Consider Your Interactions - Are You Leading Him On?
I have heard so many women say that they want to be more than just an object in the eyes of men, but the more I think about it the more I realize that this is a very selfish statement when you consider the way women interact with men.
Generally as men and women, we naturally value different things. Men value physical connection and affection from women just as much as women value emotional connection and affection from men, but women never see this.
Put Yourself in His Shoes
Women tend to only see their side of the equation; "He just wants me for sex. he's an asshole just like all other men", but what if men starting reacting the same way? What if men decided to start saying "She only wants me for her human diary. Women are such stuck up bitches."?
Many, and I mean MANY women look at most men in their life as only someone to call on when they're feeling down or lonely, without considering the man's desires or needs. Essentially; these men are meat sacks of emotional tension relief. These women are considered to be normal, and generally accepted by everyone - completely free of judgement.
Women don't even care that the man in this situation is not getting what he wants out of their relationship. This is not a mutual feeling, and most women are well aware of this, but they don't care.
The Male Perspective
Let's say a man wants to relieve his tension. A man does not generally do this in the same manner a women does, it is much more of a physical thing for a man to relieve tension. Let's say a man calls over a women just for physical relief. As a woman, you would be outraged, but why?
Why do women have the right to be outraged when men use them, but men don't have the right to be outraged when women use them?
It's simple: Women do not value the desires and wants of a man. A woman only values the desires and wants of herself when it comes to scenarios like this. It is almost as though women are completely incapable of seeing things through the eyes of a man. It's almost as though they view what we want as irrelevant.
Practice What You Preach
So women: next time you think about calling over that "just friends" guy to vent and complain about everything you can think of, remember you are using him the same way a man would use you for sex.
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