Why are girls bitchy? Why aren't guys bitchy?

If I hang out with guys everything is great. That's because there are no male drama queens out there. Guys aren't bitchy at all. In fact, they don't even know hot to act like a bitch. Why can't girls be like that?


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  • haha, this is a great question. First of all, there are males out there who can be bitches, we call them assholes lol. BUT the bitchassness never comes out of them until a women in their life provokes it and it stays within the relationship therefore their male friends don't tend to see it. YES some girls are bitches. Most of them actually. Including myself at times : ) we are just wired very differently then men. We just want so terribly for you men to understand us and prove to us you care (in a relationship). Lots of women drop hints at men to let them know "I need you to care more" but men don't really get the hint. Therefore we get upset, and when our emotional needs don't get taken care of it results in bitchiness. Its a very simple task to keep a women happy if you get down to it, but it is hard for some guys to grasp the concept of those things. Because some don't know what those things are. And some do. There are a select few out there who know how to treat a woman and keep her happy, and they don't have to deal with her being a bitch. Granted we do birth children and have p.m.s so you can allow a a few days a month to vent : ) that is if you are a great understanding guy. If you are with a women who bitches all the time about EVERYTHING, run, run fast! BUT there are those out there who's niceness out weighs the bitchiness. Hope this helps!

    • "Lots of women drop hints at men to let them know" so women communicate poorly, and get upset with men for not interpreting the subjective hints? that's abusive...

      according to the National Institutes of Health, somewhere between 3% and 30% of women actually have pms. { http://www.nih.gov/news/pr/jan98/nimh-21.htm } what excuse do the other 70-97% of women have?

    • I think the word "abusive" is a little harsh. We don't come out and say hey dumbass, I need you to be like this or that or buy me this or that. That would be a little abusive. We drop hints, I would call that "flirting". Your right some women don't have p.m.s they are just bitches, and they love being that way. If you don't like it stay away from them.

    • She's right. When girls aren't getting intimacy/emotional support, they get pretty bitchy about everything else. Same as if guys weren't getting sex or attention from a girl, they become bitches and complain also.

What Girls Said 34

  • a lot of girls are bitchy because they just like to complain and when they bitch about other people they take out there insecurity's but don't realize how they come off... most of the time that is. some girls are just bitches end of story. but guys don't bitch to there friends, they like to keep a chill attitude around there friends to be "cool" but then. they bitch to there girlfriends and girls that are friends about everything and everyone that they hate. believe me. any conversation I've had with any of my guy friends it has to do with some bitching. I'm not saying all guys or all girls are like this. its the person not the gender. if this bothers you so much why don't you look at the girl and tell her "that no one wants to hear it, this isn't the doctor phill show. save it for your girlfriends." I'm pretty sure she will shut up fast. I mean don't say it rude. or in front of everyone but just take her aside and tell her to shut up

    • So agree guys bitch to others like you said girlfriend etc. but when they are all hanging out they are all cool or get over it fast without bitching but later on bitch about it to someone else

    • Pretty much but everyone needs to let it out to someone! I'm sorry if that came off rude I was angry this morning and I didn't mean to take it out on you! :(

  • Honestly, you obviously haven't dated men. Men can be just as unpleasant as women. Men and women are different, and thus their strengths and weaknesses are different. That said, neither one can lay claim over being more well-adjusted than the other, trust me.

  • It's because they're jealous.. Most girls are bitches because if there's another girl in the room that's not their best friend, they'll do everything possible to make it seem like they're the best one in there.. It's just how we work!

    • Pffft that's really dumb, not gonna lie. Why are people so competitive these days? Just relax and enjoy life...

    • I know.. That's why everyone loves to hang out with me! lol not being a brag. I just don't care what other girls think, or guys even. I'm just myself - Most of my friends are guys because they're way more chill then girls. When I hang out with a girl? I find myself talking bad about people all the time - It's unhealthy.

  • hormones. hahhaha

  • I've met guys who are as bad as bitchy girls, they're just not called "bitchy".

  • Hmm. Actually, I think your question is quite correct. Women hate being called a bitch or bitchy because it just sounds mean. But, you are asking why we nag, or get upset or angry easily, and it's perfectly ok to ask that :)

    I think it's because *most* women want you to know how their feeling and to do something about it. In most experiences, we've learned that just saying "Hey, this is how I feel" just doesn't get the job done, so we *act* on it instead and emphasize it to make you notice more.

    We also get pregnant (which will be the worse time to see a woman bitchy...just as my husband haha) and we have that time of the month. During both those periods, our horomones are going crazy and we don't always know why we act the way we do either. Right now, there are times I want to bash my head into a wall I'm so irritated, and I'll be at home alone just doing housework or something and I really have nothing to be irritated about. But my hormones are going INSANE right now. Is that an excuse? No, not really as I always control myself when I did have my time of the month. It's just A LOT more now and it's something different for me. I do cry more than anything though lol :)

  • seriously when a guy starts 'bitching' about someone, in another words, DISSING someone, it's worse than when a girl bitches about someone. I hang around guys all the time adn the way they do diss someone and make fun of someone it's just..bad. but the good thing is that they don't diss without a reason like girls do.

  • well not every girl is that way. most girls are that way and its because some have drama like their might be another girl trying to teak her man away from her and girls have diffrent hormones that's why we are a lot more emotional some less than others. some like to stay away from drama like me. I sometimes act like if I was one of my guy friends I try to make things as simple as possible. but its gonna be hard to find a girl that doesn't have drama in her life.

  • Im not bitchy unless I'm at work and usually guys are ass holes to me so I wouldn't put all girls into this category.

  • You know you opened up a can of worms with this question, right? Guys can be bitchy too, don't believe me? Come work with my boss for a while, his mood changes more than the sky has clouds. And when he is bitchy, he is way past anything I can produce.

    Also, on a side note, women are allowed to be bitchy more often if we are good looking. Men will look past it just to have us on thier arm. It's a learned behavior. Now if you are ugly and bitchy, good luck to you honey.

    --- The media doesn't help either. All the reality TV shows, all those women who throw hissy fits and THEN get what they want.

  • Guys are bitchy too. They just don't call them bitchy. They use words like moody, grouchy, in a bad mood, bad tempered, or just a mean jerk or a-hole.

  • So generalized. Some guys can be miles bitchier than any girl. I agree, I prefer to hang out with guys. But seriously - some can be simply awful.

  • i've known bitchy guys. really bitchy. with guys, if they're bitchy, there's no inbetween. bitchy guys are always a total bitch. not a little bit, but all the way.

    i've never known a girl to rape someone. I'd rather meet a bitchy girl than a rapist.

  • because guys hate drama and they won't deal with it and girls love drama and bring it into anything they do.

  • Uhhhh girls are mean and annoying. Plain and simple. I don't know how yall put up with us. But I will make the arguement that I'm not bitchy at allllll, which is why I hang out with guys ha

  • *how

    • Why didn't you thank me for correcting your huge mistake?

  • PMS. also some bitchy girls are insecure, or just want attention. and they are spolied brats. and they are just bitches.

  • Girls are verbally abusive and guys are physically abusive, girls use their mouths, guys use their muscles. That's just how it goes, most of the time.

  • I guess we are just different, even though I'm a girl but I can't understand why other girls are bitchy either. Boys and girls will never understand each other fully until we actually turn into the opposite sex, which isn't possible, but if it was well that would answer a lot of questions.

  • Ture, lots of drama when it comes to girls.

    But guys could act like jerks and assholes which is pretty much the guy version of a bitch imo. And fyi, not all girls are bitchy. Maybe it's just the girls you've been hanging around with.

    I have a lot of female griends who are very awesome! And we do fun things (just like many other girls, that guys will never do.)

    Like taking silly pictures, gossiping about celebrities, trying on outfits, and dancing goofying around while singing to old songs.

  • I think that this question is a little biased. Yes, SOME girls can be bitchy and irritable, and yes some guys are not. However, I have known plenty of guys that need to STFU and sit down somewhere. There are plenty of male "drama queens" Just because you haven't ran into them doesn't mean they don't exist. Or, you might have ran into them, but don't think of them as such. Basically, you get to choose what kind of people you want to hang out with, if all of the girls you hang out with are bitchy, annoying and whiny, it's because that is who you choose to hang out with. If you haven't ran into any that are contrary to this, it's probably because you don't want to or don't know how to find girls that aren't "bitchy"

    • Those male drama queens are most likely gay.

    • Yea, some of them are. I just use the term "drama queen" to describe anyone who is attracted to drama.

      example: every single guy/girl that drags their girlfriend/boyfriend and then the girl/guy/cousin/brother/sister/ any other relative they are sleeping with onto the jerry springer show.

      some people are just drawn to drama, sadly because it's all they know

    • Lol so right Kangaz!

  • a lot girls like drama and most guys just don't care

  • most girls seem bitchy because we over think everything and can easily take something the wrong way. personally I don't think I'm one of those girls but I don't know I've just noticed that guys just don't give a sh*t, and girls are lik always causing some sort of drama.

  • Well, I don't know that it is fair to say that ALL girls are bitchy or that ALL guys are a**holes. I am sure that there are good and bad apples on both sides of the spectrum. I personally loathe drama but it tends to find me. Regardless, I am not bitchy or high maintenance. I am a little high strung, focused and organized. No time to be bitchy. I prefer to discuss things in a mature fashion. I hate to argue, fuss and fight. I did so much of it growing up. I also do not like to shop, buy shoes, wear make-up etc. There are many different types of people out there. Broaden your horizons and try not to label people so quickly. Some will surprise you.

  • You have issues... (no not really) but GUYS can be bitches-Assholes be the word for it.Guys have drama,oh yes they do..MALE IMS(Irritable Male Syndrom) Same as PMS... It's been proven..

    Girls aren't always bitchy you know... We have our good side too :)...

    • A search of scientific papers on Google scholar reveals 41 IMS citations. about 5 of 'em are from major, peer-reviewed scientific papers. And none of the IMS studies have been replicated. It's an interesting idea, but far from "proven".

    • Well my bad :)

  • ive met a bitchy guy .. yupp he is bitchy .. bitchier than any girl I noe .. he is into drama .. I think he might be gay even tho he has a girlfriend ahaha

  • i dunno, I've met some bitchy guys before!

  • maybe shallow vapid girls are bitchy all the time..not all of us are

    you don't think guys are bitchy? ha try turning one down and you'll definitely see his bitch side.

  • There ARE guy drama kings out there. And no, they're not gay. Many are incredibly, undeniably straight. And many know very, very well how to act like a bitch.

  • Guys are just assholes.

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What Guys Said 4

  • simply because men and women are chemically different. Keep in mind that while you should limit the amount of female drama in your life, it is always fun to be around them, cause bitchy or not, they mix stuff up in our lives and in our heads. This is also the reason that girls chill with girls, and guys chill with guys.

    • Nice answer. And might I add that guys have the physical side to contend with, i.e. you're never gonna have to contend with a hench girl because you cussed her sister...

    • Yeah true

  • women may be chemically different, but that doesn't excuse taking out her their bad moods on other people.

    the main problem is that women in western cultures (especially America and western Europe) have been brainwashed into believing that their feelings are the center of the universe and that their feelings are _inherently_ important. guys are expected to be stoic, the strong silent types.

    when compared to men, women aren't told that they occasionally need to just shut the hell up, quit bitching, suck it up and deal with life. rather, women are raised on a diet of coddling and "talk about your feelings" nonsense. the nonsense is that women aren't given much guidance about how to _constructively_ talk about feelings, and how to know when they'd be better served by shutting up and getting over themselves.

    • I forgot an example that makes my point. imagine you're a little sad & grumpy. 2 options to deal with it.

      1. sit down for an hour. talk or write in detail about _why_ you're sad, what made you angry, how you feel about it all, and what it all means.

      2. shut up about it, jog to a dog park and play with a puppy for 30 minutes.

      which will make you feel better? yet many or most women think #1 is the ideal. no wonder they have higher rates of depression than men.

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    • Ohh and btw According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, at least 85 percent of menstruating women have at least one PMS symptom as part of their monthly cycle.

    • It is estimated that 95 percent of women experience some form of premenstrual discomfort regularly. --Contemporary care for women's hormone-regulated health

  • Well it really is dependent on the person not the gender. I have met some really bitchy guys and some really tough girls. It only depends on who you hang around or fall for.


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  • Just the way they are.