My gf is afraid to be alone with me. What is it?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I want to be alone with her she says she's not feeling like it. Just today I was walking with her down the halls after school and I start walking behind the staircase.

Her: "where are you going."
Me: "In here."
Her: "Noooooo."
Me: "why."
Her: "I don't feel like it I'm in one of my random moods."

This isn't the first time this happened whenever I sit down with her back there she makes excuses to leave.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she feels uncomfortable about the situation. she's probably thinking that's you'll try to kiss her or touch on her or something but she's not ready to make that next move. Just assure her that you two can take things slow and let it go at her pace. Sooner or later she'll open up. She's just a little shy and nervous.

[meowcatwoman]

What were you actually planning on doing with her in there? If it's just pashing, that's a fine request but if it was something like sex, I understand her reaction.

How close do you think you are to eachother? Does she 'do things' with you outside of school? Or was this just a one off thing?

[Asker]

I was hoping we would cuddle or maybe even have our first make out session.

[meowcatwoman]

Oh I see! So you have kissed before I'm guessing but haven't made out? Well listen to my advice. She had no idea what exactly you had installed. Also, make out with him in a more private area which won't get you two in trouble when you do your first make out session. She doesn't seem comfortable for at least the first time doing it in a random place. Girls are different, I would have found it hot. Good luck.

[Candy_Princess]

She could be feeling self-conscious; however she might just be uncomfortable. Was she like that before you started dating?

[Asker]

Nope. She was much more energetic and willing to be around me before we were dating.

[Candy_Princess]

Did you ask her about it?

[Asker]

No, I admit I'm kind of scared to. i don't want to pressure her

[Anonymous]

Might be something traumatic happened in her childhood so don't push it. Try to talk to her about it calmly maybe over facetime or something when you're both in a comfortable environment.

Just don't push someone to do something they don't wanna do.

[jakeofalltrades]

Has she been abused in a previous relationship, something like that will change how she reacts with other men

[Asker]

Ur right, her last relationship was a toughy.

[jakeofalltrades]

that might be your problem right there it isn't you, its from that

[jamaall89]

If your girlfriend is genuinely afraid to be alone with you, I can tell you that your relationship is going nowhere fast.