In guys opinions... What are the biggest turn offs?

[Anonymous]

What are some of the BIGGEST WORST turn offs for you guys? #girlsaskguys

[weegin]

For me, I look at how she treats other guys and girls first and foremost. Especially guys and girls she dislikes. If she gossips, spreads rumors, or worst of all insults people to their face out of spite, I will never date her or even consider her. I want a girl who treats people with respect, even people she doesn't like.

Second, I want her to look presentable relative to her natural beauty, but not be vain. If a girl tries to hide her face under makeup, her body under tattoos or accessorize with piercings (other than her ears), that's a big turn off. On the other hand, if she doesn't give a crap about her body at all, smells weird because she doesn't bathe, doesn't take care of her hair at all, et cetera, that is also a turn-off. I might be able to deal with this, unlike the first point of gossiping, but she would have a lot of making up to do with her other traits.

Third, if a girl never smiles, it makes it less fun to be around her. She should have a sense of humor, especially since making a girl you like smile and laugh is an amazing feeling. But again, I might be able to do without it.

Finally, I would like a girl who knows things. Book smarts are okay, but people smarts are better, especially since I have a lot more book smarts than people smarts. I would like her to know how to handle people and problems between people, especially us. If a girl is socially inept, it can be charming and cute sometimes in a clutzy sort of way, but other times it can just be frustrating.

I hope that helps!

[Asker]

Okay thank you soooo much. When you said how she treats other guys, what if she can't even talk to guys, like at all. What I mean by this is when she likes someone her face turns red, she giggles, and she can't speak without this stupid smile on her face, would that be okay?

[weegin]

Yes, I'm talking more in terms of I won't date someone who acts like a bitch. If she's just shy that's a whole different matter.

[Asker]

Okay thanks and by the way the "she" I kept referring to was me, do you think it is okay if I'm that shy?

[weegin]

Well, it depends. There's 'just nervous around other people' shy, and then there's 'I can't interact with other people on any level' shy.

[Asker]

It's only guys that I find remotely attractive...

[weegin]

Okay, well that's not really abnormal. When I was in middle and high school I had problems talking to girls I liked too, I was really shy around them and could hardly put together a sentence. If you're that way with EVERYONE though, well that would be hard to deal with lol.

[Asker]

haha okay thank you very much :)

[weegin]

No problem :)

[Insaan]

This is a common problem a guy might face in general.
*Too submissive.( i want girls to make her decisions too)
*Too emotional and sensitive.( instantly crying of a river even in minor incident)
*Who are very much focussed on external beauty with tootoo much makeup and eye liner.
*Girls who keep short hairs like guys do.
*mean girls who doesn't care for others and wanting the guy to do whatever she expects from him.
* Suspicious nature/ insecure nature. ( For ex:- a guy didn't picks her call and she declares it as actact of 'ignore'
* Some girls are very clingy. That' a turn Off.
( For ex:- Trying to keep in touch via messages like 24*7. If not replied, instantly calls and asks " why aren't you replying me?". Lol
* LAZINESS ( not generalising)
* Bitchiness. Some girls are very egoistic towards each other and men. They look down upon people for various reasons. Make a joke of them and bitch about it.
* Overweight girls
* If she is a smoker or parties too much with alcohol. It's a big turn off. ( ocassional drinks are fine!)
* sluttt tendency in women. Like having one night stands etc etc

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Rude behavior
Lack of restraint/poor self-control
Drama
Speaking poorly about other women (use the word "slut" around me, you are gone)
Speaking poorly about people behind their backs (and other such low-class behavior)
Lack of humor
Lack of intelligence
Lack of personal accountability and responsibility
Immaturity
Poor Hygiene
Poor health habits
Drunkenness
Drugs
Chip on her shoulder towards men
Chip on her shoulder toward women (you aren't fooling anyone)
Lack of elegance, grace, and charm (sadly very common)
Personal sloppiness (cleaning your room is not a sign of being oppressed by a patriarchy)
Jealousy
Disloyalty
Dishonesty
lack of integrity
Poor attitude
Lack of independence
Lack of real strength
Lack of kindness
Holds resentment
Judgmental
Poor fashion and style
Bad in bed

Could come up with more, but I think you get the picture.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Oh, forgot some that should definitely be there:

Lack of warmth
Poor communication skills
Poor relationships with her family
Game playing
Laziness
Partying

[Asker]

Okay thank you soo much :)

[Anonymous]

I'll be 100% honest. I've been going out on dates a lot during the past few weeks. I've been on 5, and I had my first successful date yesterday!

I really hate it when women do the following:

-Reply with 1 word texts

-When you make an effort during the date, and the woman still acts cold.

-When women don't ask anything about me prior to going on the date.

-When a woman doesn't make any effort to keep in touch with you.

Honestly... I've learned my lesson. If you do any of those things, I won't even waste my time with you.

Note to women: Men like women who are interesting and act interested. If you don't act interested, you won't find a good guy.

[Asker]

Okay thank you very much :)

[Anonymous]

Ugliness
Fatness
Nerdy girls with glasses
Infidelity - Cheaters, promiscuous, disloyal & slutty girls
Drug addicts, smokers and alcoholics
Passiveness, submissiveness, shyness, "girly girls", lack of initiative
Patriarchal narrow-mindedness: Old fashioned, bigotry, religious fanaticism

[Asker]

So u like out going girls?

[Opinion Owner]

Right - outgoing, sporty, dominant, assertive girls.

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[decemberxblue]

Copy and pasted from a recent conversation of mine:

"My turn-offs:

-has no goals in life
-promiscuous
-negative/pessimistic/always talks shit about others
-cheated before
-bigots
-party/club type
-does drugs
-extremely extroverted (Nothing against them we're just incompatible)
-materialistic
-poor self-control
-overly mature/rigid/stick up the ass
-plays games/tries to make me jealous. (1st class ticket to getting your ass left!!)"

[Asker]

Okay thank you so much :)

[decemberxblue]

You're welcome. :)

[PineappleBreath]

Teeth for number one seriously worst image when you have a boner is a vampire.
Apathy girls who don't give a shit what you do.
Prudes who aren't open to try new things
ice queens who never show affection.
The worst of all boring girls who aren't really a person and don't have anything to say

[Kyndra]

I have an overbite :(

[PineappleBreath]

That's fine I just mean when a girl is going down a guy teeth are extremely painful has nothing to do with an overbite

[Asker]

Okay thank you :)

[vet31bSoldier]

arguing.

I'm a fan of a sexually submissive woman. (only sexually, not overall, I don't want a damned slave)

So when I have to fight for something during sex... I immediately lose interest. Which kinda sucks, but it is what it is.

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[Marstalk]

Why not respect what she does and doesn't want to do?

[Marstalk]

A woman who favors patriarchal society! I am one who likes equality in and out of the bedroom. If she just lets me tell her everything or control everything it is a turn off, big time. I want her to be as aggressive as me.

Also if she can not talk about science or philosophy, come on read something other than your cosmos girls.

[justyournormalguy]

A girl has to be able to hold a conversation. Guys are expected to go for girls, and it is very hard when we try to be nice to you and you are to shy to recognize it. It also makes it super awkward to hang out with you.

[Asker]

So do you not like shy girls?

[justyournormalguy]

Shy girls are ok, but once I start talking with her, she has to be engaging or else I feel rejected.

[Asker]

Ohh okay thank you

[SomeoneImportant]

Over dramatic
No sense of humor
Air head- not necessarily stupidity, but says stupid/annoying shit
Loud and has no consideration for others
Limited vocabulary- for some reason that irritates the shit out of me.

[Asker]

Okay haha thanks and with the loudness, do u like shy girls better

[SomeoneImportant]

Yeah I like shy girls, but by loud I meant girls that don't care enough to use an appropriate tone of voice.

[Asker]

Ahh got it but okay thanks

[Tunakid]

Honestly I find too much make up a turn off, some is okay but too much turns me off.

Also girls who act too good for everyone else even though they're not.

[Asker]

Would no make up be a turn off?

[Tunakid]

Nah, no make up is great, shows that a girl isn't insecure about her looks.

[Asker]

Okay thank you :)

[Anonymous]

girls that have been around way too much as they say , girls that don't take care of their own body , girls who are rude and don't respect guys in general.

[Asker]

define not taking care of their body and don't respect guys

[Opinion Owner]

well on respect issue , I've had girls be rude to me over the years , sort of weren't interested in dating me but instead of being nice about things got mean and showed a complete lack of respect in the process. why would I want to put effort into getting to know someone who didn't even respect me?
as for taking care of body? some girls try harder than others , some don't try to look pretty or don't work out at all and get overweight. I used to go to the gym and never see any of the overweight girls from around town working out there , they don't even try to improve body image.

[Asker]

ahhh okay got it, and totally agree with the first part

[Ihav2fart]

Bad Hygienes
Closed-minded
Too wild (Parties too much)
No sense of humor
Too uptight
Overly religious
Pushy
Extremely Prudish

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[parkway]

Ink of any type, nasty way of speaking and over weight women.

[Asker]

Ink of any type?

[idontknowwwww]

I think he meant black?

[Asker]

Okay haha

[SatanClaus]

Girls who act tough, make fun of other people, fist fight, think that theyre above other people, think that they are HOT, smokers and drug users are major turnoffs.

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[TadCurious]

meanness
pettiness
inconsideration of others
piercings (except for pierced ears)
tattoos

[Asker]

Okay thank you

[Jersey1]

Someone who is shrill defined as "strong emotion or attitude in an exaggerated amount, as antagonism or defensiveness."

[TotallyAlmost]

Bad breath. Never stops talking. Gossiping all the time. Putting other girls down.

[Asker]

Okay thank you

[shadowarrior99]

Farts and burps, unless they are somehow made cute.

A girl who isn't motivated or ambitious.

[Asker]

Okay thank you :)

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Rude.
Stupid.
Talks too much.
Annoying.
Drama queen.
Smokes cigarettes.
Bad hygiene.
Atheist or agnostic.
Substance abuse.

[shouldnobetter]

When you get in PM conversations with someone and then they start asking for Gift Cards