skinny girl you don't have to try and look like Nicki Minaj or whoever the fuck. And if you're moe curvy you don't have to tr and look like a model. It's never gonna work anyway. Just be yourself and look good in a way that fits you.

There was a girl who wrote: "It’s all about the personality, boys usually look for a girls smile and her kindness towards others. That's what they appreciate, but hey, who said boys didn't like some shape too?"

This is kind of a simple way of putting it But I think it's very true, she understands something that many women don't seem to get. Beeing kind, happy, caring, fun etc. Those things matter a lot. There's tons of pretty girls who push people away with their personality. Looks might be a way to get some guys interested in the beginning but it's not what makes a good girlfriend. Having a natural body is enough you don't have to be "perfect" whatever that means. And the definition of "perfection" changes every 2 seconds anyway so it's pointless to chase after that illusion.

I don't know I just feel like girls themselves are too obsessed with looks. It's funny because narcissism is usually used for guys, but for women it's pretty much considered normal to be thinking about their own appearance a lot. If a guy would say: "You have a great personality." How many women would think: "Does he mean I'm ugly ?" It's a compliment, liking your personality is like the most important thing, you should be happy about that, not question if he's even attracted to you. The same with calling a girl cute. It doesn't mean you're unattractive.

What I really wanted to say was that you decide how much something affects you, it's all in your mindset. It takes self awareness and introspection and honesty and time to really see yourself and your situation clearly and to be able to change anything. Then it can be quite hard and take more time. But it's worth it. I don't have to deal with this particular issue myself but I have my own struggles, everybody has their own obstacles they have to overcome. Some just never acknowledge it and just stay stuck forever others see it but don't have the will to overcome the challenge and then there's the people who actually do it. The struggle is hard but it's a million times better than staying stuck in the same place your whole life.

The Media or Guys Are Not Responsible for Your Insecurity

Changing the world on the outside won't change anything. Because actual confidence, being comfortable with your body comes from the inside. Everybody who's outraged over advertising or photoshopped models or whatever would still be insecure if there were no magazines and ads at all. Because they haven't changed as people they're still the same. They haven't even thought about that it might be something about them that is the problem. It's like in the Matrix your mind is basically all powerful but only if you actually accept your situation and are willing to grow. Gaining confidence it's not as easy as just flicking a switch.

Nothing worthwile is easy, isn't that what they say? ;)

The Media or Guys Are Not Responsible for Your Insecurity
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