I'm too skinny, I have no curves and I feel hideous?

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I'm 5'5-5'6 and I feel disgusting in my body. I'm 17 and I have been struggling to put on weight my entire life. I weight 116 and I would've thought by now that I wouldn't be so skinny because you gain as you get older, or that's what I thought. 
I'm crying because I feel like nothing I wear will ever look good because nothing looks good on a walking stick. I have missed school so many times because I felt so disgusting. 
I hate my body so much I just don't want to exist anymore. 
I don't feel like a woman. They always say "real women have curves". I've never been the type to dress to "show off my body" not like I even have one but anything bigger looks ridiculous. I always get asked about my weight and if I'm okay or if I have an eating disorder..
Hugging people is a disaster because I just want to say "I'm so sorry this is really gross for you, I'm trying to make it go away" I'll hug people when I'm not skinny anymore. 
I'm so afraid of the summer, I hate shorts because of my skinny legs, I hate tee's and tanks because of my skinny arms, I hate shoes because I'm a size 7 yet for some reason my feet look huge, I hate bikinis oh my god especially bikinis.. 
I feel absolutely revolting.
My boyfriend always tells me how beautiful I am but I know he does that because he's supposed to, but I see the way he looks at girls with a fuller body, I don't blame him, they do have beautiful bodies.

rebeccalouise · Accepted Answer

<3 <3 many girls are jealous of you. You are beautiful. Can I just say that most girls saying 'real women have curves' are in reality just plain fat and unhealthy. Your boyfriends loves you and thinks your beautiful. There is nothing wrong with being naturally thin, many people are like you. I bet everyone marvels at your beauty, while you feel down because you only see the faults in yourself.
We all want the opposite of what we have. If you were larger I can guarantee you would envy girls like yourself. You are blessed with the beauty you have.
Please cheer up. You're far more gorgeous than you feel you are. It's so easy to get down about our looks when we see ourselves differently to how others do. You are beautiful. Who cares if you're thin? It's better than being fat. If people knew you were insecure they would think you are insane, because all they see is a truly spectacular woman who by no means should worry about such a thing!
You have a boyfriend who tells you you're beautiful (and means it), you are lucky to be as fortunate and as gorgeous as you are. Stop worrying about your looks. Every teenage girl thinks they're ugly, yes even the ones you admire and think are perfect. Worry about something deserving of your time. You're too precious to spend your life down about this.

wheresmyphone1 · Accepted Answer

I understand what your going through. All these commercials just slam skinny girls because they 'Aren't healthy'. It pisses me off. I'm 5'4 - 5'5 and I'm 122 pounds. (15 years young btw). and all my friends try to cheer me up saying that I'm "soo skinny". Being skinny isn't what I want, and I can't change it either. I hate being 5'4 too, it just emphasizes how skinny I am. And I measure myself every second trying to convince byself that I have a hourglass figure. And I hate it because everyone thinks that I am weak and fragile.
I know it hurts trying to be the girl you think your boyfriend wants you to be. I know this is said like 500 times but BE YOURSELF! If it makes your boyfriend no longer interested than he isn't worth being apart of your life. If it makes songs about how skinny girls are fake, prove that your real!
Us skinny girls hafta stick together!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There is nothing wrong with you. Soo many woman would love to be thin. You already have it. And if your boyfriend thinks your beautiful then believe him. Knowing from experience when your called beautiful, that sums up hot, sexy, pretty, gorgeous etc. So stop stressing. You have better things to be worrying about right now like fun and or school etc. Stop worrying about your weight. If this is something that is just not going away and is affecting your everyday living I think it would be a good idea to see a counceller. Good luck

Azara · Accepted Answer

I have no idea how you can feel too skinny. or how you can be too bny to hug. your weight is totally normal.

On a personal note, I'm at the low end of 5 9 weigh less than you and it does not bother me at all. I have no trouble with clothing or attracting guys either. I have never even thought about being 'too' anything.

I am not saying you are not bothered, or that you are not entitled to feel however yo feel, i just do not see how that can be.

Maybe there's something else bothering you?

Distant · Accepted Answer

Wow. A body-image disorder that works in the opposite way. I feel like I should point out to you that women his a "fattening up" stage in their early 20's that turns them from a teen into a real, shapely woman. Also, many guys aren't concerned with curves... AT ALL. If you're skinny with at least size B breasts, your body is perfectly fine. Hug-worthy and love-worthy.

No one is going to be attracted to you if you're self-conscious, secretly apologizing for hugging them and overall just hating your body though. Confidence is important.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I dont care if a girl has curves. Skinny but with shape is ideal. But skinny and shapeless is fine if I like other things about her. Not that you'll care, but I actually prefer 5'5 and 115-120.

Fitnessandhealth · Answer

Wow. (I thought I was the only one) Okay! So you say you don't feel comfortable with your body, you don't like wearing shorts (because of thin legs). Try doings the 30 day squat challenge & the 30 ab challenge I RECOMEND!! You would see results. This will make you more comfortable, even tho your body is just dealing with high metabolism and try eating healthy calories don't go with junk food (chips) they will blow your stomach and we don't want a blowed stomach or pimples. Try it I RECOMEND it it helps so much and it makes your legs toned with muscle see results in day 16 if you wanna see faster results just add weight :) I'm skinny too I was scared of wearing shorts because of my super thin legs and now ky legs are toned with a little muscle because I'm still working on it.

MissConfused93 · Answer

I'm 5'4 and 113 and I feel fat. you're NOT STICK THIN, trust me! Clearly he likes your body or he wouldn't date you. Plenty of guys like thin girls and tons of "fuller" women would kill to be you.

You don't need to gain weight, you need to gain confidence.

cmanas · Answer

Girl I totally feel you. I am 5"3 and have barely broken 90 pounds and I'm 17. Everyday in class, my weight gets pointpointedes out and its gotten so uncomfortable for me, I don't even want to go to school anymore. To be honest I came on this page thinking I might gain some confidence. I have tried anything and everything to gain weight and its basically impossible. I hate wearing shorts and tank tops and especially bikinis which sucks because I love summer and going to the beach. From one tiny girl to another, I'd say keep your head up and try not to listen to peoples comments. Hugging people is no big deal, they're not thinking of how tiny you are when they're hugging you and you have a boyfriend that loves your body the way it is. If he wanted something else he wouldn't have chosen you!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Some of these comments are fucking awful. I'm 20 years old but all through high school and now I'm still 5'3" and I'm 95 lbs! I am under weight by 20lbs. I know what it feels like to feel too skinny and to this day I will always wish I was thick. Yeah thick girls might want to be my size but they have options to get to the weight they feel most comfortable. I tried. I eat EVERYTHING. I do sports I'm active and I take protine. Everything my doctor told me to do to be in a healthy weight size and I still am not. It's been four years. It's not fun having people ask me if I'm anorexic! I want to cry every time I hear that. I'm a size "A" bra size and 00 pants. I could shop in kid stores. Sure society looks down on bigger women but it is just as unhealthy to be too skinny. That's what matters more. Being healthy. No one really wants to be "fat" no one wants to just be "bones".

TiaraGlitzNeon · Answer

I absolutely get you. And don't listen to these people saying "oh people would kill to have your body.." let's be honest not many people would kill to look like us. I'm a skinny girl who is bullied horribly, and I hate my looks and the way my body is. I want a tiny waist and a big butt, but for me to achieve that is hard. I suggest doing butt workouts and eating a calorie surplus. I know about the whole slim thick trend, which completely puts down thinner women.

MissDelight · Answer

Awwh, this is why thicker girl shouldn't glorify curves as an attempt to feel good about themselves  The body doesn't make the beauty. Don't be so hard on yourself. You're beautiful

NoblesseOblige · Answer

Um, you sound elite to me.  I would probably rate you 10/10 because you are exactly my type. I hate the saying "real women have curves" because fat girls use that as an excuse to be fat.

blondfrog · Answer

You don't have to have curves well at least for me its not a deal breaker and you sound like your in good shape most girls would kill to be your size trust me.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sure it can't be THAT bad? Guys like Skinny girls as much as they like Curvy girls? You don't have to have a certain body type to be a "REAL" Woman.. trust and believe that sht.

Drummer4Lyfe · Answer

Eat cake. Do squats

I'm too skinny, I have no curves and I feel hideous?

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