Girls, if a girl kicks me in the groin, should I kick her back?

[Anonymous]

There is a horrible girl whom i unfortunately know and she does not like me for whatever reason. Anyway on the rare times that we meet she tries/kicks me in the the groin and seems to think she can get away with it cos as she says I can't fight back cos I'm a male.
Next time she tries to hurt me I'm thinking of kicking back just as hard between her legs? I just want her to leave me alone.

[lumos]

No, I don't think you should kick her back. Not because she's a girl, but because you can be above her. Like I said on another question, I hate violence. Unless it's for self-defense, it's completely pointless to hit someone back. I mean, I wouldn't blame you if you ended up kicking her back or something, because I can understand how frustrating it is to have someone be violent towards you (I've had friends who would hit me for no reason at all when I was younger). But I still think that you can be better than that. Try to make a point to her that it's completely unacceptable for her to kick you. Hold her down if you have to.

[Asker]

If i kicked her back it would be used in self defence tho, she is attacking me!! But if I hold her down then what do I do? Ide just let her back up again and then she may be even more hateful towards me?

[lumos]

No, it wouldn't be used in self-defense, you'd kick her back as a revenge. That's why I said that you should hold her down. Holding her down for a while to the point where she can't move even half an inch should be enough to scare her a little. Tell her that she's not allowed to kick you, and that if she kicks you when you let her go, THEN you'll kick her back. As I said, I hate violence, and I really hope that you don't have to kick her back. Forcefully holding her down for a moment should be enough. If not, then she kinda deserves to get kicked.

[Asker]

thats true, I don't like violence either, that's why i'm asking this question and not just kicking back. She is a nasty piece of work tho and I think she would get very aggressive if i held her down tho? Plus I wouldn't feel comfortable in holding someone down, I've never done something like that.

[lumos]

If you're even slightly bigger than her, it should be pretty easy to hold her down just by shifting all your weight onto her. If he gets aggressive, just hold her down until she calms down, and let her know that you won't let her go until she's calm.

[Asker]

I could easily hold her down, I just dont like controlling people tho,

[lumos]

Well, would you rather hold her down or be kicked?

[Asker]

I see your point. Thank you

[kate9582]

Warn her one more time. If she does kick you then kick her back. I honestly don't understand why some girls think hitting guys is OK. They go ahead and act like John Cena but when guys defend themselves they throw the "you can't hit me, II'm a girl" line. Girls aren't only supposed to be delicate. They are supposed to be graceful as well. But being a girl doesn't stop her from acting like a WWE champion. Is it only considered violence when a guy hits someone?

[kambo_trick3y]

I think this girl secretly wants to be John Cena. Probably ripped like him too.

[kate9582]

I wouldn't be surprised at all if she was. At least he makes money out of it. She's just a bully

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion, you are very correct in what you have said, All my female friends have said similar things to you so i guess next time she gets violent with me ill stand my ground and fight back and just like any bully she will run away and cry when challenged.

[So_many_questions]

Just so you know it is highly strange for a girl to behave like that. Did you guys ever had fight? Or maybe she's upset about something you did and doesn't know how to react?
If not that then I have a feeling that this girl might have feelings for you and just wants your attention. I know its a strange way to get attention but there are lots of strange people on this planet:|

[Asker]

I know its strange for Anyone to act like that, that's why i'm asking for help. I've never had a fight with anyone, I've had arguments with my close male friends but we get over it within minutes so no I've done nothing wrong by her at all. lol if thats her way of saying she likes me then she has driven me far away from herself.

[So_many_questions]

Hmmmm...
If there was no fight then yes I think she sort of likes you. Except for well kicking you in the groin how is she? With her other friends? If she is usually nice to them, maybe you should give it a chance.
Tell you what, next time she tries to kick you or anything else, warn her that you will retaliate by kissing her. See what her reaction is then;-)

[Asker]

Im not sure how she is usually cos I don't see her all that often. Lol I like your optimism but after how she has disrespected me there is no way I will ever be kissing her or dating her, I think I want a woman who respects a man not mistreats them.

[So_many_questions]

Hmmm... well its your choice in the end:-)
Good luck;-)

[Asker]

,,,,, :)

[abzence]

Gender equality have not gotten this far yet.
If she gets some visible injuries from your kick then you will probably be in huge legal problems even if she did the same or worse to you before that. We all like to think we have a fair and equal society, but sadly we don't.

[Asker]

not yet we don't my friend, but we are slowly getting there.

[kambo_trick3y]

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[yaddayaddayadda02]

this

[Asker]

lol
very funny

[abzence]

Just imagine the girl behind kicking where a male instead. It would be an outrage. Just some food for thought.

[MiraR]

Haha sounds quite funny but yeah you could try that or you could try another approach and that is to warn her before you do it. Maybe the next she does it, tell her tht you dnt like what she's doing and if she keeps doing it, then you're going to do the same thing to her. I think thts the best thng to do if she doesn't stop then she knws wht she's getting into.

[Asker]

thank you

[OnceUponADream143]

kicking someone in the groin is childish and rude. it would make you that way too if you returned it. Have you tried asking her why? Tell her in that she needs to stop that, grow up, and tell you why she is acting that way toward you, and what her problem is.

[Asker]

Actually no I have never asked her why?
Thing is I no longer care whatsoever about her tho

[OnceUponADream143]

yeah, but maybe if you talk it out she'll stop.

[Asker]

i hope so

[Anonymous]

Kicking anyone in the groin is not okay, and if you kick her back you are just as bad as her. As others have suggested I think you should sternly tell her to stop, and if she laughs at you for being super serious just keep being stern, if anything this sudden sterness will be a shock and hopefully get her to realize how serious this is.
Also, is there any way you can avoid her?

[Asker]

Thankfully I don't see her all that often but her group of friends are friends of my group kinda, sorta hard to explain. a lot of her friends are starting to not hang out with her cos of her violence tho so hopefully she will be left on her own.

[Opinion Owner]

it sounds like they're all picking up on her craziness. which is another reason not to kick her back - you don't want them to think you're as bad as her. Let her be the outcast and hopefully she learns that needless violence is not okay.

[Asker]

such a great response, thank you very much

[Mic127]

I would try to embarrass her. By saying something like grow up and act your age. Or seriously do u think that's cool? In front of people trust me she'll stop

[Asker]

I'll try that, Thank you :D

[AlyssaSupernova]

Yes, girls are easy to hurt emotionally. So by hurting her feelings, especially in front of other people, will make her think twice about bothering you again. And bonus points to you not hitting her :) (just try not to offend anyone by saying something racist, sexist, etc etc)

[Mic127]

Your welcome good luck!

[Asker]

I don't want to hurt her physically or emotionally, I just want her to grow up and respect ppl. No I won't offend anyone, I'm not racist and far from sexist :) Thanks again :D

[Mic127]

I don't think u would at all be hurting her emotionally. By embarrassing her a little because that behavior just isn't acceptable

[Mic127]

In fact u would be helping her to think about her behavior cause clearly she isn't doing it on her own. And she will never get a guy that way

[Asker]

no she wont, tbh though I really dont think she deserves a guy

[knotme]

What you do is tell her sternly to not do it. She should already Know that is not allowed and you are not going to stand for it

[Asker]

thank you

[poppunk]

I'd try to figure out why she doesn't like you as well as try to be the bigger person. Ask her friends maybe?

[Asker]

tbh ide like nothing to do with her anymore!!

[poppunk]

Well the sooner you figure out her problem the sooner you can do that. She obviously doesn't care about leaving you alone

[Asker]

Why can't she respect me tho? I respect her, I've never hurt her in any way! So why does she disrespect me? why be so hateful towards me?

[steveguitar]

catch her foot, and hold it, make her jump around a bit, and if she falls she won't do it again lol

[Asker]

lol good idea dude

[Katy16]

No you shouldn't kick her back, but you could report her

[Asker]

To the police? I dont trust the police anymore

[Katy16]

That's what I was thinking, but if you are in college with her or something you could just report it to them

[Asker]

We are out of college and now working, Maybe I could tell her parents, That may upset her and stop her.

[Katy16]

Maybe

[Live_And_Learn]

Just walk away, if this persists... report her. That behavior is unacceptable.

[Metal189]

if she's hitting you there, for an unknown reason, MAYBE, but if you deserved it, then no

[Anonymous]

If somebody uses violence then regardless of their gender I feel the person attacked has every right to defend themselves and nullify the threat.

[Asker]

Thank you! Exactly what I've been thinking

[Opinion Owner]

But that doesn't mean that's what I'd do.

[Panzer103]

The better question is. Will you be able to kick her back.

[Anonymous]

If you only you were one of those guys who gets off on it, then you could have enjoyed yourself...

[Janis99999]

Tgats the only way to stop her from doing it again the boobs are a good target too

[CommieDearest]

Knock her fucking teeth out.

[Asker]

wow that's violent

[CommieDearest]

So is kicking someone in the balls every time you see them. Maybe she should learn being a woman doesn't pardon her from retaliation to violence.

[Asker]

woah, your tough, but i like your views very much, I wouldn't knock her teeth out but Ill kick her hard in the pussy

[Anonymous]

You could if you think it will teach her to not do it anymore

[Anonymous]

Yes when you kick her back. she'll find out it hurts girls more and will stop it

[mario1321]

Sometimes it is nessasary,

[Anonymous]

Kiss her <3

[Asker]

why should i?

[OnceUponADream143]

why?

[Asker]

lol yes why kiss her? She is disrespectful

[OnceUponADream143]

and also, that could make her even more mad.

[Asker]

lol probably, so why did you suggest that?

[BlueM0nkey]

That’s a different person lol