How the fuck do I stop blushing?

[Anonymous]

I've been pretty shy all my life and in 2014 I decided that I would finally get over being shy because it really drags me down. So I have basically been putting myself in situations that I am really uncomfortable in so I can face my fears and get over them. Its working for the most part but I'm pretty sure people can still tell I'm a shy guy because I still blush if I am getting a lot of attention. To make matters worse I'm a late bloomer so I've just recently become more attractive and am really bad with dealing with the extra attention from girls.

But even though I'm still pretty shy and have embarrassed myself in front of entire classrooms I am still very outspoken. I'm pretty sure that most people can tell that I am nervous when I a talking sometimes but I'll even keep talking if I start to blush mid sentence or start losing my voice. So I don't really care if people see me blush but why does it keep happening? Its so fucking annoying, I wish I was black sometimes.

I'm pretty sure that some people might think I'm weird because I keep putting myself in embarrassing situations but that's kind of the point I guess. I guess a shy persons biggest fear is usually that they will make a fool of themselves in front of a lot of people. And I have done that so many times this year that I lost count lol. But I still keep putting myself out there so hopefully eventually I will give 0 fucks and stop being nervous and blushing. Maybe one day.

Has anyone here been able to overcome blushing and shyness in general?

[Daph81]

Hm, it might be a medical condition, I remember seeing that on Grey's Anatomy lol I know, television drama, but still, I think the cases iN GA are based on true stories and diseases/disorders. I'd do a bit of research on the net if I were you, or ask around if you have some friends who work in the medical field or have had medical education. And if needed be, consult your doctor. It may not be a serious thing such as cancer, but if it bothers you and gets in the way of you living a wholesome life free of constant embarrassment, then it's definitely necessary to get it treated.

[Asker]

I think so too because it happens pretty randomly, like even when I'm not actually embarassed. I really don't care what people think otherwise I wouldn't keep putting myself in those situations but there's a subconscious part of me that probably still cares which I wish I could destroy

[Daph81]

I'd still try to educate myself on it if I were you... Maybe there's an easy treatment? Who knows? =)

[Anonymous]

Overcome blushing, yes. Overcome shyness, no.
Shyness is more deeply engrained into your mind. But blushing is a learned physical response. If you have ever been able to control any of your body's reflexes, like sneezing, giggling, coughing, etc, then you can learn to control blushing.
Blushing seems to be a social norm in the U. S. but I've been to lots of places and people hardly ever blush.
But getting over shyness, that's a different story. I'm still working on it😁

[Hannah591]

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy will probably help you a lot.

[NovemberJoseph]

I have this but I've been getting better. It's all confidence I think. Get new clothes, haircut, valuable items, stuff like that to boost your confidence, that helped me a lot. I haven't blushed full tomato status in like 2 weeks

[Asker]

I'm actually really confident and dress better than most guys. You might even think I'm metrosexual because I've become a lot more style concious

[NovemberJoseph]

Then it sounds like it's a disorder. You should see a doctor about it.

[Ferruccio77]

Yep its cute but one tip I can share with you is chew gum.. just.. dont swallow it when you're nervius.

Chew gum. It is cheap and gets your brain pumping with blood.

[Insaan]

Same prablem here brah!

[Asker]

How do you deal with it? Do you?

[Anonymous]

Do you have rosacea? Maybe you can't help it.

[COCOCHANEL]

don't stop ! it's cute !

[Asker]

No thanks, I'm not aiming for cute since I'm not in middle school anymore. Confident and calm is what grown ass men should be.

[COCOCHANEL]

i'm sorry that your culture has betrayed you.
you are fine just the way you are.

[COCOCHANEL]

this ”confidence” thing is boring.

[MyInternetUserName]

Wear make up

[Asker]

Dumbass.

[MyInternetUserName]

I give you legitimate advice and you insult me? WowZerz brah wowzers