Since the dawn of time, men have made the fatal mistake of taking the words of women at face value. I can’t blame our kind, as we are logical beings who say what we mean and mean what we say.
But women…women are masters of subtlety. Subtlety and subtext are their hallmarks. And until you become well-versed in the language of the female, you can easily find yourself dumbfounded and in a storm of fury.
So today I’m going to lay out such a road map. I’m going to outline the common phrases you’ll hear from women in various contexts and what they really mean. I hope this will prevent you from being confused, frustrated, dumbfounded, or from having to ask yourself: what does she mean?
#1. “I like you too much to sleep with you.”
This phrase will open up our list of girl-speak. It can be one of the most confusing and frustrating set of words to hear from a female. Upon looking back on these events, I learned a couple of critical lessons about my situation:
- I didn’t move fast enough with the physicality
- I over-provided good feelings
- I gave off way too much value
#2. “I’m not really dating right now.”
When a girl says this, it may be true in the sense that she’s not dating anyone at this exact moment. However, there is always a man in a girl’s life. And if there isn’t a lover, you can bet your dollars that she is actively looking for one. So if she tells you that she’s not really dating… what she’s really saying is that she’s not really interested in dating you.
A lot of guys hear this and think: “Oh, she’s not really dating. That makes sense. I don’t really want to pressure her into doing something she’s uncomfortable with. She’s probably dealing with something. Maybe someday!” And they obliviously carry on with the hope that one day they’ll be able to “win her over”.
I don't think I need to go even bother introducing the next one but here you go
#3. “It’s fine.”
No. No, it isn’t. I’m certain that any guy who has ever been in a relationship has heard this wonderful gem. When a girl tells you that something is fine it means that she is either disappointed or upset. If she is disappointed, then you either have to assuage her disappointment, or come up with a way to compromise/make it up to her.
#4. “Maybe” or “Sometime”
You ask a girl out and she gives you one of these responses. In both cases she’s giving you an unequivocal “never”. But she’s trying to be nice and spare your feelings by giving you the illusion of possibility.
#5. “You’re such a great friend!”
In other words: “I’m never, ever going to have sex with you!” Unfortunately, a lot of orbiters take this statement as positive reinforcement for their efforts and think that they are slowly “wearing down” the girl into enjoying them so much that she wants to jump in their bed. However, the only play he’ll be getting is the one he takes her to. And the only physicality he’ll be getting is her light pats on the shoulder or the occasions where she cries over another guy on him.
#6. “I was so drunk.”
A classic female plausible deniability response. In fact, the preeminent response. It really means “I definitely wanted to sleep with him – or at least did at the time – but I don’t want to be judged as a slut. And… I may even ‘get drunk’ around him again.”
#7. “She is so ugly.”
This really means “She’s actually really pretty and I’m very jealous of her. She is a threatening presence and I need to do whatever is necessary to lower her sexual value.” If a girl is calling another girl ugly or bitchy, especially if this girl is a prospect of yours, then you’ve definitely got her jealousy meter running high. And if you can, definitely use that to your advantage if you want.
PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO THE NEXT ONE... I'M TIRED OF GUYS WONDERING WHY GIRLS KEEP REFERING TO THEM AS "CREEPS"
#8. “He is so creepy.”
“Creepy” is a catch-all term that girls use for any guy they are not attracted to who came onto them in anything but a “nice guy” way. Sometimes the guy is actually creepy and he tries to feel her up in the corner of a club. But when girls talk about this type of guy, they’ll actually be uneasy. However, what’s more common to find is creepy used for a masculine man who made his intentions known, but that she didn’t want as a lover.
- Scenario 1. Actually creepy: “That guy just grabbed my butt and called me ‘baby’. It made me really uncomfortable. That was creepy. Let’s move to a different part of the bar.”
- Scenario 2. Fake creepy: “Jake keeps texting me about hanging out. He just can’t take a hint. He’s so creepy.”
#9. “What are you doing right now?”
If a girl sends this text to you without any prior warning, then this means “I’m horny”. But of course, she’s not allowed to actually say this overtly. So it’s your job to infer what she means.
#10. “He and I are just friends.”
This one is tricky. If you’re not with a girl and she makes a point of telling you that a guy (whom you think she has a lot of sexual chemistry with) is just her friend, it could mean many things. It could be that:
- He is a secret lover, but she still wants to keep you as an option
- He used to be a lover, but now she has lost interest
- She’s interested in him, but wants to use this statement to gauge your reaction
- She’s attracted to him, but wants to spare your feelings (in case you’re jealous)
We all know about the next one but while honesty is important please understand that she is in a "vulnerable state" and does not want to hear anything negative from you
#11. “Do I look fat?”
This is another classic. Only the foolish would dare to answer yes. Support her and encourage her. Even if she does need to drop a pound or two, now would not be the correct time to bring up such things.
#12. “Do you want to… ?”
Women will rarely ask for things directly, and this is one aspect that drives men absolutely crazy. For example, if you’re out at a restaurant with a woman and she wants dessert, but is unsure of how you’ll react (maybe you’re paying for the date), she’ll just pose her desire as a question of your desire. “Do you want to grab dessert?” What does she mean? She is really saying: “I want to grab dessert but I don’t want to be rude or seem like a glutton, so you should suggest it.”
And if you fail the test, get ready to feel the heat.
#13. And last but not least… the dreadful SILENCE
Last on our list for today is women’s secret weapon: radio silence. In this tech-driven day and age, radio silence can communicate more loudly and clearly than any words coming out of a girl’s mouth.
If a girl suddenly goes cold on you, she just assumes that you’ll get the point after try three or four. So if you don’t hear from her… yeah… that’s what she means.
In the end every women will be the same and no not all of these will apply to each girl you meet...each one holds their own ideas and personalities but it should help us get on a better start!!!
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