Is there reason why girls won't date short athletic guys?

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really like to play sports and outdoor games and I like to stay in shape but I think the reason I don't have a girl friend because 1 I'm a virgin and 2 I'm short for a girls point of view (5'4) like all 8 of my brother are tall except me even my father is tall but I think girls prefer tall guys because well they tall but me lot of girls reject me because I'm short but I thought girls like guys with nice body but I guess you have to be tall to date. I remember this girl I wanted to go out with like I really liked her a lot but she told me she would have date me but I too short she told me that she feel embarrassed to be in public with me but I need some advice

mylezylez · Accepted Answer

Hey dude, I feel your pain. I'm 5'6.5” myself...and it seems like girls consider you "too short" even if you're 5'8 or so (which is supposedly the average...though it seems like most guys are taller). It's seriously seriously a prejudice women have. We as guys are judged as shallow pigs for not wanting to date fatter or less “pretty” girls, but it’s 100% acceptable for women to rule guys out based on where their eyelines meet (or not). I live in LA, and I swear the average height for women here is 5'8 or more.

I haven't had a date in a LONG time, though I can't really blame that on my height...however much that might sometimes affect my self image. But I know that every single day I'm reminded in direct or indirect ways how much value women place on how tall you are...not to mention other men. And then, you're judged by any perceived compensation...and honestly, it's often an accurate judgment. I try VERY hard not to send out those signals.

I'm also convinced that height has A LOT more to do with psychology, nutrition, and socio-economic class than most people acknowledge. Poor, malnourished, possibly abused kids grow up shorter than their peers that had happier healthier childhoods...though this is by no means certain. In my case however, I know it's true (since according to doctors I was supposed to be 5’9 or more). And of course, even if your life does a complete 180 after childhood, your height is more or less locked in...barring some awesome procedure using stem cells, haha.

I'll give you the advice that I should be giving to myself. Be really smart; be REALLY good looking; see through the bullsh*t that surrounds us, and have a great sense of humor about it...never think you're less than anyone else just because you see the world from a slightly lower angle. Your height will most often be a strike against you, but there are tons of other factors that women consider.

Also, remember this: Women have NO idea what they want…especially when they think they do. Attraction for them is a primal sense (as it is for us…though we’re actually simpler in those terms), and they’re always breaking their little “rules.” A short guy approaching a tall girl could be seen as extra confident, which is always attractive. Just like a really big and tall guy who’s kind and gentle can be desirable. So really, keep your head up and don’t react emotionally to any height-related issues.

That said, any good looking girls in the LA area looking for a hot, smart, awesome guy with a great career in the works…who happens to be slightly shorter? :)

Subotai · Accepted Answer

Well I am kind of short and to be honest that's not really a plus but that doesn't stop a lot of short guys from having sucess with women.  My dads short, which is why I am short.  Wait a minute my dad's short.  If he's a dad that means he must have had sex.  As a matter of fact he got married and still is happily married.  I know plenty of short adults who are happily married.  It may be they tended to get married later or not have had many girlfriends in high school.  Remember high school is the shallowest stupidest lowest cesspool of human existence where the superficial reaches new heights.  Hell as a matter of fact is not literally a burning inferno it is actually a high school.  Woah I'm kinda off topic here dude.  A lot of short guys are funny. Astronauts tend to be somewhat short, women by the way tend to like to ride astronauts lol.  A lot of short guys become important leaders like Napoleon.  He didn't have size or the kind of looks that are considered attractive.  He had to get through his early years through sheer force of personality.  His conquests in Europe(with the notable exception of Russia) and in the bedroom are both duly noted.  The girl who is embarrased to be with you in public tell her you are embarrased to be with such a shallow beatch in public.  I mean that.  Feel free to make fun of her boobs or make degrading and sexist comments.  She's barely fit to breathe oxygen.  The sooner she's out of your life and out of your head the better.  Women are less look based than us.  Women are attracted to confidence.  Which explains why guys like Napoleon JFK Elvis Obama are considered so attractive.  Unfortunately girls are attracted to asses like Napoleon that bone headed football captain prep, Tom Cruise.  Omg Tom Cruise is short.  But you don't have to be an ass just have the confidence of one.  Remember a girl who goes out with you is lucky.  I think you are seeing it the other way around.  Like a girl who goes out with you is commiting an act of mercy, even If that is true thinking that in your heart won't help

DexterousCadence · Accepted Answer

...Am I the only girl answering who actually finds short guys more attractive than tall guys?

I don't specifically look for short guys, but there's an obvious pattern to the guys I'm attracted to. Maybe it's because I'm not looking for "protection", so a looming Tower of Pisa isn't part of my absolutes. I really do not care at all about the height of my ideal guy.

I was thinking about why I consistently go for the shorter guys, though. I think part of it might be that they tend to have the common struggle with being “looked down upon”, and thus try particularly hard to prove themselves. They tend to have strong personalities, and I’m the kind of person who prefers that. …Obviously, this is a vague generalization, and certainly does not apply to everyone, but that’s one observation I have…

In my opinion, you should focus on what attributes you have instead of what you don’t have – at the same time, don’t let your height become a touchy subject. Don’t let girls project their ideals onto you. Find someone who loves you for who you are, not someone just settling for part of you while figuring they can live with the rest.

…It was long, it was just one point of view. Hope you find peace with yourself!

angelbaby320 · Accepted Answer

Honestly most guys do prefer guys that are their height or taller but that doesn't mean you should never try to get a date. Some girls don't mind the height difference you just have to find them. Other girls will blow you off as possible dating material because of your height but stick around maybe not so much that your put into the friend zone that you never get out of but just enough for them to learn what your really like on the inside. Once they see the kind of guy you are a lot of girls are capable of looking past the height difference even if they did blow you off at first.

If you don't want to wait around to find a girl who is capable of looking past your height you can always try shorter girls. I know tons of girls that are shorter than 5'4 so to them you would be taller!

Look at it this way...would you date a heavy girl if she was capable of looking past your height? If you answered yes your one of the few! Most guys don't give heavier girls the time of day when it comes to dating just like girls don't give shorter guys the time!

confusedgirl22 · Accepted Answer

ok just go for a shorter younger girl. say you're 18, go for a 16/17 year old girl (dont go lower tho!) younger girls will be easier to pick up! and honestly just go for a short girl. I'm only 5'1 so I wouldn't automatically rule you out-are they ur abs in the pic?! if they are then you have done everything possible to your body so should be happy wit it as it is. I would also say gain more confidence-I liked this guy who was actually shorter than me in heels before! He was cute but it was defo his laidback attitude/charisma that initially attracted me. I also liked this other small-ish guy cos he was charming too but he wasn't even that good looking-he looked way younger than he was and all! So confidence, being funny and personality will get you a long way with girls, believe me!

bobair · Answer

It's not your height that pushing women away. Even midgets get married.

Stop trying to blame your physical features and take a second look at how you're presenting yourself.

What are your mindsets?

What is your energy?

Are you fun and playful and exciting and mysterious?

Or are you overly excited, try hard, "please give me your attention", insecure and needy?

Why?

Because women don't choose who they're attracted to - it's unconsous and emotional.

If you're BEING attractive, then you'll attract women. It's 1 + 1 it's so simple.

You can't trick women. You can't "sell" yourself by posting your Abs on your Facebook.

Instead you should be sincere, honest, and even insecure, but don't put up a fake FRONT pretending that you're someone that you're not. Women LOVE honesty, mystery, fun, sex, and emotionally strong men.

Find your strengths and STOP wasting time worrying about something you have no control over.

Stay true,

~ Robby

www.FULLofHATEandREADYtoDATE.com ( link

appleshampoo · Answer

Your mindset is in the wrong place. Just because you are in shape doesn't mean you are guaranteed to get the ladies. Yes, men like looks the most, women however don't. With your current mindset you arn't going to get anywhere. Also being short has nothing to do with it. I'm 5'5.

Do yourself a favour and concentrate and having a good time rather than what you look like. Girls will date short, athletic guys. Providing they bring some interesting stories, and a fun attitude to the table.

"Girls won't date me because I'm short." No, girls won't date you because you have no game dude. I very much doubt your story about the girl saying you are too short to date and she would be embarassed to be seen with you. I think it's a made-up story to a) get some sympathy and b) trying to prove you argument. I don't buy it. Girls are not that mean. But I'll give you the benfit of the doubt, say she did say that, get yourself some self-respect and cut her out of your life. DO NOT TAKE THAT SHIT FROM ANYBODY.

JustDance · Answer

Its all about preference, some call it shallowness some call it picky... it's all about finding a girl open minded enough to go out with a shorter guy, and you must have quite a bit of confidence to be with a taller chick in public lol. unless you find a nice 4'10'' girl its al good lol someone always comes along who could be a potential girlfriend, give it time, if ur needy then get a hooker, go to vegas, whatevs. or just hook up with a girl and be like " have you ever had sex with a well hung short guy with a hot bod?"

and if she's the slutty type or just horny... its all game. but hookups are temporary. Girlfriends are way better in that aspect, and the whole picture where feelings are involves and its more than sex, is way more gratifying than f***ing a chick, wake up in the morning, regret what you have done, confess to your priest and go home and wash yourself from the impurities (LOL ok that last part is just rambling) soooooooooo... don't ever give up because you sound like a good guy and real girls dig those kind of guys.

elguapo · Answer

just find your self a nice shrot girl becouse sorry it the short thing it dosnt matter if your athletic buff white black mexican shot you can be what ever you want but its the short thing that kills you. mm other thing spike your hair make yo look taller and change shoes, don't wear baggie pants make you look even more shorter and its not that they don't like you its just they like to be shorter just find a nice girl that's shorter then you

ps if you notes shorter girls are more built or find a girl that's ok with it. worlds smallest man has a hot wife now ether he paid her ok she just acepted that he's short..er. and that they get embarrassed when there with you that's a lie who wouldn't want a athletic dude shut I would kill to be buff I'm tall but fat well not fat but round I just say more to love and I already have a girlfriend I've ask her if she's embarrassed with me and se loves me the way I am we have gone to places together and just had a blast see you just have to find the right one that's all.

good luck ok man hope this helps

Mellene · Answer

There isn't a problem with short guys, BUT most all girls prefer guys to be taller than them.

I'm around 5'6 and I wouldn't prefer to date a guy who is even the same height as me!

And there are many petite girls who struggle to find the date because they think they are very

short and most of the guys are just too tall for them.

Off course, if you aim for a girl with 5'8 + stilettos than it will be harder to impress her.

But don't give up asking girls out - the right girl sees strong points over weak ones, she

would appreciate you working hard to have good body.

And don't worry about being a virgin - only sex whores will complain. It's normal and

even great that you aren't thinking with down below. You've got many good points so

focus on them, instead of being upset about something you don't like. Sadly height is

something we can't change and need to accept that, when you will feel comfortable with

your height - everyone else will too.

timberlake · Answer

first off, that girl's an asshole, haha. geez... if she liked you, she should've dated you.

to be honest, I'm really short too ( 5'2) but I think 5'4 is too short for me too. I don't know what it is, but a 5'10 guy is what looks really good to me, haha. it doesn't make sense to discriminate, but I think most women have this perception that the guy has to be much larger than her and be the protector and blah, blah, blah. I like feeling all cute and petite next to a guy. that's just me tho.

there's a girl out there for you, you just haven't met her yet. why are there time limits on virginity? let sh*t happen when it happens.

btw, your body's insanely gorgeous. lol

Funkster76 · Answer

You need self confidence. If that's your picture trust me your body alone will attract girls.

I have a freind who is 5'5" and even at 40 looks like he belongs in highschool

he was never alone and broke his virginity far younger than I did and I'm much taller and better built.

He was confident to the point of cocky and the girls love it. I was shy and reserved until I was older.

As for being a virgin that is an attraction to most. They know they aren't going to get something from you and that your not a bed hopper.

let me know if this helps.

Yuriy · Answer

Damn dude, I mean If that's your real body In that picture and girls still don't go out with you because of a silly thing like height. I mean hell I'm around 6-6'1 but I doubt it really helps me get girls (BELLY and Acme). I always thought guys that are ripped like you have no problem finding girls. I mean it just depends on the women I'm a nice guy once girls that are really attracted get to know me, I come out of my shell always seem to make them laugh. Sometimes I wish I rather be short and ripped then 6'1 with my problems (maybe start working out and not eating anything bad).

Just wait for that special one, trust me you'll meet her in the most randomt place of like buying salty fish :P.

BrettH · Answer

this may not be true for you but most short guys that I know have a napoleon complex. I.E. they are short so they feel like they have to prove to everyone that they are  no less of a man because how short they are... and so well they come off as a dick really. so if that's how you view things then just chill out and relax. the girls that are going after 1 type of guy are mainly the shallow bitches you don't wanna date because who knows what al they have STD wise. and do you really want  agirl who has no real personality and only date her on her looks? also who cares that your  avirgin... here's a little tip but there are more people your age that are still virgins than you think. so really its not that big of a deal so just chill relax and its all good! and good luck finding  a good girl!

macintire · Answer

bro I'm 5'3 and I've never had trouble with gettin anything... short girls always tell me they like me more because I'm more their height ... I even get girls up to 5'5 or 5'6... because they say it doesn't matter... your going in thinkin they aren't gunna want u... and they can smell it they can sense how scared you are and self conscious of your height.. seriously deal with it now because ur gunna be short forever.. don't waste ur time with girls over 5'5 but I'm telling you it matters to enough girls but that's what they say... if you get one to like you after a short convo as long as ur taller...same height.. if close it no longer matters...man up

and seriously I don't have a body at all... unless ur on a beach or at a no shirt party it won't matter

MaReAnSaed · Answer

bro be confident don't think about the unnecessary things. I know what you mean, I'm 6'1 and I get a lot of compliments on it, but that doesn't mean I've ever had a girl friend and I'm almost 20. because simply I don't want to.

for you to get a girl friend, there's a mentality for guys our age to look at girls as "okay so this girl is ugly and what not and I'm only going to be nice to her and get her off my face" - then the "oh shyt man this girl is hot and bla bla I'm going to throw myself on her" ... well, NO! talk to everyone, be nice to everyone, don't consider anyone more than just a friend, and u'll automatically merge and get closer to a girl that's going to see the right side of you.

-good luck bro

CuddlyCarla · Answer

I have to be honest here. Most women (and especially the RIGHT ones for you) aren't going to care you are a virgin or that you are short., You are placing way more emphasis on the external than most women in your vicinity probably are. You sound insecure, second-guessing of yourself, doubtful. That would explain far more why women don't go for you. Build your confidence, work on your inside as much as your outside, be assertive, and care about yourself in a healthy way. Women will respond to it and your life will also be happier. This girl in your life (the one who mentioned your height) was not only NOT the right person for you, but clearly an idiot. You deserved better, don't let some lame opinion define how you feel about yourself, you are worth so much more than that.

Standingpretty · Answer

She definalty isn't right for you if she feels embarrassed by you! That's bull, she's just being mean. I have to say that everyone has different tastes, you just have to find a girl who thinks your hot. Maybe it's not the way you look either it could be the way you approach girls, just like people are attracted to certain types of looks they like certain types of approaches to. But, I'm going to have to say I saw some very hot short guys before who I thought were hot who my friends didn't and visa-versa. You just have to be yourself and don't stress about how you look. Trust me, there are plenty of girls who think you are hot but your just not noticing. Hope that helps! :)

krlaing99 · Answer

I like guys who are short and tall, just depends on how well they treat me. Because I am 5"0 foot. But I mean girls who are tall like guys who are tall because to them it doesn't feel akward. And girls who are short then I guess the reason why girls like tall guys idk, I know some who like short and tall. So I am sure there is a girl who will like you know matter how tall you are. Good Luck. and being a virgin is not bad. I'm still a virgin so its ok. you are just smart to wait for the right girl.

Miss-May · Answer

Its probably becuase of your height I'm like 165cm, I'm taller then my mum and I'm 14 I has the tall gene :) I would like to date people that are only just taller then me, becuase if I had a really really tall boyfriend I would need a ladder to give him a kiss ^^ lol.

I get angry when I hear girls bitch about their boyfriends behind their backs, honestly I think anyone who has a boyfriend is lucky. I just got dumped via text after 6 days, the sad thing is he didn't have the balls to say it to my face :)

Anonymous · Answer

Most of the short guys I know are with girls close to their height or even shorter.  Like 5'0-5'3 girls. Personally I'm 5'7 and thick so me with a short guy would be kinda unbalanced but I would probably be f*** buddies with one. Plus most short guys seem to like smaller girls anyway so it evens out. but I did used to mess with this guy that is your height he had a lot of game and was kind of a dick but that's neither here nor there lol.  Don't give up. Stay confident because that is very important.  You will find a girl out there for you. The girl that said that to you was a mean bitch and not worth it. You will meet girls that are right for you and forget all about that cow!

Anonymous · Answer

B/C they want to feel protected and dominated. Being tall helps in this department. Also, they don't want to be taller with or without heels on.  The most important thing though is to explain that height doesn't matter when you're lying down and then put it on 'em when you bang 'em.  If you got a good size **** and know how to work it they won't much care about your height. But remember when you're banging to dominate and take control by showing them who is incharge. That will certainly make up for any height issues.

Anonymous · Answer

a lot of people give you their opinions and try to give you pep talk to cheer you up...but I think I have the solution...the more you expose yourself, the better your chances...do you have any hobbies or talents? expose those abilities if you will...dont hide behind the bushes like many of us guys tend to do sometimes...remember a girl can't choose the platter if its covered up...u already have a good physique so make the best of it and pretend you're the king of the world...also try this exercise which worked for me...go to a nightclub and play the getting rejected game...the more times you ask a girl to dance and get rejected, the less important it becomes. Get that rejection fear and stomp on it like a stale cheeseburger...remember you're the man and you are in control...girls are clueless until you lead the way...

Anonymous · Answer

I guess a lot of girls just can't see themselves dating a guy shorter than them so it sorta rules out a good amount of the female population for you. And some girls just prefer tall guys, whether they themselves are tall or not, I won't deny that. But there are definitely girls shorter than you around who would gladly date you if you're sweet, funny and everything else. The guy I like at the moment is only very slightly taller than me, which would make him only about 5'3 (and he's 20 so no growth spurts to be expected), but he's gorgeous in every other way and I'm dying for a chance with him! As for being a virgin, I don't see anything wrong with that and I know that's not a problem for a lot of girls as well, in fact I think it's a good thing.

twilightfan123 · Answer

Your athleticism isn't the reason why girls won't date you, it's more than likely your height.  Girls are attracted to taller guys just as much as guys are attracted to shorter girls.  Like, I would have no problem dating you if it weren't for our height difference.  It just wouldn't work out with me being 5'9" and you being 5'4"... catch my drift?

Is there reason why girls won't date short athletic guys?

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